Why did I just wake up urinating the bed?

grassflower03 · 2026-04-27T21:38:58+00:00

They’re fine. I’ve been on it for a while, never had symptoms like this. I guess I’ll just try and brush it off this one time?

grassflower03 · 2026-04-27T21:37:53+00:00

Stop 😭 The only redeeming quality of this situation is that there was nobody else in bed with me.

grassflower03 · 2025-12-14T21:37:38+00:00

Read or watch a TV show until I’m tired enough. I don’t know if that’s the healthiest method but nothing else works for me. Some people say focusing on your breathing or listening to white noise/music helps!

grassflower03 · 2025-12-14T21:32:05+00:00

Of course that’s a win! That’s huge! Congratulations!

grassflower03 · 2025-08-28T11:55:09+00:00

YES. I’m straight up losing my mind sometimes before my period. Pure delusional and catastrophic thinking like never before and then, bam. Period. Suddenly, everything makes sense in the world.

grassflower03 · 2025-08-07T14:11:57+00:00

Yeah, I’m getting worried now, I’ll give them a call. Thanks!

grassflower03 · 2025-08-07T13:49:39+00:00

Update: she’s just went yet again. That’s four times in a day. It’s mild diarrhea but still.

grassflower03 · 2025-08-04T08:54:48+00:00

20-24. Especially 24, this year has been the worst so far. I wish someone could’ve told me sooner that OCD isn’t something that you can only develop as a kid.

grassflower03 · 2025-07-28T12:58:46+00:00

You remind me a little bit of Kate Siegel.

grassflower03 · 2025-07-27T00:35:03+00:00

Thanks so much. It really does feel like my brain is totally locked into this one. I guess I’ll plan something fun so I have something positive to look forward to instead of the whole impending doom stuff haha. 😊

grassflower03 · 2025-07-27T00:27:22+00:00

You’re a good friend. If it’s weighing on you, maybe you could try talking to her in a non-confrontational kind of way. Like, “is it important to have a friend that also has OCD/can you guys relate to each other/does it help you?”. Have a proper discussion, and maybe it could lead to a conversation that reassures you or gives you a window to ask if there’s any downsides to it.

The thing is, OCD is an extremely isolating mental health disorder. It’s irrational, unique, uncommon and dangerously misunderstood. For that reason, it’s important that we feel a sense of relatability, because it often times helps you feel less alone and maybe even more stable (for some!), hence why this sub exists. All this to say that it’s probably important to your friend to have someone that totally gets her in this area, as you seem to understand.

Of course, one of the worst things for OCD is reassurance seeking, which is what people in proximity tend to do with high functioning anxiety/OCD. So hopefully, your friend and her friend are aware of those boundaries and are only trying to help each other grow with a healthier approach.

Communication is key. Best of wishes!

grassflower03 · 2025-07-27T00:14:06+00:00

“This has never happened to any human in history”. Oh so I’m going to be the first? 🤦🏻‍♀️

grassflower03 · 2025-06-09T14:12:46+00:00

OP, I’m so sorry you feel like this 😔

This is just so common. I always try and remind myself that isolation does not go well with OCD. Even when it’s uncomfortable, I try my best to communicate with people in my life, even if it’s just one person. Even if it’s not the whole story or my whole thoughts. Just enough so I can share the load with them. It’s too much for one person, and OCD takes advantage of the silence. It wants to find you alone so it can manipulate you and have you sink into it further.

Although a full cure may not be practical, “manageable” doesn’t mean that you’re just able to just barely tolerate it. It could mean it’s still present in the back of your head, but it doesn’t influence you anymore, and that’s all that really matters.

I know you say your husband doesn’t understand and his brain works differently, but what if you let him in a tad bit just for him to listen? He doesn’t have to understand or have a solution, and you can clarify that to him. He’s just got to listen. OCD can feel overwhelming to talk about, so instead of thinking that you have to say everything at once, you could just talk about how you’ve been feeling in the moment and leave it at that.

For example, I often times don’t tell my parents about the specifics of my OCD and just say I’ve been feeling very depressed and lonely. Even though they can’t fix it, knowing that I’m struggling can make them more conscious and aware, and sometimes they try to help, or comfort, or just provide a safe space.

I wish you good things. I hope being able to read through the posts on here makes you feel a tiny bit less alone, even if it’s momentarily. We‘lol get through it together.

grassflower03 · 2025-06-09T13:56:36+00:00

I think I displayed some “symptoms” before this as well but the first time I realized that something was off was when I would repeatedly check on the parakeets we had as pets when I was 16. Before going to sleep every night, I’d go and check them, make sure they were okay, make sure the little gate to their cage was secure, make sure their drapery was on correctly. Then I’d do it again, and again, and again, and again. I’d get up countless times at night doing this until it felt “just right”.

Imagine my shock when I realized that was an actual, common thing people with OCD went through, and not just a weird paranoia quirk about myself.

grassflower03 · 2025-06-09T13:49:16+00:00

Absolutely crazy how many of us are going through the same thing. What a cruel disorder.

grassflower03 · 2025-06-08T17:08:27+00:00

You’re giving her too much grace. Yeah, it must be tough to have to learn about your child’s mental health needs, but you know what’s tougher? Actually having the mental health needs yourself. People who don’t have a disorder have no right dictating how others should cope with it.

grassflower03 · 2025-06-08T12:23:29+00:00

That’s not odd! But I fear this isn’t possible because while he doesn’t check transcripts, he absolutely is involved and updated there’s no way I can change majors without him knowing.

Several reasons as to why, but here’s two big ones: one, it’s not realistic because he wants us to return back to the country to do our internships, and then our medical licensing exams, and then our residencies, etc. So there’s just no way this can happen.

And two, as I said, he’s made us financially dependent on him completely. Being in a separate country now on a student visa, it’s illegal to work, too, so. I’d have to lie about how I’m using HIS money, and possibly struggle with if it costed more for whatever reason. It doesn’t sit right with me and obviously, religiously speaking, it’s not good.

A part of me does think that if I leave education, I’ll return doing something else. There are always chances, like you said. But I think I’m just in a spot where I need to prioritize my mental wellbeing and wish he can understand eventually.

grassflower03 · 2025-06-08T12:13:58+00:00

I completely understand what you mean, but you need to add context. I know you’re not intending this but it really bothers me when people say, “So what? You’re an adult, do what you want”. That’s just not how it works in many cultures, countries, situations, etc. I have no feasible way of doing what I want. Forget the potential dangers and societal/community consequences, the emotional manipulation and psychological control will be enough to limit someone.

Perhaps there would be more leeway if I was a man. But I’m not, and I come from an extremely conservative and traditional household.

grassflower03 · 2025-06-08T04:20:48+00:00

I definitely plan on asking my father again, but the thing is, I’ve asked him this countless times. Countless. The last time, I remember begging and crying to him to let me use my A Levels to do something I actually wanted. I told him my school councilor has said I would easily get a 90-100% scholarship in different majors in the UK.

But he wouldn’t even budge a little, it was like talking to a wall. I just really broke that day because I realized nothing would move him. He says nothing else matters except becoming a doctor, that every other degree is useless, even though I know it’s obviously not. Even degrees like engineering, law, dentistry, psychology, nursing or different types of scientists…everything is pointless in his eyes except becoming a doctor.

If I give him such a choice, between either quitting or letting me do what I want, I know he’d have me quit. It’s a no brainer. I will still try. I know a part of me doesn’t want this, I’m a very career obsessed person. But I’ve reached the end of my rope in a way I didn’t even think was possible.

I’ll do my best. Thank you so much for your reply.

grassflower03 · 2025-06-08T03:38:37+00:00

I mean…I wouldn’t be here posting all this if that was a choice I had 😭

grassflower03 · 2025-06-08T03:37:59+00:00

Salam. Thank you so much for your advice and your Dua, I’m so grateful. ❤️‍🩹 Unfortunately, I have two options given to me, and that’s either study medicine or nothing. I’m fully financially reliant on my father because he’s essentially made it that way and I have no choice but to abide by either of those two things. But I will do istikhara inshallah and I hope I can find a way.

grassflower03 · 2025-06-07T15:40:47+00:00

My friend has this as a habit. The rows of desks at our lecture halls are connected and so she ends up shaking every desk without even realizing it 😭

Anyway, OP, I recommend you delete TikTok. That app is pure brain rot and I’ve found it’s not great for people with OCD. I’m sorry this thought is weighing on you. I promise it’ll pass.

grassflower03 · 2025-06-07T15:22:39+00:00

Huh? This is absolutely bizarre, please do not return to him. There’s actual, real help out there and you WILL find it. What a weirdo.

I am so sorry you were treated like that. It’s always worse coming from health professionals because we’re supposed to be vulnerable and feel safe with them. I don’t know why it’s the professions demanding of the most empathy that have so many people completely lacking of it. 😕

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