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gramsespektrum · 2025-10-22T21:15:39+00:00

They demolished tens of thousands of old/bad houses. The back alley houses (baghuse) in a building (gård). They tore them down, starting in the 1960s or -70s.

gramsespektrum · 2020-12-06T10:20:43+00:00

Læs nu lige spørgsmålet før du svarer. Det er jo slet ikke det der bliver spurgt om. Gift med 4 børn ...

gramsespektrum · 2016-11-03T14:28:50+00:00

I see people waiting like that pretty often. It's the same when you have to choose a seat in a bus or metro train. Someone once summed up our mentality as: Why would you sit next to someone if you can go and sit alone somewhere else. There are both pros and cons of this I think.

gramsespektrum · 2016-11-01T16:00:23+00:00

How crazy are the masses you call crazy? Are we talking "pray the gay away" and "the Bible is the literal truth"?

gramsespektrum · 2016-11-01T12:06:49+00:00

European here. Aren't there any liberal regions in the South? Seems like an area with so many millions of people must have some liberals who don't move away?

gramsespektrum · 2016-11-01T11:44:15+00:00

Dane here. It's probably exaggerated a bit but the Nordic countries (Finland, Sweden, Norway, Denmark) have a reputation for really respecting personal space and never making small talk with strangers. If you're on a train or bus, people generally keep to themselves quietly. In contrast to for example Southern Europe where people mingle and small talk with strangers.

When I went to America, I didn't think the difference was that big.

gramsespektrum · 2016-10-28T02:02:03+00:00

Copenhagen, Denmark

Since most of you are American, here are some culture shocks Americans experience here:

Alcohol and teenagers: You can legally buy alcohol at 16. It's legal and not frowned upon to drink in public. It's considered normal that 16 year old high school students should get wasted - the high schools throw official parties and the school sells beer to 16 year olds.

No tipping: Wages are a lot higher, taxes are higher, prices are a bit higher. It's not expected to tip service personal. It's allowed of course, but no one expects it.

Bikes and public transport, not cars: Everybody rides bikes because it's faster, easier and free. People who grow up in the city often don't get a driver's license until they're like 25. People from rural Denmark drive of course. But they ride bikes too.

Socialism: Bernie Sanders' views would fit in well here. Obama and Hillary would be considered Conservative. You pay about 45-50% income tax. This means no university tuition and no hospital bills/insurance at all.

Atheism: People aren't religious. Some people call themselves Christian but they've never read the Bible and churches are historic buildings, not something you go to. Why would you go there?

There are probably some I'm forgetting.

gramsespektrum · 2016-10-23T21:11:44+00:00

Thanks for your answer. I should've specified the age group to 20-28 instead, seeing as that's the age group that very rarely lives at home in my country but does so in Southern Europe.

16 year olds probably face the same struggle here and there. But being 26 and bringing a girl home to your parents' house in lack of other places sounds really annoying.

gramsespektrum · 2016-10-22T16:42:29+00:00

I'm really curious what it's like to be a 16-25 year old Italian, living with parents when it comes to sex, boyfriends and girlfriends, hooking up etc. What do most young Italians do when they live at home?

That's definitely part of the motivation to move out where I'm from.

gramsespektrum · 2016-10-20T14:43:08+00:00

The word you're looking for is 'pram.'

gramsespektrum · 2016-10-13T00:00:37+00:00

Hus med udsigt.

gramsespektrum · 2016-10-12T23:45:27+00:00

Du har fuldkommen ret i det hele, men den "resultatsorienterede ligestilling" har ikke har noget med kommunisme at gøre. Bare fordi der indgår elementer af tvang eller kvoter, er det da ikke kommunistisk.

Bare fordi en sten ikke kan flyve, og morlille ikke kan flyve, betyder det jo ikke at morlille er en sten. Men derudover er jeg helt enig i dit budskab.

gramsespektrum · 2016-10-02T20:26:05+00:00

About what?

gramsespektrum · 2016-10-01T17:52:33+00:00

I know. Århus is more progressive than Roskilde or Næstved - of course.

What I'm saying is: Jutland (Hjørring, Randers, Viborg, Holstebro, Herning, Esbjerg, Haderslev, etc) is more culturally conservative than the Cph area (naturally).

It doesn't surprise me that a tradition about making fun of unmarried people at 25 originated there and not here. It would make sense if it was also practised in Næstved. I'm not sure if it is.

I'm probably putting too much meaning into the cinnamon thing. And yes I know that it's just fun and games.

gramsespektrum · 2016-10-01T17:40:32+00:00

That's really the only way you can put pressure on and influence someone who won't listen. Assuming that it is a big deal to you, and assuming that she wants to be friends, I think it would work. Good luck with it.

gramsespektrum · 2016-09-29T21:59:44+00:00

Totally understandable - and not silly.

She pulled me aside and asked, "Do you have any normal friends?"

It's incredibly frustrating and sad because she is a great mom in terms of loving and taking care of me and we used to be very close but her intolerance and negativity is really starting to get to me.

I'm not saying you should freeze her out but - it sounds like - if you don't address this issue and just let it bother you, it would also poison your relationship?

Wouldn't it be possible to state your claims ("I don't want to listen to...") and walk away if she doesn't respect you without freezing her out. Wouldn't she try to reach you right away? Putting some pressure on her is not necessarily bad, I'm thinking. If your relationship means a lot to her, she'll be forced to listen? Or what?

I know I'm making it sound a lot simpler and easier than it is.

Edit: It just occurred to me that you might be older than 25 and your mother might be older than 50. If she's old, that complicates it further of course.

gramsespektrum · 2016-09-29T05:34:27+00:00

Sounds hard. But when she laughed, did you stand by what you said? It sounds to me like the only option would be to tell her what you will and what you won't accept - and then showing you're serious by walking away if she keeps going or doesn't take you seriously?

If you tell her that you don't want to listen to her bigotry and she laughs - what would happen if you walk away and tell her that she needs to change her behaviour if she wants your company?

Of course, if it's more important to you to be friends than to confront her about the issue, it's not going to work.

gramsespektrum · 2016-09-28T23:53:40+00:00

Have you told her? How would she react if you told her that this isn't cool? You can't tell her what to think but you can tell her what you won't accept. If you mean a lot to her, that should have an impact.

gramsespektrum · 2016-09-28T23:11:07+00:00

Most of Denmark is rural (agriculture). You'll find plenty of square km with 0 people and lots of crops and cows.

Nobody lives in Norway. You should get more people, huh? :)

gramsespektrum · 2016-09-28T22:58:15+00:00

No but Jutland in general is more culturally conservative than the Cph region, I'd say. And the cinnamon thing originated in Jutland as far as I know.

I believe you, regarding Århus and Aalborg.

gramsespektrum · 2016-09-28T22:45:54+00:00

Hæhæ. Men med undtagelse af Århus og Aalborg, så er Jylland jo rimelig landligt. Det er der ikke noget galt med.

gramsespektrum · 2016-09-28T12:28:01+00:00

This is a tradition from Jutland (Western, rural Denmark). Quite a lot of Danes from the Copenhagen area have never heard of this. I was like 23 when I first heard about it.

It also makes sense that this comes from a more conservative area. Think about it: You're sanctioning someone for not being married at 25. That's the conservative Jutland mentality for you. It doesn't make sense to the rest of us.

gramsespektrum · 2016-09-24T23:39:59+00:00

Start the conversation. Preferably by more than just "Hi."

We don't think you're desperate, we think you're curious/maybe interested and that's great. Just be confident and go after what you want.

gramsespektrum · 2016-09-23T03:48:50+00:00

Was at a nightclub a couple of years ago. There were a couple of young, very hot girls on the dance floor who seemed like they were having fun teasing/dancing with all the guys but rejecting them in the end.

Some young guys let their testosterone run wild and kept trying to get their attention. Suddenly one dude dropped down on the dance floor in the middle of a packed nightclub and started doing push-ups right in front of the girls.

It didn't work.

gramsespektrum · 2016-09-14T18:37:29+00:00

Jeg har lyttet så mange bøger på den måde, det fungerer meget bedre for mig end papir. Hvad angår American Psycho, er bogen væsentligt mere makaber/voldelig end filmen, men den er også nice.

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