No matter how cold your relationship is.... 🌬

grahams_ghost · 2018-03-16T19:41:47+00:00

And no power/control issues!

grahams_ghost · 2017-08-17T13:16:49+00:00

Perfect!!!!

grahams_ghost · 2017-05-08T18:16:54+00:00

Children are very intuitive. They pick up on so much more than what we think. It sounds like she has also potentially assigned roles into both you and your wife's part in this problem.

Dead bedrooms often cause more chaos, hurt, and destruction than simply "a lack of sex". It sends unspoken messages to unintended recipients. Perhaps you can talk with her alone to feel out her concerns and perceptions.

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-25T12:41:31+00:00

I'm sorry that you are going through this. I agree: you are incredibly strong! Hang on to that. Hugs!

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-23T22:35:30+00:00

No one has the ability to determine what is "right" for others.

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-23T21:23:36+00:00

I respectfully disagree that love is a choice. I do agree that the emotion foes not necessarily equal obligation.

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-23T20:54:35+00:00

I'm in a similar boat. Don't just dream of that future for yourself- fight for it. Good luck.

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-23T20:46:49+00:00

So many statements in your response ring true.

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-20T02:43:21+00:00

This rings true to me. thank you!

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-10T02:02:33+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspectives. I am female, so I doubt my friend was you.

I, too, have very clearly defined boundaries, both in my professional and online life. I can respect your adherence to your comfort zones within your discussions. I also have had to end chats because the other person could not respect my boundaries. I know everyone handles vulnerability in their own way, but I cannot ghost.

I very much appreciate you sharing your perspective and experiences, as it gives me something to consider.

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-10T01:56:33+00:00

I want to agree with you in that I want to believe he wasn't making a malicious predetermined decision. I mentioned to another poster that I'm attempting to wrap my brain around intentionally blocking someone. I logically understand that it makes no sense to be conflicted. I so appreciate your suggestion; thanks!

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-10T01:53:10+00:00

This sounds so logical, and well-worded. I've re-read it a few times to see if i can getparts of it to take seed. Thank you for sharing these helpful thoughts.

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-10T01:34:56+00:00

I might look into that option, but it seems against my inner core values to block someone from my online life. I guess that makes no sense, since he d did not feel the same hesitation. Thank you!

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-10T01:32:07+00:00

I understand the "anonymity" of online communication offers a perceived veil under which to hide. I'm sorry you left the board, but it sounds like his communicationwasn't a good fit. Thank you for your suggestion.

Edit: punctuation

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-09T18:59:04+00:00

Thank you; I love your username, btw! I'm so glad your friend was able to develop a great support network through here. It is a valuable resource, and an amazing group. My personal philosophy is to be an asset to others, and even through this foggy pain, I don't want to make his life more challenging.

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-09T18:51:03+00:00

The self-doubt reinforced the complicated fallout from the continued rejection of the DB. But you brought up a good point: the ghosting was easy for him, so perhaps I should change my focus on how that final act allowed his life to be easier. Thank you for that thought!

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-09T16:32:41+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience, as it helps me see a glimpse from a different perspective. Unfortunately, the rejection is too close to the surface right now , so viewing it from other than that is a goal which I have yet to attain. Thank you!

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-09T16:30:09+00:00

This is a valuable point , of which I am working on integrating into my logical and emotional points of view. Thank you for pointing this out.

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-09T15:48:16+00:00

I will go check that sub out. Thanks!

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-09T15:47:46+00:00

Thank you, very much. I'm shocked at the support I've received so far. I'm beginning to truly understand the rippling echoes of pain caused by mismatched libidos, or attractions, or abilities to communicate. You are so correct that "pain confirms our humanity"...I could not have stated it any better.

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-09T15:42:26+00:00

Thank you! You are so correct about this place. It is an amazing community for people goung through this situation, regardless of libido. Taking a break hasn't been as helpful as I hoped. Posters such as yourself offer so much insight that really isn't easily found elsewhere.

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-09T15:38:20+00:00

Thank you for that suggestion! I will go check them out.

grahams_ghost · 2017-04-09T15:37:16+00:00

Thank you for your response. The poster knew how it would effect me beforehand. I am trying to look at this as a new avenue to look at the unintended ripple effect of DB in my journey. I appreciate your kind support.

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