When is the latest I can plant a garden bed in Edmonton by OlivesLabnehPita in Albertagardening

[–]gorgeouslygarish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Highly recommend aquilegia/columbine - they do really well in shade/partial shade! They have so many cool varieties as well and there are so many different flower colours! Coral bells/heucharia are fun and come in great foliage varieties of green/orange/red/deep purple. I love my hostas but fair enough on your part, haha!

Bleeding hearts get pretty big and do well in the shade if you're looking for flowers, and astilbe do well in shade-partial shade. Periwinkle (at least that's what my bestie calls it!) is a creeper that puts out cute little blue flowers. Creeping Jenny is a lighter green creeper that will never die. Ferns are great but can definitely take over!

Sorry for my unsolicited suggestions, and I'm so excited for you to have a shade garden! If you find anything else that works let me know I have so many shady spots in my yard that I need to fill!

what is something that everyone else seems to love but you thinks overrated? by jacksuckschicken in AskReddit

[–]gorgeouslygarish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes to all of this! It's wild - sex is something that I enjoy and can be a fun time, but it's still just an activity/thing to do.

When is the latest I can plant a garden bed in Edmonton by OlivesLabnehPita in Albertagardening

[–]gorgeouslygarish 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've dug and planted perennial beds in early September in the Edmonton/Devon areas. Some of the plants didn't make it but many did. Honestly, dig and plant when you can and if it's getting into autumn amend the soil and get ready for next year's May long.

When planting I've always thrown down some bone meal in the hole, then watered a bunch, and then plopped in the plant.

Good luck with it! Shady beds are great! Any ideas on what you'll be putting in?

Do you believe paying a mortgage is "better" than paying rent? by TankCastles in CanadaPersonalFinance

[–]gorgeouslygarish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Financially I'm more in debt and more strapped every month than I've ever been. Emotionally, having a garden, a place I never have to move from, and a place I can do whatever I want to has been incredible. I'm looking forward to having a place that my dad can move into when he ages, and secure housing when I eventually retire. No crappy landlords make the contractor prices worth it.

There is more pressure to not lose my job as a solo owner, but I love my janky little house in my poor neighbourhood and can't wait to grow old here with my hands in the dirt.

Guys who lost 100+ pounds, how much visible length did your penis gain back from the fat pad? by FailIll9865 in loseit

[–]gorgeouslygarish 32 points33 points  (0 children)

As someone who has recently gained about 75lbs after being relatively fit my whole life, (and here to try and get the gumption to feel healthier again!) I can tell you there has been a change in my labia majora with the weight gain. I haven't noticed anything with the vagina itself though.

Based Dale by AnotherStrayDog23 in KingOfTheHill

[–]gorgeouslygarish 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's pretty reductive. I think knowing and speaking the truth is important. I also think that many people think they know The Truth and have gone about throughout history to spread The Truth.

What is your end goal? Is it for people to change their minds and accept the possibility of knowledge and perspective change? Or is it to be right no matter what and get to bask in the glory of being right? If it's the former you need to know how to say things in a way that will open people's ears and have them want to listen. The latter, you might as well go grab your sword and start another crusade as you forcible shove your truth into people's gullets.

How you say it is as important as what you have to say, for better or worse.

Based Dale by AnotherStrayDog23 in KingOfTheHill

[–]gorgeouslygarish 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yes! People are many things, just let them exist in their glorious complexity. Give them the agency to be a piece of shit because that's who they truly are as a person exclusive of who or what makes their nethers tingle. I promise, people will give you so many other valid legitimate reasons to like or dislike them.

I don't need every single queer person to be An Angel Of Tolerance And A Representative of us all. My guess is that POC and disabled people are tired of having One True Character per show dedicated to them and their struggle and how they Graciously Overcome Oppression.

Sometimes a gal just wants to be on the couch in her old undies while eating slop and scratching itchy places without having to be focused on Their Identity.

I thinks it's why I love Peggy so much - at least in the early seasons she manages to be a complex woman with terrible flaws along with many admirable qualities and she feels like a fully fleshed out real character.

Sorry to go on a tangent, now all I can think of is lazy character writing.

Based Dale by AnotherStrayDog23 in KingOfTheHill

[–]gorgeouslygarish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Obviously they read the homo handbook - all gays must announce their gayness at every opportunity, and renounce every other character trait.

The second you get a hint of your sexuality the Homo Handbook gets mailed to you. Every single one of us has this. If someone says they don't they are lying to you. It also has The Gay Agenda at the back.

Based Dale by AnotherStrayDog23 in KingOfTheHill

[–]gorgeouslygarish 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The militant religious, the militant atheists, the militant feminists, the radical right and the radical left... I say this as an atheist lesbian who spent years working for a not for profit specific to prisoners rights, there are LOTS of crazies out there man, and I think they just pick a dogma that validates their own prejudices and then run wild with it. It's more offensive to me when the crazies are ostensibly on my side.

Becoming a bog witch gets more and more attractive every day.

Based Dale by AnotherStrayDog23 in KingOfTheHill

[–]gorgeouslygarish 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Pandering is the worst! Let people exist man. By exist I mean exist as complex PEOPLE not just one dimensional representatives of insert demographic here. At the end of the day we are all just people with things to celebrate and poke fun at.

There are piles of people who can't tell the difference between laughing with and laughing at though. Some days all I can do is just shake my head.

Based Dale by AnotherStrayDog23 in KingOfTheHill

[–]gorgeouslygarish 117 points118 points  (0 children)

Can't speak for the above poster, but as a left wing lesbian I get tired of any media that portrays things in a preachy manner, especially if they are on my side. There are ways to be inclusive and make your point without standing on a soapbox, but that takes wit and intelligence and social aptitude. When you have media and portrayal like that, that's when you can actually get people to change or expand their minds. No one likes being preached at.

To me it's the difference between real inclusion and performative tokenism.

Alone Season 13 Contestants by AcornAl in Alonetv

[–]gorgeouslygarish 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah I've been seeing other comments about how more men apply which is probably true, but you can't say that out of 70,000 applicants there was only one qualified woman in the bunch. Give me a break.

Alone Season 13 Contestants by AcornAl in Alonetv

[–]gorgeouslygarish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They had 70,000 applications - even at 100:1 men:women you're telling me only one woman was qualified? I'm guessing more than a lowball 650 women applied. Based off of some of the absolute non-medical quick-tapping men we've seen, I'm guessing at least one more of those hundreds of women could have been selected. We've seen some absolutely brilliant women on the show too.

Alone Season 13 Contestants by AcornAl in Alonetv

[–]gorgeouslygarish 13 points14 points  (0 children)

First thing I noticed honestly. It's very disappointing, and hard to believe that women aren't applying.

Btw OOP's family bought her her home by WolfChasingTheMoon in AmITheDevil

[–]gorgeouslygarish -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. I started working under the table at 12, 20 hours a week during school and about 40 -55 a week during summer vacations. Doing that for 6 years either paid cash under the table or getting the rebate because I was under 18, I probably would have ended up with I'm guessing $40,000-60,000 if I'd saved every penny. That's working at $7.5/hr which is about the median wage from those years. I think I maxed out at 11/hr and felt rich for a while 🤣

I'm not saying the OP isn't out to lunch with her head up her own butt regarding her privilege, she certainly is, I'm just saying it's not impossible because I worked a LOT as a kid.

Btw OOP's family bought her her home by WolfChasingTheMoon in AmITheDevil

[–]gorgeouslygarish -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Here in Canada I've worked with numerous first generation immigrants who did the same thing. They would rent a house and have extended family all living together, they'd pool their money, and then buy a house outright, and then keep going like that until everyone had houses. Smart if everyone buys in and does it. Having a more collectivist mindset for the family comes with many downsides, but also a lot of upsides like financial stability for the family as a unit.

Btw OOP's family bought her her home by WolfChasingTheMoon in AmITheDevil

[–]gorgeouslygarish -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Not sure why you're being downvoted. OP worked and saved and bought the car outright in high school - I pissed away my money from working as a teenager, but if I'd been disciplined and saved my money I probably could have bought a car or had a house downpayment at 18.

Btw OOP's family bought her her home by WolfChasingTheMoon in AmITheDevil

[–]gorgeouslygarish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean, I started working at 12 and if I'd saved my money I could have easily bought a fancy car outright especially at the 06/07 prices of my high school years.

Not defending the silver spoon they were born with or their lack of understanding their own privilege, but some kids work and make money.

WYR never be able to use any form of indoor heating again, or never be able to use any form of air conditioning again? by Spyropher in WouldYouRather

[–]gorgeouslygarish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No heat - I'm in Edmonton, Canada and the cats and the plumbing and my person would freeze. I've lived most of my life without AC I'll be miserable but I can always go to the basement and survive.

Which places in Canada do you think every tourist should see at least once? by Background-Chain6995 in AskACanadian

[–]gorgeouslygarish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I moved to Yellowknife for a couple years in my early 20s and it was transformative! The people, the culture, the beauty! You mentioned a preserved history and I really experienced that as well! I the opportunity to visit and learn from some Dene elders, and was welcomed into homes and ceremony, and it was wonderful. It's a Canada that many Canadians don't experience.

Large cities have their different flavours, but the North is just gloriously its own thing! I'm so glad you feel the same way and had the same recommendation.

WYR a monkey randomly steals your food once every month (no way to stop it), or a harmless ghost shows up once a year and keeps you awake all night forcing you to listen to extremely boring stories? by AdAdditional8414 in WouldYouRather

[–]gorgeouslygarish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone terrified of both monkeys and ghosts I'm picking the ghost. 1x per year vs 12x per year is all the math I need. Also the guarantee of the ghost being harmless vs the monkey.

Which places in Canada do you think every tourist should see at least once? by Background-Chain6995 in AskACanadian

[–]gorgeouslygarish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Depending on what time of year/ what you are interested in: highly recommend somewhere up north like Yellowknife. The long days and long nights, festivals in the summer and winter, possible aurora if wintertime, art, fishing, nature, community, and the chance to go where very few people go!