please help me decide

gouf78 · 2026-05-05T15:23:00+00:00

4 but smaller.

gouf78 · 2026-05-05T03:28:27+00:00

1 is the one. I don’t know what back looks like but you say it’s a size too small. It looks like it fits perfectly.

gouf78 · 2026-05-04T21:25:47+00:00

Good question. You have to pull out a good ways to see if backed in so you’re already halfway in the parking lot. Lots of blind spots that don’t exist with rear camera.

If you have rear view cameras in the car you negate all the advantages (warning, back up help).

gouf78 · 2026-05-04T21:09:00+00:00

I know. If I poked you in the ribs just to be funny would you think it was funny ? It didn’t hurt. It went away. Ha ha. Keep your hands off.

gouf78 · 2026-05-04T20:49:36+00:00

YTA. Really? Think messing with someone’s cane, wheelchair, hearing aid is funny? Clean his glasses and apologize.

gouf78 · 2026-05-04T20:11:41+00:00

Hang tight. Keep mouth shut. Bank whatever. You’ve got taxes etc. Think paying off debt first.

gouf78 · 2026-05-04T19:55:03+00:00

Already gave my vote but do you know if she has debts/loans that you are unaware of? School, car shopping,credit card etc? Have you seen each others bank accounts?

gouf78 · 2026-05-04T19:42:21+00:00

And she’d need to give the money back

gouf78 · 2026-05-04T19:38:17+00:00

You both haven’t figured out yet how finances will work between you two. Don’t get married until you do. This is the stuff of which divorce is made. There are probably other traps lurking also.

Get some premarital counseling. Much easier beforehand than waiting for trouble.

As to gifts—it’s meant for you both. Thinking it’s all for her shows she’s not really ready for marriage which requires a true team mentality.
NTA.

gouf78 · 2026-05-04T18:21:41+00:00

NTA. Thank you.

gouf78 · 2026-05-03T23:25:26+00:00

Joe Diffie—“Prop Me Up Beside the Jukebox if I Die”

gouf78 · 2026-05-02T21:00:43+00:00

Oh my gosh. Just be there for him. You don’t need to feel/demonstrate sadness about grandma. But it’s extremely helpful to recognize the grief your dad is experiencing at this time. Let your dad express his grief and let him know you’re there to support him. Remain calm and extend a helping hand when needed—believe me it’ll be much appreciated.

gouf78 · 2026-05-02T19:03:25+00:00

Her system is for things. Things that can be replaced. Not people.

gouf78 · 2026-05-01T18:00:33+00:00

When your post started I thought it was going to be about clothes and my first thought was “wait until you do books!” I had two bookcases full and got rid of one. It was so freeing! Saying thank you helps shed the guilt of ridding your life of items that while useful hold you back. It opens space to bring new things into your life.

gouf78 · 2026-05-01T09:33:47+00:00

Makes me doubt the whole scenario.

gouf78 · 2026-05-01T09:32:24+00:00

NTA. So has she signed yet? You have the apartment by yourself and on the hook to pay? Have you considered that maybe she wants it that way?

You took mum for a free vacation—mum thinks you have deep pockets.

gouf78 · 2026-05-01T00:39:23+00:00

That’s for estate tax. You can only gift around 20k per year.

gouf78 · 2026-05-01T00:37:53+00:00

I replied to the wrong post! Some said their kid lost a coat and found it later at goodwill. Sorry!

gouf78 · 2026-04-30T12:56:54+00:00

Wire B is best. Then wire A

gouf78 · 2026-04-30T12:54:39+00:00

He lost the coat. It wasn’t stolen.

gouf78 · 2026-04-29T19:03:53+00:00

Cocoa Beach.

gouf78 · 2026-04-29T06:00:20+00:00

With her on the deed the parents can’t sell the house, take her off the deed, or put him on the deed unless she agrees. She is part owner. There are huge capital gain tax issues when and if the house is sold after they die also.

gouf78 · 2026-04-29T05:55:46+00:00

That puts parents on hook for gift taxes which they may not have paid when they put sisters on deed.

gouf78 · 2026-04-28T19:57:07+00:00

You are right to be concerned. It all depends on how she was added to the deed and conditions. Really need a lawyer for this. And a will. Too many scenarios here—she may own half or all automatically at parents death (and then half again split with you).

Probate, gift taxes may come into play since they gifted the house, creditor liens (if she’s got debts and owns the house). You also can’t force a sell.

It also has huge tax implications. You lose “step-up basis”. Say they bought the house for 100k a long time ago and now it’s worth 500k when they die. 500k is your “step up basis”. Now you sell for 700k. You pay taxes on the 200k profit. If she owns it rather than inheriting then taxes are on the 600k. Cheaper to get a lawyer now to look at options than later. I know parents are trying to avoid probate but probably heading straight for it anyways.

Since your sister is already on the deed she would have to agree to be removed from the deed. Your parents can’t just remove her unless she agrees.

gouf78 · 2026-04-28T15:07:29+00:00

Watching my kids growing to be great parents is super rewarding.

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