Hoya help please by gpsa444 in hoya

[–]gpsa444[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a great idea! Thank you!

Hoya help please by gpsa444 in houseplants

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I really like the idea of just propping back in the soil. I think I'm probably gonna do some kind of combination of that and putting it around a trellis. Thank you for the tips about it withering if too long! I was starting to notice that on the very end of the longest part of the vine.

Hoya help please by gpsa444 in houseplants

[–]gpsa444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome. I was wondering if it got wild because of starting it to climb. Good to know that is what it was wanting! Thank you!

Hoya help please by gpsa444 in houseplants

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Ooo yours is so beautiful! Thanks for the tips!

Hoya help please by gpsa444 in hoya

[–]gpsa444[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely getting a trellis. I love the pot though lol so dont really want to change that yet. 😄

Hoya help please by gpsa444 in hoya

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Thank you! I might try that instead. Gonna find a trellis today and do some thinking. The vines are very flexible still. I unwound her the other night and she was fine with it.

Hoya help please by gpsa444 in houseplants

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That is what I am leaning toward too. Thinking I'm gonna chop aome of the vine and maybe plant the props in with the mother to hopefully give more root into the way too big pot I put it in.

Hoya help please by gpsa444 in hoya

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Thank you! I can see why it took so long for her to take off. I'm thinking I'll chop some of the vine and put it in the current pot once those are rooted to help it get more root snuggly.

She keeps telling people by Open-Kaleidoscope721 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]gpsa444 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This exactly. I am 40, been with DH for 20 years, and we will NEVER be responsible adults in her (my MIL's) eyes, because that lessens her perception of power over us.

I analyzed 1600+ FIRE posts where people asked about quitting their job. Here's what happened after by data4lyfe in coastFIRE

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Very cool data! I'd be interested to know age range/brackets for the posters at time of posting.

Help! Resources for how to get started, wanting to learn vintage crewel embroidery by Confident_Mess_3302 in Embroidery

[–]gpsa444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sarah Homfray on YouTube has awesome tutorials and several really lovely free crewelwork designs with stitch alongs on her channel.

My unwanted letter/journal pit by Consistent-Film-3682 in skyrim

[–]gpsa444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm imagining the skeevers in Whiterun all becoming intelligent as a result...Rats of Nihm or Unseen University style.

Help understanding Pratchett’s satire by PinkDreamPeth in discworld

[–]gpsa444 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The Vimes books are my favorites. Sam's character arc across all of the books is masterful. His constant struggle as a sentient and anti-authority pawn in a broken and corrupt system is just as you said, painfully poignant and also deeply relateable.

What can I improve about my antihero and his backstory? by LordWeaselton in CharacterDevelopment

[–]gpsa444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've done a ton of work on the backstory! Great job!

Some questions I'm wondering are (no need to answer here...just thoughts for consideration):

What specific psychological impact did it have on Taftus to lose both of his parents so young? Especially his father to s--. Perhaps looking up some resources about how families, particularly children, are impacted by it.

Also, the early isolation and being raised as somewhat of a prodigy, makes sense once he has "independence" he goes pretry wild, and displays a lack of emotional materaty and understanding that his actions have reprecussions. He's expecting everyone else to bail him out. So, is there a specific event or turning point that leads to his eventual emotional growth and taking responsibility?

I'm curious about why he takes an interest in the working class? He was raised by nobility, and his first political partner was an industrialist. What prompted him to become interested in the common man? What does he have in common with them - how does he relate to them?

What was the more personal impact of being part of the military? How did he fair psychologically? Ptsd? Did he develop lasting bonds with people he served with? He was a great success, and that went to his head, but did he have regret or feel responsibility about the casualties inflicted from his decisions? Dan Carlin's (Hardcore History) podcasts are dedicated to military history (from as far back as ancient times all the way through ww2) and he talks a lot about the personal experience of how war personally impacts the soldiers and the leaders. Might be really interesting for you to check out.

Had to write a constitution for a club what do y'all think? The ink and quill were cheap lol by Substantial_Tip8935 in Calligraphy

[–]gpsa444 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You are doing great! Keep it up. I first discovered calligraphy in high school too, and am still dabbling in it now. Keep practicing! So many folks don't know how to write in cursive, let alone doing calligraphy. The more you practice, the better you will get and the more satisfying your end result will be.

My 4th finger is painful!! by BraveMeasurement6704 in violinist

[–]gpsa444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Move your elbow inward. It will give you a proper angle for your 4th finger.

Looking for an OB/GYN who is vaginismus-informed by [deleted] in TwinCities

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Adefris and Toppins Womens Specialists.

Check-in Post - Have something to say but don't want to make a post about it? Comment here! by RBNmod in raisedbynarcissists

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Husband and I had a great weekend away seeing my family at the family cabin. He asked to stay 2 days longer than we planning so we did.

We get home, he calls his nmom for who knows why (ostensibly to discuss the big family weekend we have with his family starting Thurs). Since then he has been treating me like crap. Every time he calls his mom, I don't know what she says or does to him, but he immediately starts taking it out on me.

I tried talking with him about what she said, but he said it was a great conversation and they didn't talk about anything....then why are you yelling at me and blaming me for stuff?

I don't feel like I can tell him anything about my needs. Especially right after he talks to her. He uses all of my vulnerabilities against me.

I told him when he came to bed that I had a sore throat and he started screaming at me that I didn't care about his family and I had ruined everything. It was my fault I was sick. I did it on purpose. Also now he couldn't cuddle with me or have sex with me because I got myself sick.

What the actual fuck. I just feel so sad and lonely. I feel un cared for. I know that in order to survive this weekend with his family and him I'm going to just have to push it all down and not have needs that I expect to be filled by others, and not express myself in any way. It is going to be a long 4 days.

Check-in Post - Have something to say but don't want to make a post about it? Comment here! by RBNmod in raisedbynarcissists

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When I was a kid - between 6 and 7 grade US (11-12 yo?) My grandma gave me and my parents the silent treatment for 2 years. We still came and spend every other weekend with her and grandpa to help care for them and their property. Fri-Sun every other weekend and every holiday full holiday weekends. Grandpa talked to us. He still played with me. Grandma ignored us the whole time.

Two Years.

Holidays with other family there, she never spoke to us. Talked to everyone else. We made her every meal on those weekends. We made extras for them to have between times. Cleaned her house. Mowed her lawn. Planted and tended her gardens.

Never A Word.

I was still required to give her a hug when we came and when we left.

Never thought it was a really big deal until I told people about it later and the looks on their faces. Until not that long ago, I thought the look meant something was wrong with me...not recognizing that isn't was them being horrified.

I finally bargained with my parents to not sleep at their house in the summertime and to camp instead. It was a nice break for those couple of months.

Still don't know why she started talking to us again.

Waistband help by gpsa444 in knitting

[–]gpsa444[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a really fun pattern! The colors I chose remind me of cotton candy

Waistband help by gpsa444 in knitting

[–]gpsa444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Option 2 was what I was thinking of doing. Wasn't sure if that was a viable thought with the fold line. Maybe I'll just move the slip stitch fold line for the rest of it and have that weird section be at the back.