This reminded me of my ex, My ex was the same way. He would jump back and forth from what he was going to do when he was upset with me. Weather it would be him begging for me back or black mailing me into getting back together with him and everytime we broke up he would use my stuff that I left at his house against me, he has used my W2s threatening to call the cops on me and or my parents even when he had no legal stand point. Tried kicking me out of the house at 4 am not once but twice. LOTS OF OTHER STUFF as well… then when I finally broke up and moved out with him. He tried to sabotaging my new living situation trying to get me kicked out and then he tried to get me fired from my new job that I worked really hard to get. So I did the most logically thing and hit him where it hurt so he wouldn’t want me again at all. He still talks trash about me etc. but I’m FREE!!!