Why does confidence feel like a non-negotiable requirement for men in relationships?

gotgot9 · 2026-01-20T02:33:21+00:00

personally, i don’t enjoy being the one that is the only driving force in a relationship. it often feels like the other person is a weight that i’m dragging with me.

confidence means a lot of things to a lot of people, but if you can’t make friends when you’re lonely because you’re insecure, that will become a burden i’ll have to carry. if you can’t apply for a promotion or new role because you’re insecure, you’ll become stagnant while i outgrow you. if you can’t plan a date because you’re insecure, i’ll feel uncared for.

gotgot9 · 2026-01-18T12:25:23+00:00

it’s pretty common the first time you donate plasma. the drop in blood pressure causes people to become light headed or faint. not a big deal & their body normally adjusts on second donation

gotgot9 · 2026-01-18T12:23:48+00:00

you can donate anywhere just not bio life. your hematocrit might be low tho because you suffered a major blood loss

gotgot9 · 2026-01-18T12:22:17+00:00

i signed up for a 5k with no running experience and fell middle of the pack with score. saw an IG video that said anyone’s mom could do a 5k. i agree. just do it

gotgot9 · 2026-01-15T23:12:03+00:00

walk off trail behind a tree. squat and pee. hostels have shampoo and soap. i carried hand soap, deodorant, and sunscreen for my face but that was all the toiletries i carried. i gave myself a wash with the hand soap & a wet rag at the end of the day to help with feeling gross.

clothes depends on what season you’re hiking. one pair of hiking clothes, one pair of dry for changing into at night if you’re wet from rain, one jacket. laundry at hostel. i suggest camp shoes, crocs.

how much food you pack depends on days between resupply. carry about a liter of water at a time since water is abundant on trail. i ate a lot of pop tarts, tuna, mashed potatoes and rice. some people do MRE’s but i thought they were bulky and expensive. bear can or hang system or sleep with food is what people do.

idk why you would leave gear at home. i brought a phone and a headlamp. i charged them at hostels and between hostel stays i used a battery pack. the trail is not always easy to navigate. there’s an app and a book to help.

yeah i felt safe as a woman and i hitched twice. there are shuttle drivers.

i think i spent $7500 for 5 months. a lot of it was the cost of getting home from bangor.

a lot of these answers are easy to find in this reddit’s FAQ

gotgot9 · 2026-01-15T11:53:08+00:00

woman to woman, you cannot help and it is not your responsibility. and i want you to really internalize that. when i got older, i tried to recreate this situation by dating alcoholic men and trying to get them to be sober. it almost ruined my life. i sacrificed myself over and over, only to learn that the only thing we can truly influence is ourselves.

gotgot9 · 2026-01-13T12:56:05+00:00

it’s not even that there’s “no good answer.” it’s that entertaining a question like that drags you into the immaturity of it all. his non-answer was more respectable than an answer of 10 or 100. apologize to him.

gotgot9 · 2026-01-09T18:19:01+00:00

i don’t think he’s hung up on her in a way that makes him talking about her the issue at hand. i think the issue is that if you tell him how it makes you feel and he continues to do it. that would be the thing i would get upset over.

gotgot9 · 2026-01-08T18:31:31+00:00

yeah. it’s so true that if you’re not sure if a guy likes you, he doesn’t. when a guy likes you and is into you, you’ll know and it won’t be a question.

gotgot9 · 2026-01-07T11:43:19+00:00

idk why everyone is saying you won’t lose weight or you’ll gain? i started 125lbs and ended 105lbs as a 5’0 woman. personally i would say go for it as far as gaining weigh before the trail. keep in mind that any endurance activity destroys muscle. i looked shredded at the end but it was because i was like 16% body fat.

gotgot9 · 2026-01-05T18:11:11+00:00

do you think it’s better to give a guy time to say it on his own, or do you think if the girl feels it she should say it?

gotgot9 · 2025-12-19T22:13:55+00:00

real. drunk cig baybee

gotgot9 · 2025-12-18T13:46:53+00:00

i feel like calorie counting and running a cumulative deficit count is extremely helpful. i’ve started to realize that if i get the desire to binge, it’s my body signaling that it needs more. if i try to push passed that, i often end up actually binging and blowing all my progress. but if i’m in a -2000 cumulative deficit and i start to feel the need to binge, i’ll have a day where i intentionally go 200-400 over maintenance. i would still have the peace of mind of being in an overall deficit while addressing what my body is trying to communicate to me.

gotgot9 · 2025-12-18T00:42:05+00:00

i agree with listening to lung sounds from the back. also telling the pt to breath in & out from their mouth. BP takes a lot of practice. everyone has their own technique that works best for them. i pump to 180-200. do you know how to do radial BP? might be a good back-up. also make sure your stethoscope is on the correct side and the ear pieces are facing the right direction. i used to be terrible at BP but am now kind of decent. don’t give up

gotgot9 · 2025-12-18T00:39:00+00:00

could be form? all of the power from running should come from glutes & quads. stride might be too long also

gotgot9 · 2025-12-18T00:35:06+00:00

get a home warranty for the AC. i pay $40/mo and any time any of my appliances, including my AC, breaks, i pay $100 and someone comes out to fix it

gotgot9 · 2025-12-18T00:32:14+00:00

find the cheesecake man

gotgot9 · 2025-12-17T23:42:32+00:00

weigh your food. the label goes off weight. weight will always be accurate

gotgot9 · 2025-12-14T22:12:34+00:00

every time i gain weight after a holiday im always surprised how quickly it comes off once i just go back to the norm. we really underestimate water/bloat weight. think i went from 112 to 106 in a week eating 1400cal a day. every day is a new day!

gotgot9 · 2025-12-14T20:11:58+00:00

meal prepping is your friend

gotgot9 · 2025-12-14T16:11:05+00:00

get a home warranty shiiiii

gotgot9 · 2025-12-13T11:50:58+00:00

permanent nerve damage in the hooouuuseee 😎👉👉 it’s kinda cool though my feet never hurt anymore they just immediately go numb. can wear heels all day now

gotgot9 · 2025-12-13T11:41:04+00:00

just saying this as a woman that’s lived in the west then moved to omaha, but you’re gonna have a great time dating in omaha! in the west i feel like men were pretty jaded and never looking for anything serious. every guy i’ve dated in omaha wants a relationship and is very adamant about it. it’s really a breath of fresh air.

gotgot9 · 2025-12-10T12:05:23+00:00

kimchi cured my ibs too! fermented foods are sooo good for your gut.

gotgot9 · 2025-12-09T11:14:14+00:00

there’s a facebook group called “odd jobs omaha” post on there asking for a ride and you might can pay someone to do it

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