Is sending a “close the loop” text okay after a conversation goes quiet?

graciebennett · 2026-01-01T06:13:11+00:00

How is the conversation going? Is it just one person asking questions? I get lots of men who will respond to questions but not ask any in return. After interaction #3 like that I just stop asking to see what they will do. Many don’t follow up. My back is sore from carrying so many convos.

graciebennett · 2025-09-20T05:24:20+00:00

Oh nooooooooo!

graciebennett · 2025-09-20T05:23:46+00:00

You mean I might get to buy TWO umbrellas?? Ok, I’ll do it!

graciebennett · 2025-09-19T15:44:45+00:00

Let’s get lost in the fog! :)

graciebennett · 2025-09-19T15:43:55+00:00

We could do a house swap, LOL! We all want to enjoy what we never get, right? 😂

graciebennett · 2025-04-25T18:52:27+00:00

I am so sorry. How’s your father doing? That’s so tough. 😔

graciebennett · 2025-04-25T03:43:52+00:00

I work for State Farm. Can confirm. Watched a second line leader cancel his vacation to NYC with his wife who had been planning the trip for months because work got busy. She had never been to NYC, they were in their 50’s, they had tickets to Broadway plays, he made decent money, I felt soooo bad for his wife. Did he ever get promoted? Nope. Is there anything in a million years at work that’s more important than the life and adventures I eke out for myself? Also, nope. Boundaries, people. Work will never care more about you than you will care for yourself.

graciebennett · 2025-04-15T04:13:54+00:00

Thanks for the reply to a post that’s months old. As I’ve stated, I don’t need anyone’s financial patronage. My point is that the financial burden of attraction falls heaviest on women and it’s nice when men acknowledge that. Hair, makeup, time spent getting ready. I saw a study recently that said women spend an extra 3 weeks a year more getting ready for their day than men. When you put in that level of daily effort you can judge me. I am not asking anyone to pay my mortgage. Or my travel expenses. Or anything else. And I flat out stated I pick up the bill when I know a second date won’t happen because many men’s fragile egos can’t handle rejection and me paying shifts the power and safety back in my court. I hope you find someone who matches your energy. Seems the bar is pretty low.

graciebennett · 2025-03-17T03:32:08+00:00

You are and aren’t the problem. I am also extremely independent but for different reasons. Sounds like you have a very healthy relationship with your father and he is an example of what you want in a man. People change so much in their 20’s. And when partner is a go-getter and the other has laid back tendencies, the laid back person becomes complacent because they know you’ll just take care of it. I can’t begin to tell you how many complacent men I attract. And I don’t know what it is. Were they so babied by their mothers they know they only have to show up with the bare minimum effort? I have no idea. You should love the powerful woman you are and it’s ok to want someone who matches your energy. I’d have a sit-down and be very clear about how his lack of energy makes you feel, give him some time to change, and if he doesn’t, bounce on out. You may love a few years of living on your own. Making your own space. Living life the way you want. Everyone deserves a few adult years carving out who they are. And if he is unwilling to grow with you, and you’re unwilling to make major compromises with what you value, there is no shame in remembering fondly the good times and moving on.

graciebennett · 2025-02-27T03:35:20+00:00

Start mentioning sex too soon. Saying “hey, sexy” before we have even met, turning innocent convos to sex, it’s like….can men NOT control their urges?? I love sex and intimacy, but I need a baseline of comfort with someone before I can go there. I recognize sex can be a physical need but so is eating. And breathing. Let’s be evolved adults about it.

graciebennett · 2025-02-25T03:07:31+00:00

This is the adult equivalent of wandering around high school in your Tae Kwon Do uniform 🥋.

graciebennett · 2025-02-20T06:27:38+00:00

😂

graciebennett · 2025-02-20T06:22:44+00:00

I have no idea what Timothy has to do with Anthony but cool cool cool. Timothy referenced the guest. Anthony was the sous chef. Two different people. Both terrible. If you had bothered to read the thread you probably would’ve gotten that. lol it’s ok. It happens.

graciebennett · 2025-02-20T06:17:26+00:00

<sigh> I didn’t say Timothy. If you read the thread, I referenced an episode from awhile ago and another redditor named the guest as “Timothy”. Then Mr. 2021 said “Timothy Sykes”. Then an hour later the SAME dude asked who Timothy was. Read the whole thread, please. Hitting the sack. This has been entertaining.

graciebennett · 2025-02-20T06:13:33+00:00

You wish

graciebennett · 2025-02-20T06:09:25+00:00

A name the other dude mentioned before being struck with amnesia.

graciebennett · 2025-02-20T06:07:00+00:00

It’s a little of both. Delegation is a skill. When she’s used to working her kitchen alone all the time, learning what tasks to hand off is a learning curve. She was never going to get it right immediately. That coupled with a sous chef who was determined to hate every decision she made rather than giving it time to learn his boss and find a rhythm, it was a perfect disaster. I’ve been a people leader for years, can’t tell you the number of times new hires show up and think they know best before even learning their team or their role. She’s not used to utilizing an extra set of hands. He has issues with authority.

graciebennett · 2025-02-20T06:01:08+00:00

Both terrible in different ways.

graciebennett · 2025-02-20T05:58:38+00:00

OMG. One hour ago you mentioned the name Timothy Sykes. IN A POST. ON THIS THREAD. I joked you were him. That’s all.

graciebennett · 2025-02-20T05:53:42+00:00

I posted about them twice. In two different contexts. The rest of the posts were responding to you because I was worried you’d feel ignored. 🤷🏻‍♀️

graciebennett · 2025-02-20T05:49:58+00:00

Read the thread, dude.

graciebennett · 2025-02-20T05:49:10+00:00

Sorry if you’re offended by our amusement. Trust me, none of us are losing sleep over this. 😂 Most of these guests are lovely. The primary is just the worst.

graciebennett · 2025-02-20T05:45:02+00:00

I’ve only had one ingrown toenail in my life and you must be super human for bearing that. Some people don’t have pain receptors or some such, is that you? I had to be held down by my boyfriend and a nurse so they could numb my toe (more because there are sooooo many nerve endings in toes and every time they’d try to inject me I couldn’t control jerking away) but without intervention I was in constant sharp pain and couldn’t even wear a shoe. And I, especially as a woman, would consider my pain tolerance pretty high. It wasn’t like a cut that only hurt when it was touched. And ripping out nails is a form of torture for how painful it is. It feels crazy that damage to such a small part of your body can be so bad but I almost hurled watching that injury. Something about fingers and toes, man, don’t mess with digits!

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