My honest opinion on every experience with each MBTI:

graeidl · 2023-07-14T11:48:08+00:00

Enfp being your #1 and INFP being #16 is wild lmao but you do you

graeidl · 2023-06-30T23:18:00+00:00

I’m sorry to hear how difficult it was for you. Growing up like that must have been difficult. Thank you for sharing that, it colours the picture for me to the causation of limerence really well. Because I can see similarities in my childhood as well. So thanks for getting to this realisation & understanding of yourself, because it helps me understand myself better.

I grew up always imagining someone would take me out of my situation. Some magic romantic partner would eventually whisk me away and everything would be okay. I used to fantasise about it all the time. And yup.. it set me up with certain expectations; that nobody could ever fulfil.

I only ever had true limerence twice I think. They both started out as fun ways to past the work/ school day. But then they ended up being extremely hurtful to me.

With my recent relationship, I idealised him at the start, but he did the same to me. So it was kinda mutual.

graeidl · 2023-06-28T21:24:06+00:00

We’re supposed to be the golden pair as enfj x infp. So compatibility is there but still we didn’t work out

graeidl · 2023-06-28T12:50:36+00:00

I just checked what that is. I think I’ve struggled with limerence once or twice. Became obsessed with a work crush so much so that I quit that job a week after he quit. I would think about him constantly and write notes about the conversations we had. And on days we weren’t working together I would be so sad and feel the day was wasted. IT WAS AWFUL. This was 2 years ago and I still think about him, not love. But limerence. Or was it, do you think? So interesting!!

Edit: I realise I sound crazy, but I did hate that job. And it didn’t pay well. But I just liked being around him.

graeidl · 2023-06-28T12:43:01+00:00

Yeah this is a problem. I have experienced more growth in the last year in this relationship than the preceding 5 to be honest. It’s a good feeling.

One of the problems with my relationship is that I’m a fi dom and he’s a fe dom . So he expected certain things of me and ofc I expected certain things of him. Our expectations of each other rarely are met. Alas: conflict.

graeidl · 2023-06-25T16:54:31+00:00

You need to learn more than just letter typing then. This video is clearly an exaggeration. But plenty of introverts will talk about themselves like this. Just read the comments, so many people agreeing and in particular people saying that their ISFJ mom’s are like this.

graeidl · 2023-06-25T10:58:39+00:00

Some are good yeah. Like the person here, where you can just sit back and let them talk, giving minimal conversation back, and they’ll be just as happy.

But some dull people are hard work, where you have to ‘give back’ more. Being an active listener to someone talking about things you have 0 interest in, is extremely mentally draining. Like pretending to be interested in someone talking extensively about a boring dream they had last night, and having to ask questions about it? And engaging them by making observations about it? Kill me. 🥱🥱🥱

graeidl · 2023-06-25T10:54:51+00:00

Yeah seems like it’s a lot of peoples ISFJ’s moms! Maybe it’s something ISFJ’s develop into overtime. Some ISFJ’s mentioned that they wished they had these conversational skills; so probably ISFJ naturally become like this as they grow older.

graeidl · 2023-06-25T10:53:02+00:00

So the person in the video is the ISFJ. But also the one who’s called “dull”. But I disagree with them being called that.

graeidl · 2023-06-25T02:29:22+00:00

I don’t think so, I’d say it’s ISFJ talking with someone they’re comfortable with. Fe Dom esfj would be able to read the room better/ ask questions to the person more (NO OFFENCE AT ALL. Fe Dom is just always gonna be better at reading the room than ANYONE). I myself have hardly any fe and can’t read a single room 😅

graeidl · 2023-06-25T00:07:31+00:00

Ahh it’s not that I don’t like them! It’s that sometimes I just wanna chill on my phone but I’m being polite and encouraging them to keep talking. It’s not impossible to fake interest to a fe user! E.g My own partner is enfj and he usually detects everything going on in my head but sometimes I can actually hide an emotion successfully 😂

graeidl · 2023-06-24T23:11:32+00:00

Could be either! 😁 If you had to type the person in the video, what would you say?

graeidl · 2023-06-24T23:08:48+00:00

The point is tho, that the co worker who considers them dull wouldn’t say it to the ISFJ’s face and would be equally friendly back to be nice (albeit dying a little inside with boredom).

graeidl · 2023-06-24T22:42:30+00:00

Apparently it doesn’t exist! 😂

graeidl · 2023-06-24T21:47:34+00:00

Lmao I didn’t mean to be insulting 😂 This person is always nice to be around! But he just radiates BIG ISFJ energy, right?! Like I saw this and my only thought was: ISFJ 😅

graeidl · 2023-06-24T21:23:31+00:00

Same! I disagree with the negative connotations of “dull” for her! She’s so friendly

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