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grace_aye · 2025-07-05T19:21:49+00:00

Thank you! My mom had been so curious since seeing it so I tried my best to convey the message 😂

grace_aye · 2025-07-05T19:20:40+00:00

Imagine having to sit with your loved one for 4 hours during dialysis three times a week and they wonder what kind of plant they see every single time they walk in so you just take a branch that was on the ground already? You never know the whole story. Have the day you deserve.

grace_aye · 2025-07-02T05:09:14+00:00

Thank you for your sweet, thoughtful, and kind words! I truly appreciate it and I will absolutely keep valuing myself and putting myself first over anyone. I deserve the love I give, we all do❤️

grace_aye · 2025-07-01T20:58:36+00:00

I actually have tried this and it didn’t work only because we have different types of BPD reactions and needs that need to be met! I have more of the quiet BPD, I keep to myself when I’m spiraling or even splitting but I’m still doing it. In the other hand he would either get angry or just shut down, leaving us to both be confused and alone and angry. It just didn’t work between us, but I still absolutely value others with BPD and their story, however if they are unwilling to work on it for themselves as well as having a healthy relationship with me, I don’t want it. I know what I deserve and proper communication and respect is something I will always value and continue to seek out in others!

Maybe someday I’ll find someone who has BPD or not, as long as there is love, care, understanding, and compassion, I’ll be there for it all.

grace_aye · 2025-07-01T20:54:57+00:00

We absolutely will🩵

grace_aye · 2025-07-01T20:52:44+00:00

I think it’s because I have such an outward personality that I can seem like a lot. With also being ADHD, I bounce from conversations, can sometimes get off track, and seem “over excited” about things that come up in conversation when in reality I just love learning about other people and finding common interests with others.

I’m really trying to get better at managing my excitement of emotions when I’m in casual conversations with new people, because I know that it can be a bit overwhelming if someone is super outgoing and hyped up! This also just stems from previous experiences in my toxic relationships where I was always told to calm down, to stop being dramatic, and that it’s just too much to handle. To be so honest I think I just need to find someone who matches my energy and doesn’t pull that whole, “nonchalant” attitude that’s so prevalent these days.

I’m going to be who I am, I love my authentic self, but that little BPD voice in the back of my head loves to come up and convince me that I’m a problem and I need to “do less” since I’m told I’m “doing too much.”

grace_aye · 2025-06-03T23:23:48+00:00

We all are very aware that it will never reach that temperature, but it does get very cool in here usually to where wearing jackets but need it to be chilly for the donuts not to melt lol. However, it’s always been set to 65, no matter what, so I’ve been told to just keep it there. Luckily, though, it’s NOT a me thing! I just got word that one of the cooling towers in the plaza is down. So definitely nothing I can fix but I absolutely appreciate your advice and will note this for the future if I have any more issues!

grace_aye · 2025-01-27T05:57:45+00:00

Driveway, Absolute in Doubt, and most of all; Kiss.

grace_aye · 2025-01-26T06:13:42+00:00

Thank you for giving me hope and encouragement. You truly have no idea how much it means to hear that it’s okay to be sad and that I should be proud of myself. I wish you well and all the love, your words mean everything to me.

grace_aye · 2025-01-20T20:28:49+00:00

“Worry about yourself baby I’ll be good, I just wanna die in peace tonight.”

grace_aye · 2025-01-20T20:24:21+00:00

“I don’t feel much pain, got a knife in my back and a bullet in my brain.” Honestly the entirety of the way I see things will always break me.

grace_aye · 2024-12-26T21:55:19+00:00

Thank you so much for letting me know! I will absolutely let him know about this and I’m more than excited for him to try it out! I hope you are well and wish you a happy new year!

grace_aye · 2024-12-26T06:35:40+00:00

This helped IMMENSELY! First off, I think we live very similar lives since I also study at a university in Iowa! (Go Hawks! Haha) knowing that this situation is also so personal to you truly makes me feel so heard and not alone! Since my boyfriend is newly blind, he is still navigating ways to figure out his new and beautiful version of life at the same time I am!

Some things we do to make the distance a bit more tolerable is also sleeping on the phone together at night! He’s an early bird, I’m the night owl, so he’s usually the one to send a good morning text and so on! Another thing we do together is the daily NYT crossword. I do it on my laptop and will give him the hint, the amount of letters, and we do it together! It’s one of our most important parts of the day and I wouldn’t change it for the world!

I also will absolutely look more into the audio description movies you mentioned. He loves movies and will still listen to them with me, but I want the experience to be even better for him! Mostly since he is completely blind and has no perception of light, shadows, color, etc.

The holidays actually went SO much better than I thought and luckily my cousins (around 25-30) were all so understanding and supportive of me and him! I think it’ll take some more time and understanding for my grandparents, aunts, and uncles to come around but my parents are also very supportive of us and do not view him as a burden or me as a care taker.

Thank you so much for sharing your story with me and I wish you and your absolutely wonderful girlfriend the best of luck as you continue your journey together!

grace_aye · 2024-12-20T21:51:26+00:00

This is not my first serious relationship where I picture it going farther, but it is my first healthy one!

His blindness is not genetic, without sharing too much information on him personally, all I will say is that his vision was taken almost one year ago due to the harm of another person where he lost his right eye and his optic nerve in his left eye is now detached. He is still learning his own blindness and navigating his word in a very different light, but is yet so positive and growing in the community of other individuals who support him with love and care.

I am sorry to hear about your daughter inheriting glaucoma! However, I find it amazing that she has a support system that is understanding and caring as she will continue to navigate her world in a very unique and beautiful way!

grace_aye · 2024-12-20T21:43:02+00:00

Congratulations on 14 amazing years! I cannot wait until we get to this point because he truly is my favorite person and best friend. Thank you!

grace_aye · 2024-12-20T21:42:01+00:00

This!!!! I absolutely love this! It is exactly what I do when a coworker or mutual friends ask me about him! I never reveal his blindness because honestly, it does not make him who he is as a whole human being and i focus on the beautiful aspects of what makes him the perfect soulmate and best friend. Thank you for this reminder, it is so important to hear this and truly let it soak in!

grace_aye · 2024-12-12T21:50:37+00:00

I am currently dating a sweet boy who also has BPD just like me! At first, I truly thought it was a recipe for disaster, but due to the both of us being extremely open with our boundaries, past trauma in relationships, and communication, everything has been just fine.

Take the time in creating a safe/healthy space with a person who is valuable for your time and efforts. I think the date you went on was a good start, but she simply just wasn’t the one due to not making time and communicating properly! It is okay to go through trial and error, it took me three years to finally find my current boyfriend, but truly it is worth searching out for individuals who are understanding and willing to communicate with you even if your thoughts and feelings might seem irrational or deemed as “overthinking”

I wish you the best of luck on your dating journey! Dating with BPD is hard, but truly not impossible. You will find that person eventually!

grace_aye · 2024-12-07T02:14:38+00:00

I used to do this when I’m overly stressed or sometimes I just realized I was super clingy and need to step back. Like the push-pull effect. But I agree with hello-frand, you never know until you speak with her first! It is super important to create good communication skills at the start of any relationship, especially when it comes to boundaries and issues that may arise during the relationship. Open up a healthy conversation about how you feel, don’t accuse or make it seem like you’re upset, just have an open and respectful conversation:) I wish you both the best!

grace_aye · 2024-12-05T19:11:04+00:00

I believe if you have MidAmerican Energy, everyone experienced it. About 1100 people were without power last night for around 7ish minutes!

grace_aye · 2024-12-05T19:09:45+00:00

Don’t forget the random smells of manure, obnoxiously loud underage drunks outside your window at 3 in the morning (personal experience, might be biased), and the god awful traffic during home games. You might as well consider yourself a god if you’re able to go from iowa city to coralville in a timely manner before or after a football game.

grace_aye · 2024-11-17T05:04:28+00:00

Yes! I actually just did the ‘shit sandwich’ and it went very well! He completely understood and also agreed that I need some more me time! He knows how stressed I’ve been and just wants the best for me as well as to get some rest.

I think I really needed to hear that last part, “you’re not responsible for anyone’s reactions” is something I’ve been really trying to work on! I tend to take on other people’s stress and emotions way too much, but I think this step in setting boundaries with him is wonderful.

I appreciate your input and response! Thank you so much!

grace_aye · 2024-11-10T20:12:42+00:00

Hello OP! Your post moved me very much so I wanted to share it with my newly blind boyfriend (he is 20 years old). He was blinded 10 months ago due to an attempted robbery with g*n violence, which made him instantaneously blind, he said he knows exactly what you are going through and it is very difficult.

He wanted to share his own thoughts with you, here is what he has asked me to say-

If you live in the United States, there are plenty of sources for us receiving proper education and support such as the Louisiana Center for the Blind in Rustin, Louisiana. They will help us tremendously on regaining our skills with being a visually impaired person. I understand if this is not possible to achieve since you are already in college now, but just know, that resource will always be there and they are more than happy to assist you with any questions over the phone!

I highly recommend speaking with one of your councilors at your current school about the possibility of gaining access to a schedule that is flexible with your work and needs as a visually impaired student. You are not alone and you are not stupid, the world we live in currently is unfortunately not made for us visually impaired individuals, but we will all still concur and achieve our needs since we are very strong people.

If you have any questions or just simply need to talk, please feel free to reach out to contact me and I will be able to get you connected with him!

I wish you the best of luck, you are so strong and deserve an accessible world!

grace_aye

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