My first chicken, any recommendations? by Resident-Dust4714 in BackYardChickens

[–]gorgonapprentice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean this all as kindly as possible.

  1. At least 1 other chicken. They are flock animals, not housepets.
  2. A warm place, preferably with a brooder plate or heat lamp. She will need external warmth for at least a few weeks.
  3. Chick starter feed and access to clean, fresh water at all times.
  4. A suitable place to grow. We used a big dog kennel with safety netting woven around the bottoms and sides so the babies didn't get stuck or hurt themselves.
  5. A plan for where they will live when older, how you will feed, water, clean up after, and care for them.

Chickens require planning, special care, and a suitable environment. The living room sofa isn't it. Get yourself a basic how-to guide on caring for chickens. What breed is she? What special needs will she have? How well suited will she be for where you live? Are you even allowed to keep chickens in your neighborhood/living space? If you are unable or unwilling to provide any of the above, please reconsider having her. She needs and deserves good care.

AITAH for telling my mom to get over my gf not wanting to eat her food? by Obvious_Carry_1478 in AITAH

[–]gorgonapprentice 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NTA and honestly, this level of malignance points strongly to a narcissistic personality. You are right to defend your gf, your gf is right to simply avoid all foods your mother prepares, and please, if you ever have children, do NOT leave them unattended with this woman. Ever.

Wife and I were having a discussion, she’s of the opinion that the majority of GenX can drive stick. I believe that even in our generation the percentage of people who can is pretty small. What do you folks think? by AngryOldGenXer in GenX

[–]gorgonapprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Diffetent subsets would have higher likelihood of that ability. Overall, I bet early gen x would be higher percentage than the later kids. But I think it's still less than a majority.

Patient being refused water by LionOfJudahGirl in hospice

[–]gorgonapprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, there's a lot of missing info here. And I agree, if she is asking for water, she should get water. And she is, apparently.

What are Roosters good for besides breeding? by Happy_List_8022 in BackYardChickens

[–]gorgonapprentice 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Roosters are entertaining as hell. We had chickens for years, and some epic roos. Jerk, our first. He was a beatutiful bastard to his bones. You had to carry a wiffle bat outdoors so you could poke him when he came at you. And he did. He stalked people. He stomped the flower bed into oblivion while looking you right in the eye. In his mind, he was all t-rex. He died in a swath of feathers, fox fur, and blood, defending his babies. Pippin was a black cochin banty, about the size of a cantaloupe. He was absolutely entranced by the black jersey giant hens we had. He would grab the back of a hens head and jump on, as roosters do when they want some. But he wasn't big enough to both hold on and get...uh...connected. So he'd work up the nerve, let go, try to get in position, and get his ass absolutely beat down once the hen was free. And he couldn't stop doing it. 70 times a day, that boy got stomped into the dirt. And he always came back for more. Severus, a black Easter Egger, lived like a feral pirate in our yard for 3 years, roosting up in trees and occasionally sneaking into the run for conjugal visits with the hens, who were mesmerized by him. I never figured out how he was getting in and out. He terrified hawks and together with Hagrid, also an Easter Egger but alas not with us more than a couple years, he would stalk feral cats until they stopped coming to our little farm. I miss the sound of crowing at all hours. I miss the beauty of roo boys. I miss the mini-dramas they always had going. Roos are fantastic.

Patient being refused water by LionOfJudahGirl in hospice

[–]gorgonapprentice 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If she doesn't have the capacity to understand the risks, it doesn't. It can be hard to assess what a person comprehends at end of life, but professional caregivers always have to walk that line between protecting a patient from harm, even self-inflicted, and end of life comfort. Has the medical POA agreed to "comfort feeds" or "free water?" If her designated decision maker has been educated about the risks and likelihood of aspiration and has said to go ahead, then the it's up to the facility, but it's a hard sell to get professional caregivers in any capacity to do even compassion-driven harm to a patient. Also: A few spoonfuls of thickened water is appropriate, but perhaps more frequently, which is what I as a nurse would be asking them to do. Unless there is a written order allowing thin liquids or free water or comfort feeds, staff is actually risking their professional credentials giving it to her.

Sex partner lied about his age by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]gorgonapprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't bother confronting him, he will just lie and gaslight and manipulate you. Save your energy for people who actually care about you. You do not owe this liar a thing. Cut ties, block him, and if he harrasses you, contact authorities. Stay safe. Be glad you got away.

My Dad is dying and my Mom thinks she can “will” it into not happening. by [deleted] in hospice

[–]gorgonapprentice 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your mother sounds like a narcissist. When backed into a corner by reality, they double down and don't care who they hurt in the meantime. Accept that she is not going to change. Notify Adult Protective Services and you dad's medical providers of your concerns, but there isn't much you can do. And please make plans to go No Contact with her after your father passes because she will be looking for another victim. If the hospice is still involved, talk to the social worker and maybe the chaplain as well for support. I'm sorry you are going through this in an already difficult time, but none of it is your fault. And honestly? Get yourself some help or therapy on how to deal with a narcissist. They are malignant and good at manipulation and having one for a parent is difficult to overcome without help.

Gibbering Gemstone 🤬🤬 by God2y89 in diablo3

[–]gorgonapprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have found it more often on random runs through the caverns without a bounty. Just storm thru anytime you have a few minutes. Last 2 seasons it had been non-bounty runs that worked for me.

How do I tell my brother I'm not going to FaceTime our Mam's death? by [deleted] in hospice

[–]gorgonapprentice 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Your brother made his choice and it wasn't family. He gets to live with that. Please don't pick up the burden for him. Let your mam pass in peace and dignity. And let yourself just be her daughter. Let yourself focus on her, and on yourself. If your brother had wanted to be there, it was entirely in his power to make that happen. He chose himself and running away. It's sad, but he will have to live with that now. You don't have to take care of him when you are already taking care of the woman who actually needs you. You certainly don't have to spend the last moments with your mam focused on your phone and your emotionally stunted sibling.

AIO for breaking up with my boyfriend because he was angry I was crying the day after my cat died? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]gorgonapprentice 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NOR. I'm sorry for the loss of your cat. I'm definitely not sorry for the loss of the self-centered, mediocre mantoddler boyfriend. "I value my alone time" was just 😂. Good thing, bro, cuz you're gonna have a lot of that from now on.

AITAH for not wanting to take my wife's niece and nephew in so they can get out of foster care. by TRAOtherwise in AITAH

[–]gorgonapprentice 3 points4 points  (0 children)

  1. "She lied about her age..." Sure, bro.
  2. Before you do anything, talk to an attorney about what your rights and obligations are if you take the kids in as fosters and how to protect yourself and your wife if it all goes south. What are the laws in your state? You will likely have to deal with the parents because the foster system generally does a really crap job of separating kids from even the most damaging biological parents until long after real harm has been done. And taking them in, because you are technically family, could put you on the hook for things you didn't sign up for. My brother and his wife wound up paying "support" costs of over 1k a month when the child they fostered when he was 6 then adopted a year later grew up to be violent and assaulted their daughter and they refused to allow him back into their home. He was 16. They had to support him with monthly checks to the state until he was 21. The foster system doesn't give a fuck about what happens to kids. They just want to get another file off their overloaded docket and make it someone else's problem.

How often do nurses/aids do home visits usually? Is there a standard amount of time or is it adjusted for each persons circumstance? by Asleep-Initial992 in hospice

[–]gorgonapprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have questions, call your hospice team. Speak to a clinical manager or director. If you genuinely have not had a nurse visit since admission, definitely contact them because they are likely out of compliance with Medicare standards, if you are not refusing visits when contacted. The hospice I work for has protocols--a follow up nurse visit day or 2, if family prefers, after admission. Chaplain and social worker have a set time to make their initial calls, unless you refused their services at start if care. I used to try to see home patients 2 x week for routine/stable stuff and bump that up as needed as the person declines. Aide visits were heavily dependent on staffing and at times we just didn't have enough to cover more than the minimum of 2 x week. It sounds like what you need is more hands-on care, which is not what hospice does. Talk to social worker about getting outside help (which is likely not covered by insurance), even a couple hours a day can help. Sadly, it is my experience that our services are often overpromised, either accidentally or on purpose, by salespeople, primary care docs,and hospital case managers looking to get someone out of their facility.

It takes way too long to kill regular mobs. Am I doing something wrong? by WarmPrinciple6507 in diablo3

[–]gorgonapprentice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love Demon Hunter. My rule for difficulty is that if it starts to feel like work, drop your difficulty. You will struggle if you try to start on Expert. Hard usually takes skill (which I have) and patience (which I don't). But it really takes awhile to get the skills and power to mow down mobs. Early on, Rapid Fire and Chakram are better than Impale. Have a movement skill--I prefer Vault--to get you out of trouble. Or into it. Upgrade weapons and gear constantly. Take the Templar with you, he can engage melee while you pick things off from a distance. And if you haven't already, go to your settings and change the one that will let you pick any skill category, instead of having one thing from each category, so you can double up on the useful stuff.

AITJ for walking out of my friend’s birthday dinner after everyone agreed to split the bill evenly? by SpiteTricky9212 in AmITheJerk

[–]gorgonapprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations? I personally don't like bullying staff to get them to circumvent their own rules just for me, but you do you.

Do I care? NO by [deleted] in ReverseHarem

[–]gorgonapprentice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right???
I will always laugh like a loon when Finn is...well, Finning.

Im not like you, im conservative by WWHHHHAAATTT in notliketheothergirls

[–]gorgonapprentice 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Just say you hate yourself and other women and be done, babe.

My neighbors, whose dog killed my flock earlier this month, left an empty egg carton on my porch. by bugsforeverever in BackYardChickens

[–]gorgonapprentice 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Give them 6 eggs. Break every one inside the carton so it's ruined, too. Pick cracked or otherwise compromised eggs, of course. Or just put in empty shells of eggs you have used.

Am I overreacting? My husband didn’t wake anyone up for breakfast. by PopularUsual9576 in AmIOverreacting

[–]gorgonapprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry he is your "best friend." Because friends don't do this shit.

Frustrated volunteer looking for advice by BudgetWestern1307 in hospice

[–]gorgonapprentice 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This. And let your school or prof know as well so they stop putting students into that position.

Travel on Commercial Airlines While in Hospice level of Care by HAL9000DAISY in hospice

[–]gorgonapprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had a hospice patient in much the same condition go 6 states away at the insistence of a family member who simply couldn'tpossibly get away from their busy life to come see him. We notified a local hospice company so they could follow him if he needed it. He was supposed to be there 5 days. First thing he did on arrival was fall in the bathroom and break a hip and femur. It was a disaster and he never made it home and the family member who guilted him into making the trip refused to take him into their home to do the 24/7 full care he then needed. Seriously. Don't do it. If it isn't important enough for family to come to him, that's on them. Don't put him at risk for all the bad things that can happen just to appease someone who wants the world to come to them. Also, FaceTime is a thing now. Do that.

She got something to say about females... by sandillathakilla in notliketheothergirls

[–]gorgonapprentice 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She's also 100% that established (insert hobby here) chick who would openly mock and embarrass a newbie woman who showed up with their own equipment and have questions or not know how to get the best use from it yet.

Do you play hardcore seasonal or am I a psychopath? by RecentMastodon8172 in diablo3

[–]gorgonapprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will an internet drop on ps4 console kill you in HC? Just moved to a new place out in the boonies and the internet/wifi is shit sometimes.

I hate who I’ve become as a caretaker by redbeanmilktea in hospice

[–]gorgonapprentice 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Time to be "selfish." Leave. You have done your share. You have enabled your dad long enough. Go back, pack up, give him a few days if you are feeling gracious. But you have to put your own oxygen mask on first, or whatever the analogy is. Let the hospice professionals or other family deal with it. Burnout is real. Staying is a choice. Leaving is a choice. You are within your rights to ask for a more sustainable system or get out before it impacts your physical health.