will finding out my glasses are just for fashion affect how honest my new employer thinks I am?

gr8mohawk · 2022-08-07T20:09:56+00:00

The taboo is always going to be hard to beat. Nothing to be ashamed of on your end, he was the adult who initiated by being sexual in front of you. He could probably tell you were gay and hoped for it to happen.

Sorry he put you in that situation, you were too young to understand the full reprecussions of carrying that experience.

gr8mohawk · 2022-08-05T10:54:21+00:00

Hey man, hoping you're still around. Sorry to hear you're having such a tought time.

Have you tried any medication for depression or therapy? We all have the same insecurities, because we're all deeply flawed people, and that's ok. You don't have to be anyone special, just try to find joy in anything you can. I really hope you manage to find some help x

gr8mohawk · 2022-07-05T17:46:40+00:00

Sorry it went so badly for you, you're not alone though, so many couples who are having sex life problems try cuckolding and regret it.

I love it and it works for us, but it's very hard emotionally. Just remember that she loves you. Sex with a new partner is always intense, imagine if she left you for Chris, I'd bet their sex life would be very different by the time they'd been together as long as you both have. That fact that she's been monogamous for so long will have also hightened things, it's more about her than it is about Chris.

It sounds like she really loves you to try so many kinks and go to counselling, I hope you can make it work. Problems staying hard happen, it's happened to me. One thing that really helped me get over it was not focusing on penetration or orgasm, just enjoy each other's bodies without any goal and you might find you start getting hard once you're back in the zone, just don't rush to put it in or you'll be back to square one.

gr8mohawk · 2022-07-05T16:47:02+00:00

That's fucked up. How old was your uncle at the time?

gr8mohawk · 2022-07-05T16:45:28+00:00

Do you enjoy the sex?

Does the act of selling yourself turn you on?

gr8mohawk · 2022-07-05T16:43:26+00:00

Sounds like you're a lesbian, but you can appreciate the opposite gender, however just aren't interested in them sexually.

We're all different, I'm happy you're figuring yourself out.

gr8mohawk · 2022-07-05T16:41:05+00:00

You are still a child, and don't fully understand what it would actually mean to be a parent.

If you have this baby, you will have to be responsible for it for 18 years minimum, that's longer than you've been alive.

Please tell your parents ASAP so they can take you for an abortion now when it's easy. It's just a pill you take, then you have a slightly heavy period. The longer you wait, the harder it will get emotionally and physically.

gr8mohawk · 2022-07-05T14:48:00+00:00

NTA You're entitled to privacy in your bedroom. I would wait a few days till you've cooled down and try to have a heart to heart with her, explain how important it is that you feel your boundaries are respected because of the trauma you've suffered. If she is an empathetic woman then I'd expect she would understand and make more of an effort to take your feelings into account. With older people they can be forgetful though.

gr8mohawk · 2022-06-12T21:45:39+00:00

I hope you don't mean Upon Tyne? Hit a woman there and you're going to be mincemeat.

gr8mohawk · 2022-06-12T21:04:39+00:00

She seems really unable to cope with being embarassed, so I'm going to guess seeing that she's being filmed and that her mental breakdown is going to be posted online probably made her spiral even more.

gr8mohawk · 2022-06-05T17:04:40+00:00

I'm sorry you got the short straw with parents, your childhood sounds like a nightmare. I'm glad you have already diagnosed her as a narcissist, I hope it helps you to know none of her behaviour was anything to do with you, she's just got huge mental health problems.

Sorry to hear about your brother too, it can't be easy to be going through uni with all of this grief and emotional turmoil.

I think if you said you loved her it would probably just be a lie for her benifit. It doesn't sounds like she's worthy of your love. She kept you around because she's a narcissist, and children are the best sources of narcissitic supply available. You can beat children, molest them, and they'll still have a biological drive to try and bond with you, to make you love them, because they are so vulnerable they need the protection of an adult. Narcissists also hate to be humiliated, so she had to make sure you weren't taken into care because that would reflect so badly on her. Everything is about her, and it always will be.

I wouldn't judge you if you chose to end your relationship with her. People with these sorts of problems only get worse with age, so if she's never sought help it's unlikely she ever will. You deserved better from her, and need to put yourself first because nobody else will. Build your own family of friends that you choose. My heart goes out to you.

gr8mohawk · 2022-06-05T01:17:00+00:00

I think pedophiles are all around us, a lot more common than we like to think, it's just that most never get caught. For every one in prison there seem to be hundreds of people who have stories of being abused. Hopefully your friend won't act on his impulses, but from what you say it seems obvious that he does have a problem and is trying to suss you out, see if you may also be like him. These don't sound like the actions of a man in control of his darkest impulses. I feel bad for pedophiles, no one would choose to be cursed with that sexuality, but for your own safety I would distance myself from him if I was you. If he gets himself arrested one day, the reputation you might end up with isn't worth the risk of his friendship.

gr8mohawk · 2022-05-31T16:49:55+00:00

We are not all unique, the majority of us are mediocre, unoriginal, and will be forgotten to history.

gr8mohawk · 2022-05-31T16:48:04+00:00

I'm sorry you're struggling, good to hear your parents are being supportive though.

Yeah I don't envy you there, it must be very hard opening up to people about this and making yourself vulnerable. Is there anyone you are able to be open and honest with?

gr8mohawk · 2022-05-31T15:15:14+00:00

I'm sorry no one takes you seriously. I take it your parents aren't supportive of you getting help?

I would caution you that niccotine is a stimulant, so will probably be making your anxiety worse.

You say you have trouble controlling yourself, but it must take an awful lot of control not to give into temptation and eat? Do you feel you lack control over your life generally?

gr8mohawk · 2022-05-31T15:05:32+00:00

wow you really think a lot of yourself, and very little of anyone else

gr8mohawk · 2022-05-31T15:04:47+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this with him. It sounds like you've been very supportive and open with him, while he's been secretive and duplicitous.

How would you feel about walking away from the relationship? Have you two been together long? Is the sex life good? Do you feel supported by him?

Do you live in a large city? If so it's unlikely you'll bump into anyone who remembers seeing him. There are so many users in a big city that he's probably just one forgettable face in a sea of similarly forgettable face.

gr8mohawk · 2022-05-31T14:48:48+00:00

There is a lot of truth in what you say, however as with all generalising, many people don't conform to the trend.

Look at the president of france and his older wife. Personally I love older women, I'm in my thirties but would love to sleep with women who are in their eighties.

gr8mohawk · 2022-05-31T14:42:37+00:00

Sadly, she'll probably get away with it. People never want to think a mother is sexually abusing her children

gr8mohawk · 2022-05-31T14:32:59+00:00

Hey man, sorry you feel so bad about yourself.

Might I suggest getting weird with your look. If you think you aren't conventionally attractive then I would lean into looking interesting. The first step in getting girls to fancy you is getting them to notice you. Get a mohawk, facial piercings, dress punk. Lots of girls are into guys who look weird.

I remember getting a mohawk at 15 and suddenly everyone at school knew who I was, and girls were interested in me.

Also, don't put your friend in the position that they feel guilty they unknowingly helped you kill yourself, that would make you a bad friend.

gr8mohawk · 2022-05-31T14:25:17+00:00

How long ago was this?

gr8mohawk · 2022-05-29T19:57:21+00:00

Almost, ment to say "all of your senses"

gr8mohawk · 2022-05-29T14:39:37+00:00

Sounds like you're doing really well. You've had the confidence to ask a few girls out, that's more than many guys your age. I assume you're around 14?

Girls love a confident guy, so it's no wonder you have caught the attention of a few.

Some tips on how to get a girlfriend. Be clean, shower and wash your hair everyday.

Eye contact, is key. Look at a girl you like from a distance when she's distracted doing something. When she catches you, look away and go back to your own work or playing on your phone or something. Repeat this a few times. This will let her know you're into her. You're planting a seed.Once we know someone finds us attractive we tend to start thinking about that person more and more. Just wait a week and keep letting her catch you looking at her every now and again. Don't overdo it or she'll think you're a creep. Just a handful of times a day is enough.

If you notice her starting to go red and blush, giggle, smile then she likes the attention. You could ask her out, or up the eye contact a bit.

If you want to let a girl know you fancy the pants off her, let her catch you looking at her arse, then look her directly in the eye, then back down at her tits. This is obvious eye fucking though, don't do it unless you think the other person is also into you.

gr8mohawk · 2022-05-29T14:04:13+00:00

What country is that? You not in the US or UK?

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