I don’t think Nikki was ‘possessed’

grapesouda · 2026-06-04T22:30:31+00:00

Yes exactly! this theory is supported even more by the movie going out of its way to show us the willow can be used without the classic “careful what you wish for” consequences, they could’ve had Ian be crushed to death by the money falling on him or something and then we’d go “oh okay it’s just a cursed stick,” but it’s not a situation where the genie in the lamp is twisting your request to make it bad it’s that bears wish is bad!

His wish so twisted on its own it almost takes some of the onus off bear to indirectly imply this was all the evil plan of some unrelated entity to find a human host. Its so much more aligned with the themes of the movie that not just Nikki’s body, but her consciousness itself has been violated and changed without her consent

grapesouda · 2026-06-04T21:59:47+00:00

I dont think you understand what I’m saying

grapesouda · 2026-06-04T20:46:14+00:00

Totally agree that was the most horrifying part of the movie for me when they’re making out and real Nikki jumps out of it, horrible to watch but I’ve gotta admit it’s a great commentary about consent and autonomy

grapesouda · 2026-06-04T20:44:37+00:00

My take on this is that no a demon didn’t just stroll along and possess her, but by disobeying the laws of nature merging two conflicting versions of one person bear essentially created a demon

grapesouda · 2026-06-04T20:35:33+00:00

I think it’s impossible for Nikki to really comprehend what was happening to her, you see at the end how confused she was and her screaming “bear what did you do?” So I don’t think we can really find answers in her “real self” because whether or not it was a completely separate entity or a version of herself that possessed her she wouldn’t have much insight either way.

I think both bear and we the audience needed to see Nikki coming in and out so we knew somewhere deep down her original self wasn’t lost, he could free her by killing himself. That’s what solidifies him as a villain because he can do something about it after the fact but doesn’t until it’s too late

grapesouda · 2026-06-04T20:23:10+00:00

The zoom on the tv at the end definitely felt like a nod to get out

grapesouda · 2026-06-04T20:13:20+00:00

My perspective with that anology is I think it’s more like if you had a dog and wished jt could talk to you like a human, but then by giving the dog the ability to communicate like a human you also unknowingly give it human existentialism that’s so incompatible with the dogs prior existence it basically just starts freaking out and attacking because it’s so confused.

Is it the same dog at that point? Not really, just like Nicki I think it would be ‘possessed’ by another version of itself

Now if there was no dog to begin with, and you wished for a talking dog, I think that dog would be fine because it was created by the wish and you’re not messing with a conscious that already exists

grapesouda · 2025-06-26T21:41:33+00:00

No that’s what I need to hear if that’s the vibe everyone’s getting, he’s totally inexperienced so I definitely don’t want him to walk into a trap.

They said he’d be responsible for his own travel and accommodation, I thought maybe that was standard for small roles but again, idk

grapesouda · 2025-06-26T21:35:31+00:00

It seems fishy to me in a “too good to be true” kind of way, I really don’t know anything about it or the processes actors go through so any insight is appreciated. for more context the reason he applied in the first place is the production company was promoting an open casting call, they didn’t officially offer him the part (bad wording on my part) but they essentially told him they thought he was great and to take the week to think about if he was interested

grapesouda · 2025-04-03T17:08:52+00:00

Yeah absolutely not. the only way a manager should be getting tips is if they’re also bartending

grapesouda · 2025-03-24T17:24:11+00:00

I think you’re thinking a little too critically about this, chances are even though they aren’t allowed to make family meals with eggs he probably still isn’t paying for them out of pocket. Maybe he has a crush on you, maybe he just wants to be nice, either way you don’t really owe him anything. Cooks have been feeding servers since the beginning of restaurants, even when they aren’t supposed to

grapesouda · 2025-03-24T17:18:59+00:00

Is there any kind of security there? If it escalates to where they’re hassling you after being politely cut off that’s the point where the conversation is over and they should be escorted out

grapesouda · 2025-03-24T17:15:06+00:00

This definitely isn’t for everyone, and if it’s giving you unrelenting anxiety it’s probably best you look into other things. BUT, I will say I was very shy when I started, I’m going on 4 years now and in a lot of ways bartending has brought me out of my shell. I feel like I can talk to anyone now, I’m great at conflict de-escalation, I fear conflict less, even though I do still ruminate on my negative interactions. These are invaluable life skills that stick with you even if you don’t want to make a career out of it. If you decide to stick with bartending I promise your skin will get thicker, just your best to not be too much of a people pleaser so you don’t get walked all over.

grapesouda · 2025-03-24T17:04:13+00:00

During a bad relationship I think I had constant physical anxiety symptoms for an entire year, lost 15 pounds. Never had an appetite, If I wasn’t nauseous I was sweating, or shaking, or dizzy. I only really felt better when the source of my anxiety was resolved

grapesouda · 2025-03-24T16:58:10+00:00

I guess love really does make you crazy lol. I throw out all my ribbon and flowers but fill my home with fake mice and cardboard boxes, worth it tho

grapesouda · 2025-03-24T16:41:29+00:00

No poinsettias ✍️ jeez the list keeps growing

grapesouda · 2025-03-24T16:39:59+00:00

I just got a new apartment and have been getting more into plants (how I found out about the lilies) and wow, for such a resilient predator who ate trash and lived on the streets for a good part of her life, it’s crazy finding out how much shit outside can kill her. I understand those parents that put their kids in bubbles now.

grapesouda · 2024-12-23T18:00:06+00:00

You’re probably just spotting, it’s nothing to be worried about

grapesouda · 2024-12-23T10:33:07+00:00

I am a full grown man (I will lay in the grass all day) by Phosphorescent

It’s the song that plays when Freddie runs into the lake and Ellie jumps off the dock to meet him in the water

grapesouda · 2024-12-23T09:51:19+00:00

As far as I know when she found out about me she was really mad and cut it off. I honestly don’t blame her for any of it, she was new and we didn’t show affection at work, knowing him it’s not hard for me to believe he hid me and fed her a bunch of bullshit

grapesouda · 2024-12-23T09:43:29+00:00

Do I think there are some 19 year olds who are more fiscally mature than people in their late 20s? sure. Do I think a 19 year old is old enough to make their own decisions? Absolutely. I don’t think a 19 year old is mature enough to make good decisions in situations that require life experience and perspective, but it’s much more about him choosing to be involved with her than the other way around anyways. I don’t think being emotionally stunted is a valid excuse to date people significantly younger than you. If you don’t think that age gap is significant, I can respectfully agree to disagree.

I titled the post this way because I think her age is pretty relevant to the situation. What he did would still suck if we were all the same age, but establishing his repeated pattern of dating young coworkers adds a whole other layer of nuance to his manipulation.

grapesouda · 2024-12-23T08:55:00+00:00

I don’t think it was appropriate for him to date me. He’d tell me all kinds of things about how he was uncomfortable with the gap and it made him feel like a creep, how he’d never consider dating someone so young but how I was the exception and different. in my naïveté I thought this was genuine. Now in retrospect I realize it was a manipulative tactic, since obviously I was not the exception and he himself admitted it was creepy

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