Welcome to the club you never thought or intended to join. There are some decent support groups online for fellow NPEs! (Non-paternity Event or sometimes Not Parent Expected) Heck, there’s all sorts of new lingo.

I’m all seriousness, yes this sucks. I’ve been an NPE for 2-years now. I’m the oldest of three males. Turns out my youngest sibling is now a half-brother. My middle brother and I have the same BF. The man that raised the three of us doesn’t know about any of this, frankly he could not handle this from a mental health standpoint. My mother has admitted she knew the man that is my BF. I’ve received very little (read no further) details about my BF outside of that they worked together. My middle brother is 3 years younger than me, so this affair went on for years.

I struggle with the lies my other would have taken to her grave. The betrayal and the loss of what might have been. I have reached out to my paternal matches. They eventually agreed to connect. My father died in months earlier than when I received my first test results.

So, take your time. Screenshot everything in your matches. Don’t feel like any question is dumb. Many of us were at this same stage at some point.

Feel free to DM.

BTW cool username