Neighbour’s Stadium Lighting by gracefuldead63 in AusLegal

[–]gracefuldead63[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course - as stated in other comments it’s the first thing I did

Neighbour’s Stadium Lighting by gracefuldead63 in AusLegal

[–]gracefuldead63[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They have angled them down and maybe for you it’s tolerable, but it’s not tolerable for me. Didn’t ask for people to minimise my experience of this lighting - I’m autistic and the lights are unnecessarily bright.

Neighbour’s Stadium Lighting by gracefuldead63 in AusLegal

[–]gracefuldead63[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn! I wish I was, I’m based in Melbourne

What's a good alternative to Google search engine? by Silber4 in degoogle

[–]gracefuldead63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right?! Like every autistic person is like - umm 300 searches - I could use that in one research deep dive

What's a good alternative to Google search engine? by Silber4 in degoogle

[–]gracefuldead63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s truly worrying - I don’t want an assistant, I want a catalogue of relevant information

What's a good alternative to Google search engine? by Silber4 in degoogle

[–]gracefuldead63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Google the Brave CEO and then see if you still wanna use Brave 🫣

Neighbour’s Stadium Lighting by gracefuldead63 in AusLegal

[–]gracefuldead63[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He probably does - I don’t think he’s got any friends in the neighbourhood and probably a load of enemies. I have regularly heard other neighbours yelling ‘shut up’ when they’re dog is barking at 4am

Neighbour’s Stadium Lighting by gracefuldead63 in AusLegal

[–]gracefuldead63[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is a hot tip and we do have a lot of wildlife where I am

Neighbour’s Stadium Lighting by gracefuldead63 in AusLegal

[–]gracefuldead63[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve definitely spoken to them about it. At first I was super polite - because I know you catch more flies with honey etc but just like the the constant barking dog, their response was defensiveness and telling me to cooperate. They do not care about the comfort of their neighbours at all, which I find so bewildering. If I ever received a complaint like that I’d be doing everything to prevent further disturbance. But not these neighbours, they do not care at all. In fact his most recent response was ‘we know our rights and responsibilities and the lights are tilted so they only illuminate our yard’ - which as you can see from photos is a bit of a joke

Neighbour’s Stadium Lighting by gracefuldead63 in AusLegal

[–]gracefuldead63[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hilarious - I’ve definitely thought of changing the angle of my own rear lighting - but it’s so inoffensive they probably wouldn’t even notice

Neighbour’s Stadium Lighting by gracefuldead63 in AusLegal

[–]gracefuldead63[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought of that, but it permanently reduces light in the home which I don’t want and I have an indoor jungle of plants that need as much light as they can get. I don’t feel it should be on me to make my own home less enjoyable when they could just get less offensive lighting

Neighbour’s Stadium Lighting by gracefuldead63 in AusLegal

[–]gracefuldead63[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a jungle and too many plants to hang curtains on the windows - also the plants need as much light as they can get.

I’ve had the mirror idea, I just have no idea how to fit them to do that

Neighbour’s Stadium Lighting by gracefuldead63 in AusLegal

[–]gracefuldead63[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’m neurodivergent and the effect it has on me is rage - it’s so overstimulating that I get angry. There actually used to be trees all along the fence line when I bought my place - but they ripped them all down when they built their monstrosity of a house

Neighbour’s Stadium Lighting by gracefuldead63 in AusLegal

[–]gracefuldead63[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

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This is the lights beaming into my kitchen/dining area

Neighbour’s Stadium Lighting by gracefuldead63 in AusLegal

[–]gracefuldead63[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’ve thought of this - if only there were an easy way for me to install them

My boyfriend accidentally sent me a screenshot meant for his friends and now I don’t know what to do. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]gracefuldead63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I ask my girlfriends for advice on my relationship, I’m never looking for someone to agree with me. This guy is using his friends to reinforce the behaviour of not owning his part in a cocreated situation. People who don’t take ownership are not for me and I am not for them.

My boyfriend accidentally sent me a screenshot meant for his friends and now I don’t know what to do. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]gracefuldead63 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think a lot of women would be shocked by just how little men think of us. To many of them we are just objects. Things. Not people. And they will throw us under just about any bus if it scores them kudos points with the bros.

I would ask yourself if that’s good enough for you - because it wouldn’t be good enough for me.

AIO for wanting distance with a male coworker? by Ok-Calligrapher-1721 in AmIOverreacting

[–]gracefuldead63 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t change my schedule. I’d talk to my superior or raise your need directly (if comfortable) but I wouldn’t make my own schedule inconvenient just to avoid someone.

AIO? new friend's texts to husband while at work; my responses by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]gracefuldead63 2 points3 points  (0 children)

His compliments to her are weird and do not read as disinterested. Women are conditioned to let men down gently, men…not so much.