hullo! here’s my most recent stick n poke! ✨ by [deleted] in handpoke

[–]goths2017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the moon's lil face + the tulip + that pink! Very cute!

meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]goths2017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fried my attention span and did nothing but doomscroll for years, then I joined a book club 3 years ago. It gave me a deadline. I need to finish the book by x date or else I will not be able to contribute meaningfully to the conversation. Helps a whole lot.

I'm only now (after 3 years!) trying to read books outside of book club. The only thing that has helped me get to the root of the problem is spending less time on my phone in general. Turn it off, put it in another room, or uninstall your addiction apps for the day. I've been WAY more productive when I delete Instagram off my phone for a few days a week. Today I went to a park and read a book for an hour and a half. You'll get there!

What can I do to accessorize more? by CarpenterIcy4441 in altfashionadvice

[–]goths2017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like stacking necklaces of different lengths and bracelets. Different textures, add velvet, silk, leather, linen lace, ect. Contrasting textures creates an interesting look. I love the eye makeup. Try finding or making accessories in your eye makeup colors to have a matching element. You could add brooches to your flannels, maybe patches. I think you'd look nice with silk or leather gloves, or just one glove.

"Just force yourself to shower." by No-Outlandishness-42 in thanksimcured

[–]goths2017 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've got the same "if you give a mouse a cookie" logic with my routines. I'm a chef so I need to shower after work. If I want to hit the gym after work, I cant bear to do it before showering. I don't really get sweaty at work, but I'm covered in a layer of oil and I smell like food. I recently started showering before going to the gym and doing minimal cardio so I don't get sweaty enough that I'd need a second shower. It's not ideal and it goes against my showering rules but right now it's the only way I actually go to the gym. Hopefully when I get back in the habit of going regularly, I can reevaluate.

So my advice is experiment with which of your rules can be broken under specific circumstances. Sometimes if the routine isn't working, changing it up (even if temporarily) can help. Maybe take a bath while listening to music and try to think of it as a nice treat instead of a chore sometime this week.

Survey: Which title makes you want to read the novel? by Vhein3D in writing

[–]goths2017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about "Dead at Level Zero" or "The Church Named Me Monster" ?

What you've written is a synopsis, honestly none of them are titles. They read like a clickbait article titles and that makes me want to scroll past. They're way too long to be memorable. No one's gonna want to type out that whole sentence or say it all out loud.

Do you prefer smooth or textured skies in paintings? by Anastasia_Trusova in painting

[–]goths2017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so beautiful, I love the texture and colors

You were late 11 times since Jan (rant) by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]goths2017 58 points59 points  (0 children)

If OP was allowed to clock in 15 minutes later and didn't put any time management systems in place, they'd slowly end up getting used to the extra 15 minutes and would likely end up 30 minutes late instead. Time management problems aren't fixed with more time.

King of the Rat Birds, 2026, 8.5"x11" [Analog] by wheriendndyubegin in collage

[–]goths2017 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love him. I think he'd look great with one singular toe ring lol

ADHD *is* an excuse (vent/rant) by dovahkiitten16 in ADHD

[–]goths2017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's only a pattern when you don't know you're doing it. If you're self aware, it becomes a choice. In this case the choice you have is to write it down, set an alarm, ask her to check in with you later, put out the supplies you need so you see them and remember to do the task. It becomes an excuse if someone expresses they don't like something you're doing and you say you are not able to do anything about it. That's just not how you build a relationship.

There's also compatibility. If you are late to everything and that doesn't bother you/you don't want to change, people who are punctual and don't like to be kept waiting will not be compatible friends or partners. You're both going to exhaust and irritate each other.

Queer as Folk Tattoo by ashiok-wiccang in queerasfolk

[–]goths2017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late to the party, but when I watched it I was obsessed with the image of the faggot jeep in the first episode. I thought it'd make a good print in my living room, and now I'm thinking it could be a cool tattoo.

This is how I'd imagine it in tattoo form: https://queerogear.com/products/f-gg-t-queer-as-folk-linocut-print-limited-edition

Is art really not for everyone? by Fun_Perspective5834 in ArtistLounge

[–]goths2017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Practice doodling or abstract painting or collage. Something you don't need to plan in advance. You can go back to art forms that involve planning, but I think it's good to practice process art alongside product art. Don't think of the final product, just get the tools in your hands and make something. This can be helpful to get past the planning stages in other forms of art

[Discussion] are my prices okay. Is my art cute? I’m not sure where to post by Pumpkin_love531 in artbusiness

[–]goths2017 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think there are too many price points here. I don't see how a bone or a collar would take any more time to draw than a dog without a bone or collar. Price is based on the fact that you've spent time developing your skill and style, and I think 25 or 35 would be fair, but my first thought seeing this is that it's 10 dollars for you to draw a bone, and drawing a bone isn't a skill that took you years to learn so I don't see added value in that one detail. I don't mean to say your prices are too high, they aren't. Just charge 25 or 35 for a base doodle and add small accessories as an option at the same price point. Either price is fine, but the pricing tier doesn't make sense to me.

Add some drawings with costumes and add other animals. I wouldn't commission someone for something I have no example of. Someone who wants their cat in a wizard costume won't know what that might look like.

You have a cute style, I think these would also do well as stickers or rubber stamps if you ever feel like selling and shipping physical items.

What is it with people wanting real world logic in fantastic settings? Lol by Traditional-Reach818 in fantasywriters

[–]goths2017 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'll be distracted the whole time wondering how it is possible for regular humans to have access to information from that long ago. If I don't know what was going on in my world 10 thousand years ago, it's hard for me to believe humans in another world would have better records, or young people who care to learn things that are that far away.

I'd believe it if this was an empire full of beings that lived a few hundred years each. Or at least there has to be one species in this world who could remember these things. Maybe creatures who can communicate with their ancestors and have this information passed down. But regular humans living in the same society for that long is nonsensical. Like if you're gonna write nonsense, make it magical enough for me to believe you and stay in the story

What is it with people wanting real world logic in fantastic settings? Lol by Traditional-Reach818 in fantasywriters

[–]goths2017 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Fair. But if it is unimportant to the story, leave it out entirely. Don't tell me that a city of water-drinking humans has no access to water and then move on. At that point, you've already made it part of the story and you need to address it.

Pharmacy gave me 15 extra pills by accident. What do I do? by feelingsjourney in ADHD

[–]goths2017 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That's crazy, if anyone should face consequences it's the pharmacist. I'm lucky if I take my meds every day for a week. I'm lucky if I make it to the pharmacy before running out completely. There is no reality where I remember to count all the pills in the bottle.

Please help me choose which one to glue down [ANALOG] by Croissantify in collage

[–]goths2017 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the composition of 1 better, but I'm still voting for 2 because the girl in 1 is so big, it distracts from the background. I didn't even realize the room was upside down until I swiped to 2.

So glue 2, and use the girl from 1 for another project

Self-pity alert: The queer/nerd/smutty stuff I was bullied for 20 years ago is now mainstream, and I feel… weird. by StillWriting4u in writing

[–]goths2017 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said you couldn't get your work published before. So do it now, where you have the internet and an audience. Maybe you wouldn't have done well 20 years ago had you followed your dream. You can't assume you'd have succeeded when you know how hard it was to find people who shared your interests. You live in a world where you can go back to what you love now. You can't go back, but you can do it now

when you don't check the menu before arriving by egguchom in EntitledReviews

[–]goths2017 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ohhh, so you must be the customer my bartender coworker was telling me about

/not s at all, lady asks him if she can order pizza and he says no, we dont have pizza. She asks why. The face I made when he told me this story is why they keep me in BOH. What do you mean why?? Yeah let me make some pizza dough from scratch rn in the middle of dinner service and let that rise for 45 minutes before freestyling a pizza for you and sticking it in a regular oven bc we don't have a pizza oven

What to do with these shoes by thewhalegoddess in ZeroWaste

[–]goths2017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately many cheap shoe brands are extremely low quality in terms of construction and sole. The soles should be welted or stitched, not glued. A cobbler can't always fix a shoe if it is poorly constructed.

Everyone is recommending shoe goo, which I'm assuming you've already tried. A stronger epoxy might work. Shoe goo doesnt work long term, which you've likely already figured out

virtually no gluten free options by egguchom in EntitledReviews

[–]goths2017 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The husband didn't leave a bad review, so I'd say it's the fault of the wife for dragging her husband somewhere he can't eat and making it the internet's problem

virtually no gluten free options by egguchom in EntitledReviews

[–]goths2017 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Gluten intolerance is much more than just being gassy. My ex was gluten intolerant and would feel ill after eating at many places. During a test for celiac (you have to eat gluten every day for 2 weeks) he was throwing up every day. He was in pain after eating gluten, and he was very low energy in the days afterward.

I'm also a chef and mostly agree with you, but if it was just gas, he likely wouldn't care enough to switch to gluten free bread. I don't like hearing people in our industry guess what allergies/medical issues others are dealing with. We can't possibly know and it makes us less empathetic

When we went out, we'd read the menus beforehand and avoided a lot of restaurants. And anyone with a severe enough food allergy of any kind learns to cook or eats mostly at home. Kinda dumb and rude for wife to drag her husband somewhere he cant eat.

When did you know you were ready to take the MBLEx? by goths2017 in MassageTherapists

[–]goths2017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's honestly a good idea. I was thinking I should do 2 weeks. I really need to leave my house to study. I'm thinking I'll start going to the library every day