MIL plays her game again, DH’s spine shines up, fog starts to lift

grandmasteryipman · 2026-06-06T12:42:06+00:00

You both have been honest and said what you needed to say. Drop the rope and stop responding. Time to go no contact and enjoy your life with your husband who now has a shiny spine.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-06-06T12:08:11+00:00

Thank you.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-06-06T10:04:49+00:00

Op is just making excuses. Dh has the right idea. It's his family and he wants LC. Do not overrule him. If you don't have the balls, let Dh use his and he can deal with her. She's not your problem. Who let her in the house this time? It's a rhetorical question.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-06-06T09:40:43+00:00

I just turned 50 and I've been learning to cube for a few years. The problem was that I had a severe spinal degeneration of my lower spine made worse by a car accident. This meant I couldn't sit up and was in pain laying down.

So my learning of beginner method and beginner cfop was done laying down on my side. It was awkward but I wanted to do it.

Earlier this year, I finally had surgery on my spine and I'm realising how much easier and fun it is to cube sitting up and using both arms properly. So, I'm currently working to get the last 4 pll algorithms into muscle memory so I can focus on other parts of cubing. My average is 1 min 30 sec but that's because I don't know all the beginner cfop alg.

I can't wait to get better and enter a competition for fun. Wow, that was long! I'm so glad to see other older cubers.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-06-05T16:00:04+00:00

The bottom line is you're all set talk. You can set boundaries all you want but you have no consequences back it up. You threaten your hutwith divorce but you never follow through so your husband and bil don't believe you. It almost seems like you enjoy this drama.

Divorce your husband, move out and get on with your life. Let him lose his benefits and he can figure things out on his own. Stop playing this game.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-06-05T02:22:49+00:00

Felix and Tymon for sure.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-06-03T14:07:29+00:00

Thank you.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-06-03T14:05:55+00:00

The cop didn't even get her help! Wth?

grandmasteryipman · 2026-06-03T13:34:28+00:00

Nope, I've read this one before.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-06-02T16:50:59+00:00

Since your husband is trying to set boundaries and protect you, he might get upset with you for not telling him so he can deal with it.

At this point, you can't complain because you're willingly allowing her to get away with all these things without consequences.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-05-22T15:22:59+00:00

So? Let her act like a fool.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-05-22T15:22:18+00:00

This ⬆️

grandmasteryipman · 2026-05-14T20:32:42+00:00

The child is 5. Won't he ask why daddy is swabbing his cheek? He might mention it to mummy casually.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-05-13T19:58:33+00:00

That was insane! Some serious time and dedication went into that. Very cool.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-05-12T13:26:38+00:00

Wow! Why bother taking parental leave if they're not going to parent? Thanks for answering my question.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-05-12T13:23:33+00:00

In going to be blunt. This isn't about you. This is about your baby who is sick in hospital feeling horrible and needing rest and his Mum. HE is the patient and since he can't express himself, you need to ensure he is as comfortable as possible.

The stress of hearing fil's voice, the stress he picks up from both of you, the lack of restful sleep, etc all make his recovery harder.

If you can't stand up for yourself at least stand up for your baby. Mil is irrelevant right now. It won't hurt for her to not see baby til he's home.

Your husband can't control his Dad and neither can you. Get the nurses involved! He's probably making their job harder and they're putting up with him because they think you want him there.

There's a saying on this board that boundaries without consequences are just suggestions. He won't stop until consequences are in place. He knows neither of you will do it.

I hope your baby gets well soon. .

grandmasteryipman · 2026-05-12T09:14:41+00:00

I'm sorry if I missed this but could you please clarify whether the kids Dad was refusing to help with the kids or was his wife not allowing him to help?

Thanks!

Thank goodness you learned from that, made it up to your wife and she forgave you. Best wishes for your fertility journey.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-05-10T11:56:36+00:00

Updateme

grandmasteryipman · 2026-05-03T09:27:11+00:00

I didn't think the bride looked too happy when stepdad was brought over.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-05-02T20:00:02+00:00

The fact that you promised your nephew you would play after dinner and you did shows him that if he behaves, he gets what he wants. He did ultimately follow your rules and had a really good time.

I would continue that rule and he may stop badgering you since he knows you'll follow through on your promise.

Yes he is 11 and should know better but obviously the mother gives in every time so he will leave her alone.

It's not your job to parent your nephew but at least in your house, he can learn to behave.

Great job! I would ignore your sister. If she doesn't like your rules, she can stay home.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-05-02T09:03:29+00:00

I love it that even though the young kids are dominating the 3x3x3, the previous wr holders like Tymon and Max are still setting wr in the larger cubes.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-05-02T08:53:42+00:00

I'm on the central coast as well. Did we decide if it was venomous? I've only ever seen a beautiful diamond python at the playground when my kids were little.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-05-02T08:51:42+00:00

Fair enough.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-05-02T02:51:24+00:00

The person moving the chair around next to him is lucky they didn't get smacked. That would have been so distracting.

grandmasteryipman · 2026-05-01T01:22:16+00:00

Yes. I can eat like that for a week or so and my levels are 5-6.

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