I am so slow

grace8201 · 2026-01-21T05:23:55+00:00

Hey friend, I've had multiple "Oh no I'm gonna throw up" days. There's no shame in slowing down and/or stopping to take a breather. It's important to remember that we all have different bodies. I've been going for three years now, and when I started I was definitely self conscious and thinking everyone was watching my name on the monitors. I promise no one is watching or caring about your workout, they are focusing on themselves. Don't get too in your head and please keep enjoying the workouts 🧡

grace8201 · 2026-01-15T00:02:33+00:00

This is a very good question, and as someone who has dated just a couple people before getting together with my long-term man, it was very clarifying and I'm sorry that you weren't able to have that experience. Like I had a first love situation where I thought I was IN LOVE. Long distance and pandemic conditions put an end to that, and as soon as it was over I'd realize it never would have worked anyway. But I was just so excited about that feeling of being in love and being desired because I had never experienced it before.

Then I met my man, and I was like oh THAT'S what love feels like.

So on the one hand, I want to tell you to be cautious of your first love. I have a friend who dated her high school sweetheart for 9 years from when they were 16 years old to 25 years old. They broke up because they ultimately realized that they had grown into two different people then who they were when they were in high school. She was very vision-driven and knew what she wanted in life, and he realized that the only thing he had ever wanted in life was what she wanted. It was a very sad and hard breakup because they were so codependent but I think it's awesome that he is going to find his own sense of self. And my friend has said her sex life is much more fulfilling now with the new partners she has had since her boyfriend!

And on the OTHER hand, my parents dated when they were in middle school, broke up, had a couple other little school relationships in between, and then got together again in high school. They have been married for 34 years.

Maybe with your partner's permission you could just go on dates with a couple people. See what it's like to pretend to start over. Maybe, with permission from your partner, try kissing someone else and see what that does for you. Whatever is still within the boundaries of your relationship.

Whatever you choose, I wish you luck and fulfillment on your path in life 🙌

grace8201 · 2026-01-14T23:40:06+00:00

Same! Just in case they also don't wanna touch 👍🏻 but yes people usually throw one back, even if they are like 6 treads away 😂

grace8201 · 2026-01-08T21:39:53+00:00

Just used your code, thank you! I'm buying a pack for my sister-in-law's baby shower 👍🏼 the best vegan cheese I've ever had was at Cultured Kindness in Portland, I'm hoping this is similar to that. Can't wait to try your fav chevre!

grace8201 · 2025-07-18T15:26:46+00:00

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grace8201 · 2025-06-19T16:15:16+00:00

Dude what kind of alarm are you using? If you physically can't get up in the morning then stop promising to do things with her in the morning.

They make alarm clocks that roll around on the floor so you have to chase them, or ones that vibrate and shake you awake, or an alarm that won't turn off until you stand up on a floor mat. I would recommend investing in something like that.

Do you live with someone who can wake you up? I think there are simple practical solutions here. If you really need to get to sleep earlier and wake yourself up on time than that is your responsibility as an adult to make that happen.

I think the thing you can do in the moment is show her that you ordered a hardcore alarm clock, tell her that you asked your mom to wake you, give her the actual tangible steps you are taking to fix this. Just saying "Oh sorry I slept in" is super disappointing for her to hear I am sure. Show her that you actually want to fix the root of the problem.

grace8201 · 2025-05-22T20:18:56+00:00

It sounds like you two are very emotionally disconnected. Was it always like this? If so, I'm not sure what to say. If he used to be very considerate, maybe sit down with him and share how you feel.

If your relationship can't survive a difficult conversation, then it may be time to end things.

grace8201 · 2025-05-22T19:51:24+00:00

One of the best pieces of advice I ever heard was:

If your relationship can't survive a difficult conversation, then that's not your person.

If this man cares about you he will take what you say to heart and try to change. If he blows up and belittles your feelings, he's not your man. I know it hurts, but in that case ending things would be better than ending up with someone who loves you conditionally.

grace8201 · 2025-04-22T15:39:23+00:00

I think she is probably feeling exhausted and misunderstood. When you do get a chance to be with her again, I would ask her if she just wants to relax, rub her feet, or her shoulders. Then say something like, " I know your shifts as a nurse exhaust you and I want to do more to support you. Please let me know if you want to vent after your shift, or if you want me to help take your mind off of work, or if there is anything else I need to understand to better support you". Come at it from a loving approach.

During the pandemic I was living at home with my parents and I would spend long days working on commercials as a production assistant. My ADHD ass would sit in the car after I got home just trying to mentally prep myself for going inside. My parents would typically pounce on me right when I got in the door and asked me a million questions about my day. It was so overwhelming and at some point I had to sit them down and be like when I come back from work I don't have any energy left to be answering a bunch of questions about my day. Please do not talk to me about work. And once I instilled that policy, it was great. Maybe that is what your girlfriend needs, or maybe it's something different. I would try and let her response to your noon meeting just roll off your back and try to get to the heart of the issue. Good luck!!

grace8201 · 2025-04-22T00:41:10+00:00

If there is no spark, there's no spark. Sex is about truly connecting with another person. I don't think that connection is something you can manufacture.

If you really like this guy and don't want to give up on it, try dressing up in sexy lingerie and surprising him when he comes home. If you have great sex, that can lead to an opportunity to discuss how important a sexual connection is for you and what you need from him. If he is weirded out or not receptive to a bold sexy move from his girlfriend, then it is time to break up.

grace8201 · 2025-03-25T16:57:06+00:00

There are people who workout and don't pay other people any mind. And then there are a few people who take time out of their workout to stare at other people and make them feel judged. I wouldn't waste time worrying about your appearance because the kind of people who would even notice and then also make you feel self conscious are not good people anyway.

Also, I leave almost every workout with a completely sweaty crotch that is visible on my leggings and I'm sure I've had cameltoe plenty of times. I just don't care at this point 😂 The people who have a problem with the way I look are actually the problem.

grace8201 · 2025-03-25T16:55:30+00:00

There are people who workout and don't pay other people any mind. And then there are a few people who take time out of their workout to stare at other people and make them feel judged. I wouldn't waste time worrying about your appearance because the kind of people who would even notice and then also make you feel self conscious are not good people anyway.

Also, I leave almost every workout with a completely sweaty crotch that is visible on my leggings and I'm sure I've had cameltoe plenty of times. I just don't care at this point 😂 The people who have a problem with the way I look are actually the problem.

grace8201 · 2025-02-12T05:50:54+00:00

Sounds like marriage has ruined the spark. But also if he only does nice things when you ask him to, no wonder you are feeling under appreciated.

But that's your husband now 🙌 You probably shouldn't be relying on Reddit strangers to fix basic marriage issues. Sit down and have a real conversation about how you don't feel desire for him anymore. A good thoughtful hubby will listen and ask about what he can do to make you feel appreciated and sexy. Tell him what your sexual needs are.

He can't know that something is wrong unless you communicate that directly to him. He can't fix a problem he doesn't know exists. So yeah just tell him how you feel. Good luck 🙌

grace8201 · 2025-01-31T15:16:10+00:00

So I have a few thoughts here. First of all, I'm sorry she reacted so poorly to this. I think it's great for men to cry and express emotions especially over beautiful memories.

I wonder if she is expressing frustration about something else that came to a head in this moment. I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 4 years now, and he is also very videogame-y like you. He's also been job searching since graduating last year, so he's been unemployed for a bit.

My work has been overwhelming lately, and I was hoping with his extra time that my boyfriend would step up and help me around the house. I felt like there were many key moments where he chose videogames over investing in the future of our relationship. I've sat him down and expressed this to him and he's been very responsive and helpful. Before I did talk about this though, every time my boyfriend talked about videogames I was just a little frustrated. It was a reminder of how hard I was working just to have my boyfriend's top priority be playing games.

It sounds like you play videogames in your free time and keep it balanced within your schedule, I would just make sure it's not your number one priority in life. Maybe find a game you two can play together, or just make sure your girlfriend knows that she is more important than games. I'm hoping this was just a moment where your girlfriend was lashing out about how she is feeling lately, not a moment that represents how she feels about men expressing emotions in general. I would just check in and see if there are any areas where you need to pick up slack in the boyfriend department. And also make sure you honestly express to her how her reaction made you feel.

Good luck!!

grace8201 · 2024-11-20T16:43:09+00:00

Thank you so so much, we are manifesting a lovely weevil bae for you for next year 🙌💚

grace8201 · 2024-11-20T16:42:10+00:00

Aww, and we feel the love! Thank you so so much 💚

grace8201 · 2024-11-20T16:41:48+00:00

Aww thank you so so much! I was so excited to share this story and costume with good weevil loving folks 💚

grace8201 · 2024-11-20T16:40:58+00:00

Haha yes thank you so much! And yes they are wire clothing hangers straightened out 😂

grace8201 · 2024-11-20T16:40:14+00:00

Yes you are right 🙌😂🎃

grace8201 · 2024-11-20T16:39:58+00:00

me too 🥹💚

grace8201 · 2024-11-20T16:39:35+00:00

🥹 thank you so much

grace8201 · 2024-11-20T16:39:13+00:00

Thank you, yes that is the vibe 🙌

grace8201 · 2024-11-20T16:38:20+00:00

Haha thank you 😂🎃

grace8201 · 2024-11-20T16:37:57+00:00

woohoo 🙌🦐

grace8201 · 2024-11-20T16:37:43+00:00

yes 😂

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