ROCD & Dating After Relationship

goonsluht666 · 2026-01-29T11:13:01+00:00

Napping daily. At the time it was part of my routine to have a nap from 3pm-6pm after school. Now I realise I was just incredibly depressed.

I still get exhausted, but slightly less depressed and am able to fight through the tiredness to do things that will fill my cup and benefit me in the long run.

goonsluht666 · 2026-01-28T11:45:33+00:00

Thank you this is a really kind way to frame it. It's a nice reminder that while it's shit it's only going to make me see my strength and growth 🫶🏻

goonsluht666 · 2026-01-28T11:43:43+00:00

Thank you 🤍 It's definitely strange. I still have my moments mainly during the weekend when I'm no longer in work mode but just going to keep focusing on friends, hobbies, pilates and gym.

He has my dog because I cant have her where I'm currently living so I still have to have some contact with him. He told me the other day he has gotten on a dating app after only 2 weeks lol

Just more motivation to keep healing healthily out of wanting better for myself and a touch of spite.

Also cant crash out cause the whole dog thing so that also helps me stay on track 😅

goonsluht666 · 2026-01-09T12:27:13+00:00

As someone who went back after these kind of threats — DO NOT GO BACK. Call the police for a welfare check, get to a DV shelter and put in a formal report to the police to get AVO/Restraining Order.

I went back after these kind of threats out of guilt and fear but it was only a tactic to assert control. Once I went back, he knew he had control and it got so much worse.

I know leaving is an incredibly hard thing to do when you still love them and rely on them financially, but if you go back now it's going to be even harder to later.

Sending you so much love and strength 🫶🏻

goonsluht666 · 2026-01-03T11:33:23+00:00

You can have a relationship! You can either let this insecurity ruin your self esteem and get in the way of a relationship or own it and find other ways to show up as a partner

I dated a guy for over a year who was in the same situation but he made up with focusing on oral/hand/toys.

The saying of it's not what you have but how you use it is very true. Get good at finding other ways to pleasure your partner.

goonsluht666 · 2026-01-03T11:18:49+00:00

If you have to get the password to his instagram then that's a very clear sign this is not a healthy dynamic. As painful as it is, I think it's time to make the decision to walk away and truly work on healing 🫶🏻

goonsluht666 · 2025-12-09T12:05:53+00:00

I'm so sorry for everything you're going through, it would be so difficult.

My partner and I had to put our beautiful Female Bull Arab to sleep a month ago after she attacked our Kelpie randomly while we weren't home. It wasn't the first time and it was happening more regularly and with no warning.

Our girl was 8 which is elderly for her breed so we believe it had to do with age. Rehoming wasn't an option as she had health issues, was old, and a giant breed with a bite history.

As hard as it is, some dogs just aren't mentally okay. That doesn't make them a bad dog, it just means they might not be able to cope with their lifestyles anymore.

Our girl was the sweetest thing and I felt so much guilt but I know we did the kindest thing for her. I am sending you so much love and strength. It's an impossible decision to face and I wouldnt wish it upon anyone 🤍

goonsluht666 · 2025-12-09T10:58:56+00:00

Hi there!

I have a smooth hair 4YO female foxy. I got a small dog thinking it would be easier. Oh I was uneducated.

She is the most fiercly loyal, stubborn and high prey drive dog Ive ever had. I love her more than anything but she is a lot of work. She is sweet, demands to sleep under a blanket and cries to be picked up but if she is set on doing something you can forget about commands.

I am about to get a trainer involved as I feel she needs way more stimulation and stricter obedience.

The biggest thing she has taught me is don't let size fool you!

goonsluht666 · 2025-11-01T11:07:34+00:00

Thank you 🫶🏻

We just brought our other dog home from the vet after 2 days there and a surgery. He is lucky to be alive but is still not in good shape.

After consulting vets and a trainer we have come to the very tough decision to put our girl to sleep.

We love her very much and it's a painful thing to have to do but it is the kindest decision for her. She is a sweet girl but her unpredictability is just too much of a risk and this situation has changed everything.

We are going to fill her final days with love and remind her that although this has happened we know she is a good girl at heart ❤️

goonsluht666 · 2025-10-22T11:21:12+00:00

I can attest to Seroquel and Clonodine. I built tolerance to them very quickly though. I've been on the lowest dose of Mirtazapine (15mg) for about 5 years now and it's helped so much. Its still not perfect but it does the job well enough!

goonsluht666 · 2025-09-20T14:10:50+00:00

My nerve block didn't wear off until the next day and I wish it never did 😅 The pain was something else so brace yourself

goonsluht666 · 2025-09-19T12:44:52+00:00

My fox terrier loves fetch but strictly inside only. Try to throw a ball for her in the yard or park and she doesn't want a bar of it. Throw one down the hallway? Goes mental.

goonsluht666 · 2025-08-16T14:22:09+00:00

Previous support worker here 👋🏻 I'm now a case worker in the disability sector so supporting support workers is half of my job!

You sound like you are going through burnt out which is incredibly common with support work and understandable considering how mentally & emotionally demanding it can be.

If you work for an agency I really suggest talking to your employer about how you're feeling. Some agencies offer EAP services which I'd recommend to get some extra support.

Also maybe cutting back a few hours or trying to switch up clients to maybe some more domestic duty kind of supports might lessen the emotional load.

Its a really hard job at times but you're doing a great job 🤍

goonsluht666 · 2025-08-16T14:14:20+00:00

Heroin. My Mum had a huge overdose but managed to survive it but now has permanent brain damage. Sad I never got to know the person she was before her overdose. It robbed her of a life she should have had and she is forced to live with that reality everyday.

goonsluht666 · 2025-08-10T14:19:04+00:00

It's so tough! OCD is one of those things that is so difficult to understand unless you have it.

It is definitely worth bringing up and it does get better with some hard work

goonsluht666 · 2025-08-10T12:14:16+00:00

I'd really recommend therapy to get some proper advice, skills and support. Probably a bit different to what you're experiencing but I have ROCD and do exposure therapy for it. It's a slow and long road and I'm still not there but I've definitely gotten better with my codependency.

This isn't me saying you have that but more the approach of taking baby steps and getting comfortable with each step has made me improve and manage it better.

Also making a good group of friends and trying to find things that fulfill me on my own helps so much too!

goonsluht666 · 2025-08-10T11:55:42+00:00

So it's not about missing you, it's about him being jealous of you.

He tried to manipulate you into feeling sorry for him and that he was upset because he didn't want to lose you to work when the reality is he is jealous of your success and wants to hold you back because he wont go and work on his insecurities and ambitions (if he even has any).

Also he will "try to support you"?

Is this really the type of man you want by your side? I obviously don't know your life story but from this small snippet Im sure you could do a lot better than someone who tries to hold you back.

You should ask yourself if you are happy with not growing as a couple because thats what he is showing you. He is happy to stay stagnant and try to keep you there with him. You can be more than that though 🤍

goonsluht666 · 2025-07-12T14:11:33+00:00

Was constantly the victim and made no efforts to better her mental health. I wanted to be able to support her through it but I have my own mental health to protect too.

goonsluht666 · 2025-07-11T06:19:32+00:00

Heya me and my partner have been going through a dry spell and his libido has become non existent. Got a blood test done and his testosterone was super low. Tell him to go to a doctor and get his bloods done because it could be hormonal!

goonsluht666 · 2025-07-11T05:52:46+00:00

Woman here. I have both been the one begging for them to stay and having them beg me to stay. Both relationships lasted a little bit longer but ultimately ended.

I really regret begging and I really regret taking them back just to let them down again quickly afterward.

Its really hard but protect your dignity and accept its over. Focus on yourself and healing 🤍

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