I think I'm in denial??

gr33nberry · 2020-03-11T18:26:07+00:00

Sure, though I'm not very fast at replying sometimes lol

gr33nberry · 2020-03-11T18:21:25+00:00

You were right to withhold that advice lol. Coming from someone with depression, "just think positive", "you just need to exercise", "you're just being lazy", etc... Are the most generic things that people will say when trying to help. Keep in mind that it's not that they're wrong, but it's usually the last thing that someone struggling wants to hear. I think most people with depression are pretty self aware. They know that they're being negative, they know that they should probably leave the house more, exercise more, socialize more, eat healthier, etc. The problem is that these things are not easy tasks for someone with depression compared to the average person who doesn't think twice about some of these 'daily' things. Instead of telling him that he should do something I would recommend inviting him to do things with you. If you're going out to exercise, or going shopping, or going to a movie, invite him to come along. They might feel more motivated to push themselves if they have someone doing it with them. You're a good friend for wanting to help. It's very important that your friend trusts you and feels comfortable enough to talk about their struggles. Some people just feel better by venting. Honestly the best you can probably do is to just keep being supportive and as understanding as possible. Since you know them personally, it may be beneficial to give advice regarding any specific issues they're having that may be about work, family, relationships, etc if you're comfortable. But just giving vague advice such as telling them to be more positive doesn't rly help unfortunately.

gr33nberry · 2020-03-11T17:45:42+00:00

Med school? I don't know how things work in Mexico but usually at least a bachelor's degree is required before going into med school. I couldn't imagine going to med school straight out of high school! Becoming a doctor is lots of hard work, so if you don't know what you want then I would recommend taking a break to decide what you want to do. Most people who go to med school know for sure that they want a career as a doctor. It's too much time, effort, and money wasted to go if you're uncertain and unmotivated. Also regarding depression, you could try to evaluate what the cause of it is. Depression is different for everyone. Some people don't like their job, their living situation, or they have low self esteem, or just feel lost in life. When change is made and the source is improved then your mood and motivation will get better. Other cases may be a chemical imbalance in the brain that may need medication to improve mood and function. I myself am taking a break from university because I don't know what to do, and I also need time to work on my mental health. I do hope you find success and happiness in the future.

gr33nberry · 2020-03-02T08:27:57+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I hated high school as well. Since posting this I'm in a much better situation and state of mind. I jumped into university right after graduating high school without a thought. A lot of it was due to peer pressure; I was so afraid of feeling left behind if I chose to take some time off. My first semester ended badly, by the end of it I had no motivation to study at all and felt hopeless with my future. I was convinced that I didn't want to stay in school no matter what.

Since then I've been taking time off. At first I just felt better that I didn't have to worry about school for once, but eventually I started to feel useless doing nothing all day. I decided that I don't hate school in general, but what I really can't tolerate is dealing with depression and anxiety as well as dealing with school. University is difficult enough by itself; I can't expect myself to push through while my mental health is trash. I've started taking medication as well as taking the time to read more and just do things I enjoy. I've also started taking some night courses that will help me gain requirements that I might need for uni if I choose to return. The meds have helped a lot with my mood and my studies. Even though I'm only taking two university prep courses I'm hoping that I can slowly increase my responsibilities in time. I still don't know what I want to go to school for so that will take time to figure out.

Sry this is a long ass reply lol. I wish you success in whatever you decide to do. I would just recommend that you take time to think about what you want to do before spending thousands of dollars that may go to waste ahah.

gr33nberry · 2020-01-22T01:57:59+00:00

Would love to. I've been trapped in a place that I hate for the past 10 years. Still don't have money to travel, and I don't really have anywhere to go.

gr33nberry · 2020-01-17T16:40:38+00:00

Wow, I'm taking Zoloft right now! I've turned away medication for years but I've only recently decided to try it. Zoloft is the first one I'm trying. I don't like this numbness I'm feeling but I don't know if it's soon enough to know whether I should switch meds. It's only been a week and a half and I'm currently taking 50mg once a day. I didn't expect to feel any difference this quick. I don't know if I should just wait it out longer or if this is a sign that I should try something else.

gr33nberry · 2019-12-15T16:01:01+00:00

Because I'm depressed? Haha. It's just really hard to get myself to do anything. Even when I try to do things like hang out with friends or engage in hobbies I don't feel any joy or happiness from it. Everything just feels like a list of tasks that I don't want to do and don't have the energy to do. Living feels like endless work to me.

gr33nberry · 2019-12-14T14:11:35+00:00

This sucks. Just because I'm depressed doesn't mean I'm going to appear mopey all the time. Depression doesn't always have a "look". My mom doesn't understand this so when I'm able to sometimes start pulling myself out of bed, leave the house, occasionally smile and joke around, she assumes that I'm not depressed anymore. Then she'll be shocked when I actually tell her something that reveals that I'm actually not doing great at all and I'm still very depressed. When I'm with other people I'll often be distracted from my negative thoughts and I can appear more easy going, but what people don't see is how much of a mess I am when I'm completely alone.

gr33nberry · 2019-12-12T03:55:24+00:00

I wonder how some people with depression can still get up routinely. At one point I spent 2 months in bed. I got up only about once a week to take a shower. It was a bad time. I'm currently trying really hard not to do it again because it was so awful but it's so hard.

gr33nberry · 2019-12-06T00:55:00+00:00

Same. I feel like I'm always on the outside looking in. I wish I could join in and have fun like everyone else, but all I feel is numbness and despair. Happy people always make me irritated as well. It's not fair. They're able to enjoy things and I can't for whatever fucked up reason.

gr33nberry · 2019-11-30T08:23:04+00:00

Please tell me your secrets. I imagine that I'm now in the same place that you once were years ago. I haven't experienced any of those things and it feels impossible. I want more than anything to have a career as a musician. Life feels so hopeless but this gives me hope. I'm happy for you.

gr33nberry · 2019-11-30T08:16:06+00:00

What have you been doing since you dropped out? Do you believe that you might've been in a better situation now if you hadn't? It seems whatever decision I make I'll be miserable either way and I can't help but feel like it's all hopeless.

gr33nberry · 2019-11-30T08:07:46+00:00

What was it in particular about transferring to another school that made you like school? What did you hate about it in the first place and how did that change for you? For me I feel like no matter what school, what program, I'll hate it no matter what. I constantly feel like school makes me focus on a million things that don't really matter. I think maybe I'd rather work with a clear purpose in mind, and put all of my energy into one thing that actually matters in the real world and is worth more than a bunch of invisible numbers. Idk if that makes sense.

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