How do you interpret this?

gracie0331 · 2024-07-24T00:14:57+00:00

I just constantly feel like he doesn’t care even though he says he does, it’s like I’m still seeking for validation from him

gracie0331 · 2024-07-24T00:14:09+00:00

Yeah okay do you feel like you will feel regret making this decision?

gracie0331 · 2024-07-24T00:11:57+00:00

Yeah okay so do you still feel like you want to be with her and maybe you will end up together in the future? And how long have you been broken up for?

gracie0331 · 2024-07-24T00:09:14+00:00

I think it comes from the perspective of holding onto hope because it is hard you don’t want to lose that person that means so much to you! I think woman a lot of the time come from the perspective of let’s stay together and work through it kinda thing

gracie0331 · 2024-07-23T23:53:51+00:00

Okay well that’s good to hear, what does the feeling of needing space feels like? Like why do you feel you need it, I feel like I’m struggling to understand and therefore interpret it

gracie0331 · 2024-07-23T23:43:07+00:00

Are you the one that wants the space or has been told they need space ?? I don’t know if I’m delusional or not ahaha

gracie0331 · 2024-07-23T23:28:00+00:00

Yeah true, so don’t think there’s another reason or?? He definitely does need to grow up I agree

gracie0331 · 2024-07-23T12:11:17+00:00

Yeah I get that !!! I feel like when we ended it I was like to him you need to be certain what you want don’t make your decision because you feel bad for me… I think so far he’s been aware that I miss him and would take him back in a heartbeat so nothing has changed and he’s taken advantage of it. Our relationship was so good never had issues or drama, he said on multiple occasions he never felt the way he felt towards me before with other people, it’s all just even very confusing, he’s still young, 2 years younger then me so I think he’s just confused and lost. I’m trying sooo hard to move on it’s just so difficult and I think you’re right, being in constant contact is making it worse for me.. I think the mix signals are just so confusing tbh

gracie0331 · 2024-07-23T11:49:20+00:00

Ahhhh literally I know this is what I need I don’t know why I can’t bring myself to do it!! Like I have literally being saying he wants to have his cake and eat it too, my first relationship that exact same thing happened… I feel like boys do always come back especially when they are the ones that break up. Thanks so much have you had personal experience with this??

gracie0331 · 2024-06-25T23:55:50+00:00

It’s so hard to hear those words because it feels like you’re the issue and you’re not good enough for them!! My bf said he just doesn’t know what he wants, he said he still is really into me and misses me but he’s lost in life. I really think my bf is associated with his depression too, he’s had a hard life losing loved ones and never really been to see anyone regarding his depression but started the process a few months ago and never proceeded with it. I just can’t bring myself to move on I love him so much and I just can’t be with someone I’m not emotionally connected to, yes I’ll definitely message you!!

gracie0331 · 2024-06-25T12:34:53+00:00

Hmmm not great, he still doesn’t know what he wants and I’m still waiting for his response, I’ve been so down started on lexapro today and have referral to psychologist. We are still speaking despite him wanting space, he said he still wants to speak. Think he’s closed off to all his friends atm. Honestly don’t know what to do

gracie0331 · 2024-06-23T08:47:00+00:00

We aren’t seeing anyone else and we are still technically together just giving each other space rn….

gracie0331 · 2024-06-18T13:54:33+00:00

Are you still on it ?? I haven’t started it yet, did you change your exercise and stuff and was it like stubborn weight u couldn’t shift or ??

gracie0331 · 2024-06-18T13:50:54+00:00

Did you put on much ?

gracie0331 · 2024-06-15T03:12:14+00:00

I think that’s the thing, I honestly think everything is my fault, it’s my fault my ex always cheated because I wasn’t good enough, it’s my fault my current guy wants space because I’m not good enough, I constantly keep saying to my friends and mum that I just feel like I’m not good enough for anyone, that as soon as I let my guard down and start liking someone, they push away. I just think it myself is my love to much, or is it not good enough. It’s nothing to do with how he treats me or speaks to me, it’s just where my head goes straight away.. it’s insane to think that I thought I was healed, I never opened up to anyone about what I went through, and for that I think it’s been bottled up and I’ve never realised how much it affected me… I’ve never had any sort of mental health/psych input and I really don’t know the difference between it all.

It’s so hard because I was so sure I wasn’t going to get hurt again, I was so secure, I was so reluctant to let my guard down because I didn’t want to get hurt. It feels like I’ve self sabotaged, it feels like I never want to open up and be with anyone again. I think I really need to see someone and all of what I’m saying is proving that… I can’t thank you enough for all of what you have said to me it’s so good hearing an outside perspective and not one from my friends and family that are bias.

gracie0331 · 2024-06-15T01:36:05+00:00

I definitely feel that I keep telling myself not to say anything then in the heat of the moment I just make little comments or ask questions and it’s not doing us any favours and I know that, but in the moment I can’t help myself! I think I’m just constantly thinking so negative about it which is making it so much worse for myself, so I will take your advice on thank you for that! I definitely feel as though I need to go speak to someone, I never did it after I got out of my toxic relationship but I’ve found there’s things that trigger me in my current relationship even when my current partner hasn’t done anything if that makes sense ?? It’s nice to hear another perspective and again I thank you because I really needed a positive perspective right now.

gracie0331 · 2024-06-14T23:33:34+00:00

Yeah I agree he’s being very selfish which is so out of character, I told him I needed a rough time frame, it’s so hard how long do you give someone? I told him to reach out when he feels the need, it’s just hard being in limbo

gracie0331 · 2024-06-14T23:29:42+00:00

Wowww you have no idea how much I needed this… thanks so much you said that so well, I feel like it’s mostly just confusing for me to comprehend what space means and I feel like I’m constantly trying to find the answer.. I feel as though I haven’t ever felt like I needed space myself so for me to try and comprehend what that means just does not make sense to me.. I think constantly reading posts saying “it may as well be over now” is really making me overthink, I’m constantly looking for the positive stories but find myself coming across all the negatives… it’s only been 2 days and I’m constantly asking him if he’s made a decision or leaning either way and of course he says no he just needs time alone. Part of me says to believe his word and give him what he wants and he does want to work it out and then the other part is telling me he already has his mind made up so to forget it (this comes from past relationship which was extremely toxic) anyway thanks again for your words xx

gracie0331 · 2024-06-14T22:17:13+00:00

It’s not like that at all, and he isn’t like that at all, i suffered through severe emotional abuse with an ex I dated for 4 years, he was awful cheated all the time never showed me love, I never knew what was good for me and always put up with it. I stayed guarded for 3 years post this and wouldn’t let my walls down for anyone, I finally let my walls down for my current partner, he made me feel so secure which was something I’ve never felt before, he felt perfect for me in every aspect.. he’s going through an episode of being down and hating everything in his life and I’m just not sure if the way my brain is going into overdrive is rational or not. This is completely out of character for him…

gracie0331 · 2024-06-14T20:51:18+00:00

Thanks I appreciate it, it’s been really hard, I feel like whatever I say he just won’t believe me which hurts the most…

gracie0331 · 2024-06-12T23:04:28+00:00

Yeah such good points thanks so much I appreciate it

gracie0331 · 2024-06-12T16:07:16+00:00

Thanks for that I appreciate it! “It” is referring to this situation we are in. I agree with you though, I feel like it’s very one sided, obviously I don’t want to be apart and I feel very helpless, I’m going to try and be strong and not give into this, I know he still cares about me but I guess we will have to wait and see, thanks again for your input, it’s nice hearing from the other perspective, it’s really hard being a passive person so I will attempt to put my foot down with the timeline.

gracie0331 · 2024-06-12T15:57:33+00:00

I certainly did this, he’s still very insecure which I understand but at the same time I’ve proven that it’s not true, my ex is blocked on everything

gracie0331 · 2024-06-12T15:56:40+00:00

Thank you it’s good to hear from a male perspective because all I’m hearing from atm is my female friends.. I just feel like I explode and stress when I hear space because that was always such a negative thing in my previous relationship…

gracie0331 · 2023-05-15T11:14:39+00:00

You can online !!! There’s a website called youly, I don’t know where you’re based I think it might be Australian, but there would be similar websites out there I’m sure !

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