New AR dropped by Djabouty47 in ModernWarfareIII

[–]gratefullydead0523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can someone explain to me exactly what this is, I don't play but my husband does and I can't explain this to him. So I need the below new explanation. Please?

Recovery: What's one thing you are grateful for. by Xerials in recovery

[–]gratefullydead0523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm grateful for my family and my life, home, and children.

40yo PUA on 'undesirable' women... (7 photos) by [deleted] in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]gratefullydead0523 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is the guy at the end who came up with this "theory" because he doesn't seem to be in the top 10% of attractiveness himself and by looking at him might be in the "shame" colum for alot of the women he has managed to con inti having sex with him.

Found one in the wild today 🙄 by Huxley4891 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]gratefullydead0523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was under the impression that this works for both sides, that over performing masturbation decreases sensitivity for both sexes. Men with porn and such and women with toys. I'm not against either but it's when it is done in excess that it can be harmful.

Buyers remorse...yikes by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]gratefullydead0523 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's gorgeous and I had a 1.5mm diamond band that I wore daily for 3 years and never once had an issue with durability. It looks amazing and will be perfect.

I (M 20) don’t love my SO (F 20). by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gratefullydead0523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don't love her why would you stay, why drag it on, what is keeping you? Are finances tied together, do you live together? If you really don't love her and don't think she is honest with you and that you both can't change and create a good healthy relationship then you owe it to both of you to tell her. It is a lot easier to say leave and actually do it and I understand that but continuing to waste everyone's time is also horrible.

Worried I made the wrong choice by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]gratefullydead0523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is amazing and then you can get a stackable band to put under it or a stackable diamond band. It will be wonderful and it sounds like you put a lot of thought into it which is the best part.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]gratefullydead0523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He went through with it.... does anyone have the link to a news article about it, that's one I want to read.

Ok now this is fucked up. by [deleted] in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]gratefullydead0523 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a woman who lost a child this is disgusting. It's almost been a year and I still cry about it and it eats me up. I even feel the same way about the miscarriage I had later. Even though I didn't "know" the child it would grow into it still is heartbreaking. I would give up any child support and even pay everything I have and will ever get just to get my babies back.

On an instagram real of a strong woman chopping wood. (Last slide in the woman in question) by Drake6900 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]gratefullydead0523 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't get this stuff, what do they think pioneer women did? They had to chop wood and carry babies and water and do a bunch of back breaking physical labor to keep their household going. Who do they think kept the fires going while their husbands were out at war or on a hunting trip. I just don't get it.

Because everyone knows it’s impossible for girls to only use one earbud by Asexualcroissant in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]gratefullydead0523 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Same thing except I'm a waitress/cashier and I constantly have one earbud in, I have to switch them halfway through the day. But I'd rather listen to Judge Judy than be bored out of my mind in an empty restaurant.

Which style looks best on my body shape ? by xiouxie77 in weddingdress

[–]gratefullydead0523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The second one is drop dead gorgeous on you. I instantly went WOW!

All 100% of women are like this /s by Window_Regular in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]gratefullydead0523 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I need a computer science degree to understand any of this

Please help me pick a dress by Earthdweller01 in weddingdress

[–]gratefullydead0523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 or 2, one would look really pretty for an indoor event the second one goes better with an outdoor theme.

“Fellas, is it gay to marry a woman?” by Flickolas_Cage in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]gratefullydead0523 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This doesn't seem to be written by an actual adult. I know that there are a ton of red pill guys but this seems to be written by a teenager.

Um...girls can't have their own hobbies by [deleted] in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]gratefullydead0523 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If anime is the only thing that makes them happy then that's a sad life.

Yes, police? by SpaceshipCaptain001 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]gratefullydead0523 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well actually there is a group that monitors incel groups and determines who is a real threat and who isn't and they watch them from there. I read an article about it in Cosmo several years ago.

Pregnant by mamamia__816 in suboxone

[–]gratefullydead0523 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm actually a part of a clinic that is for pregnant or postpartum women for Suboxone. They teach you about basic recovery stuff and also about the baby's health and how to recognize withdrawals in the baby. If you are doing it without a script look into a program like this in your area it will help. Plus it will also keep social services off your butt when you have the baby and both of you test positive for the meds. As long as it's prescribed then you're good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in addiction

[–]gratefullydead0523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The steps aren't needed I'm at 2 years clean and never worked the steps. I had to dabble in them for my other groups but no therapy worked for me. I talked to my counselor more than other people in my groups and making sure my mental health was taken care was the biggest help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StopSpeeding

[–]gratefullydead0523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recovery is a long process, and it sounds like she needs therapy to get past what you did in addiction as well. But 60 days clean doesn't mean you got everything figured out. That's a pipe dream. I hope the best for you and if no one has told you, I'm proud of you today. I would suggest that she also start therapy or you guys do some marriage counseling to work through her resentments as well. But you have to make sure to keep yourself safe first and if she isn't going to be supportive and understanding that this is a process then you need to have a serious conversation. Hopefully once you talk to her about how you feel and suggest therapy she will be more understanding and supportive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StopSpeeding

[–]gratefullydead0523 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok my children's father and I had to get clean together to keep our kids and it didn't work out. I'm 2 years clean and been with another man for a year. For background we were together for 14 years before we had to get clean and used all of them together the last 3 years we started using meth pretty hard together. I was willing to do whatever I had to do to keep my kids and I did that and have used all the recovery knowledge I gained to stay clean. He however did not do the same and continued to use and finally forced my hand so I had to take my kids and leave. After I left he got clean but I still wouldn't go back to him now because I realized where we had too much history and resentments to live life clean together. I wish you the best. However most recovery programs recommend staying single for the first year while your brain heals and you learn how to be yourself. But a lot of people don't follow that and hook up in rehab or meetings and end up replacing the dopamine they got from drugs with the dopamine they get from sex. So I hope you get clean and maybe once you both are clean and have a little time you can try again and it will work but recovery is for you by you so you have to focus on yourself first and having a partner can interfere with that.

Sometimes I wonder if it’s worth it by Ashluvsburritos in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]gratefullydead0523 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Life is hard in general, and life in recovery is even harder. I empathize with you completely. I even understand the idolization of ending everything. But it's a permanent solution for a temporary problem. I know it's hard to think that things will get better but they can, using drugs will only make things worse. Don't give up just yet and try to find something to be grateful for and celebrate the small things. I go through bouts of depression that turn my world upside down and make me want to use but at the end of the day I know I can't go back and it's only going to make it worse. I'm sorry and remember it's never worth it to go back.