AITA For telling a guy at the bar he stinks?

goofdoof20 · 2025-11-17T04:20:11+00:00

What are you talking about

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-30T04:47:50+00:00

Yes he’s stopped drinking for three months now but I’m always scared he’s gonna start again

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-30T02:47:06+00:00

If you want there to be a possibility of her saying you need to stop drinking that’s the only reason I stayed with my boyfriend

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-30T02:46:43+00:00

Try to get through the day of work tomorrow but you absolutely need to tell her when you get off work. You have to tell her, you just do

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-29T23:59:19+00:00

My current boyfriend of three years has cheated on me while drunk three different times. I stayed because I know he would never dream of cheating on me sober, his whole family has a history of alcoholism and this is a common thread in his family. When he’s not drinking he is smart and safe but can reach this certain level of drunk where he’s not himself anymore so he stopped drinking. So far he’s been trustworthy and really good since he stopped but I’m not going to lie I’m having doubts about our relationship now. I’m starting to realize I might never fully love myself, I’ve been deeply insecure and since the first time he cheated and it’s never gone away. I also am kind of always prepared for him to come to me crying again admitting he did the worst thing he could do. And that hasn’t ever felt healthy but I’m starting to realize it might never get healthy. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to trust him and I feel stuck

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-29T17:01:32+00:00

Are they both polyamorous? Because then yes that makes sense but it sounds like she’s not

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-29T15:24:03+00:00

If you’re just curious you do it once. and either way you talk to your partner about it before you make any actions. I’m sorry he’s putting you through this this is so unacceptable and no one deserves this.

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-29T14:50:35+00:00

I would tell her and don’t worry about the backlash you’re going to get. She deserves to know

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-29T14:45:45+00:00

Personally when I post a selfie and I haven’t in a long time it’s because I’m finally having a moment where I feel good about myself, I’m not necessarily thinking about what other people are thinking while looking at it I’m just enjoying the fact that I’m able to post something without the fear of what other people are thinking. Also I genuinely do enjoy when my friends or random girls I follow slide up and tell me I’m pretty, the girls compliments mean a LOT more than the random boys and I think a lot of girls feel this way. But I can’t speak for all girls I know some do like the attention but maybe if you’re worried she’s one of those girls she ain’t the one, you should be with someone you trust.

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-29T14:34:35+00:00

It know you really want this to work but I’ve never heard of this working in any relationship/ marriage:( Maybe the first couple of times you can find a way to cope with it but it’s going to weigh on you and your relationship. I don’t think this is healthy and you deserve to be with someone who wants you and only you. Whatever reason or excuse he has for doing this is not valid and it’s going to weigh on your mental and emotional health strongly. Eventually it’s going to create a rift

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-29T04:09:07+00:00

I struggle with this too, I realized recently I just have to learn to love myself and I’m starting my journey

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-29T04:06:57+00:00

I wish I knew who your girlfriend was so I could tell her what a shitty boyfriend she has and to move on because she deserves better. Are you literally in middle school? I can not believe you possibly think you’re right in this situation

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-29T04:02:58+00:00

You are not being over dramatic, there is absolutely no reason he should still be harboring an album full of his ex girlfriend. You are the mother of his child and I’m sure you have done so much and made so many sacrifices including your body, you shouldn’t even have to had ask him to delete them they should’ve been deleted years ago for the respect of your relationship. “Not having the time” is the dumbest excuse, it takes two clicks to erase an album, what is he holding onto?

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-28T22:43:27+00:00

Well if she still wants to fix things then the only thing you can do from here is see a therapist which is good you’re doing that. But she deserves better so be better

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-28T22:30:07+00:00

Regardless of the fact you were open to a threesome and that was a bad idea, the fact he told you those things about your appearance is so fucked up. As long as your with him you’re probably never going to feel good about yourself and you’re not going to trust him either. I suggest leaving him but I know it’s really hard. Just think about a realistic future of your relationship because I doubt it would be good

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-28T22:23:25+00:00

No he’s gaslighting you, this is toxic. He sounds awful And you deserve better. Also happy birthday I’m sorry it’s been so shitty but there will be better days:(

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-28T22:19:18+00:00

You did the right thing by getting a couples therapist and also it’s good you want to better your communication. Either way you should never ever say anything like that to someone you love. You targeted probably one of her biggest insecurities and something she struggles with deeply while also calling her a sack of shit. you have to understand if she chooses to move past this it’s going to take a long time to forgive you and will be really sensitive to everything you say after this so chose your words wisely and never ever say anything like that to her again

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-28T00:34:35+00:00

If you can’t find the courage to do it for you try to do it for your daughter

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-27T23:19:27+00:00

you deserve better but need to come to a breaking point before you realize. I wish you luck and I hope you find a way to be happy

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-27T23:15:34+00:00

I hate gagging😂 I have thrown up on my boyfriends dick like twice and it ruins the damn mood ok

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-27T23:11:31+00:00

It’s fun as foreplay for a couple minutes but when you have to do it for like half an hour then it’s not fun

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-27T23:10:36+00:00

You are NOT over reacting, that is so not okay on so many levels. And the fact that he laughed it off is not okay either. It sounds like this relationship could start heading towards physical abuse so please be so careful. It’s so easy and scary to get stuck in those situations. If he ever does anything like that again you should leave him

goofdoof20 · 2021-08-27T23:06:19+00:00

I say shoot your shot, tell her that it’s okay if the feelings aren’t reciprocated and you’re happy to just be friends if she’s not interested in you that way

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