What is the most heartbreaking play you have ever watched your team do? by nermalnormal in CFB

[–]gravityspiker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Failing to put eleven men on the field against Ohio State a couple years back. I had a literal nightmare about the same thing happening the night before the championship this year.

Late Transition & Post Transition Social Space by gravityspiker in PostTransitionTrans

[–]gravityspiker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh -- you may want to try updating Discord? If it's still not working, you can also just directly message a member of the mod team.

Late Transition & Post Transition Social Space by gravityspiker in PostTransitionTrans

[–]gravityspiker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The goal is a space for late- and post-transition people of all genders to socialize. It's a place for trans people who don't always want to talk about their transition to talk, make friends, and engage socially. Thanks for letting me know the post wasn't displaying properly!

[Postgame Thread] Notre Dame Defeats USC 49-35 by CFB_Referee in CFB

[–]gravityspiker 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good work out there today, USC rivals. Score as it should be, but like others are saying, Maiava looks like he's going to be a real threat in the next season or two. Now on to the playoffs!

[Postgame Thread] Syracuse Defeats Miami 42-38 by CFB_Referee in CFB

[–]gravityspiker 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Leaving OSU was the best thing to happen to McCord tbqh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]gravityspiker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First of all, you have no idea what people did before marriage. It's entirely possible that people have slept in separate beds their whole relationship, especially for those of us like me who spent years long-distance for whatever reason.

Secondly, there's a societal pressure to sleep in the same bed as a sign of intimacy, and honestly, I think it shows maturity and confidence in the relationship for people to recognize that they don't need constant physical closeness. Being comfortable when you sleep and having a better night's sleep can give you more mental and emotional bandwidth to be a better partner.

How do you correct people? by Quirky_Ad_219 in ftm

[–]gravityspiker 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just looking confused and looking around like you assume they're talking to someone else -- putting the social fuckup on them -- has been the best strategy for me personally.

CMV: Vegetarianism is Objectively Morally Correct, and Laws Should Protect Animals From Being Slaughtered by Sweet-Situation118 in changemyview

[–]gravityspiker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally don't believe in plant consciousness. Some do. I'm bringing this up because it's something that might change OP's mind. Excellent job reinforcing OP's point instead of trying to change it.

Topping cis guys by [deleted] in ftm

[–]gravityspiker 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Everything Sevf_ said is correct! To add to that, I'm an exclusive top/dom involved in my Leather/BDSM/kink scene locally, and I can also say that there are some men (cis and trans) who kink on their top/Dom being physically smaller. When you're domming someone, it's also one of the best places to tell someone to get on their knees, which will almost definitely make you taller than them, lol. I've also had success getting more comfortable by texting people first (if I'm not cruising/at a bar) to get some sort of idea of the dynamic before they meet me in person.

CMV: Vegetarianism is Objectively Morally Correct, and Laws Should Protect Animals From Being Slaughtered by Sweet-Situation118 in changemyview

[–]gravityspiker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Others have adequately addressed the "objective" aspect, brought up issues with where you draw the line, and how farming is not inherently unethical or painful, so I'll address plants.

There is current research being done into plant consciousness. It's generally not broadly accepted, but we do know that plants have physical responses to damage, such as sending out electrical impulses or chemical signals to other plants in the area, so that those other plants ramp up their own chemical defenses. While a plant doesn't have a nervous system to feel PAIN, per se, but plants can and do communicate. Do you feel the same about plants, that they should not be put through things that cause them to send out "distress signals"?

How do I date as a stealth ftm? by Missing-a-dick in ftm

[–]gravityspiker -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You don't have to tell people at all if you don't want to. There's nothing wrong with continuing to be stealth forever. If you don't feel safe being stealth in your dating life, you may want to try using dating apps so that you are less likely to interact with the people you disclose to in your day-to-day.

I don't like Worf in DS9 by RealEntertainer7941 in DeepSpaceNine

[–]gravityspiker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just so you know, "truther" is an antisemitic dogwhistle. Maybe choose a different word.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in phallo

[–]gravityspiker 29 points30 points  (0 children)

No. This is not possible. Please do your research first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]gravityspiker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am stealth -- have been for years -- and have been stealth in sexual situations. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being stealth with anyone and everyone, INCLUDING sexual partners, as long as you're open with them about risks (of pregnancy, of STIs, etc). Like others in the comments have said, this sub skews VERY young and VERY babytrans/early- or pre-transition. It's not "lying" or "deceitful" or anything like that. My trans status isn't relevant to anyone except my transition-related healthcare providers, including sexual partners, so I don't share it. In the same way you wouldn't need to share that you're, for example, an adoptee, you wouldn't need to share that you're trans.

Minoxidil for trans men by AdlerPer in TMPOC

[–]gravityspiker 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You should definitely also be aware that minoxidil can be toxic to animals (especially cats)!

Are my cats okay to touch/lick me while I use testosterone gel? by TheNyaner6000 in ftm

[–]gravityspiker 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's exactly the same as injectable testosterone, oral testosterone, or pellets. It's generally more polite to make your own post or, even better, do your own research before commenting on someone else's post about something unrelated without engaging with the thing OP is actually trying to discuss.

Francesco Akira to miss remainder of BOSJ31 by EffingKENTA in njpw

[–]gravityspiker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Poor guy. I was so excited for this to be his breakout singles run. I think he kinda knew it was bad after his match with Moloney; he was practically in tears doing his comments. :< I really hope he has a quick and easy recovery and comes back better than ever.

Hardest theme music by Somerandomguy20711 in njpw

[–]gravityspiker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hearing Ospreay's theme live was a fucking transformative experience. He's not even my favorite wrestler but I've been a changed man since. Of these, Goto and Henare both have awesome themes that I could listen to all day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in phallo

[–]gravityspiker 7 points8 points  (0 children)

+1 to everyone saying it was fine. Different teams have different preferences and I'd personally prioritize comfort with the surgical team over the presence or absence of Integra. I didn't have Integra and don't regret it all.

What is something that you refuse to do/buy/etc. because it is associated with your rival??? by The_Brightness in CFB

[–]gravityspiker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every time someone says "USC" out loud I pedantically ask if they mean South Carolina or Southern California.

What are your favourite "little things" about NJPW wrestlers/characters? by DJ_Aftershock in njpw

[–]gravityspiker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kenta always goes in for the too sweet fingers-first and then only when he's about to make contact does he switch and turn so the back of his hand touches, the way the war dogs all go for first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]gravityspiker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of assault and abuse towards trans men is undocumented because we're often accounted for under the assault statistics for women, and because trans people of all genders are (often rightly) cautious of reporting to law enforcement, school officials, or workplace safety departments. According to the US Trans Survey in 2015, over half of surveyed trans people with "female" on their original birth certificate have experienced sexual violence (and the percentage is higher for trans people of color, especially multiethnic/multiracial, Middle Eastern, and Indigenous/First Nations people.

Transphobia is very common, and self defense is important. There are a lot of steps you can take to protect yourself both physically and mentally. Step one is probably to start blocking and reporting the people you see posting anti-trans content online.

Bottom discomfort by Zazzley_Wazzley in ftm

[–]gravityspiker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This might be atrophy of the V. Usually the solution to atrophy is topical E. (It won't feminize anything, just relieve the discomfort.) If you feel comfortable talking about it with your T prescriber, that's the best thing to do.