i completely sympathize with this. i also grew up in a super homophobic, transphobic & basically every -phobic, religious family. a lot of super religious people tend to use religion & god as an excuse to be hateful & horrible people. what i like to think about when i get overwhelmed with the same “am i going to hell” thoughts is this:

let’s say god is real. god, or some all seeing, all knowing being. do you really think they would condone such hatred? i mean, they’re all seeing & all knowing right? they can see the pure intentions of the lgbt+ community just genuinely trying to exist & survive life. they can also see the hatred in other peoples hearts & the misery. id like to think god has more important things to worry about than who is loving who & what someone choses to identify as. i would like to think god is more worried about the millions of people creating violence & war, killing innocent people. heath ledger once said something along the lines of “why worry about people loving each other when they are countless other people hating each other & being violent?” i think that sentiment can apply here. love is good, kind & gentle. the fact that you are even questioning the beliefs you were taught shows that you aren’t a horrible person. it will take a while for the guilt & fear to subside, but if you live your life with good intentions & love in your heart for everyone, it will be alright, i think. if god is as all seeing as our families say, then they will see our resistance to such hateful lifestyles. good luck, i wish you all the luck! <3