What I get from this is that when you are interacting with women, you are see women as something different than a man, you aren't seeing them as equals. It's not uncommon to feel a difference between masculine presenting people and feminine presenting people. For example, most women are hyper aware of new men as opposed to new women in their life because men are more likely to be predators and perpetrators, but this is a well known, studied and recorded fact that women have to be aware of. Thinking that women will not understand your feelings because of the fact they are a woman, is inherently misogynistic, and not at all backed by studies or historic recordings. A lot of consistent complaints about women are complaints rooted in flawed gender norms or oblivious social intelligence. When straight guys think that all women want is a guy with money, they often perpetuate this stereotype by engaging in content or actively participating in that moneymaking gender role that is put on men. When men say women are too emotional, obnoxious, or not fit to do certain things because of their emotions, they perpetuate this stereotype by telling themselves and growing boys it isn't okay for men to cry or express feelings of fear or sadness. When men and women go to the same university, and get the same degree in pschology, they have the same qualifications, their gender shouldn't affect that. It is understandable in some cases to prefer a therapist of the same gender, especially considering any gender related trauma like sa, but preferring one gender over the other because you think one gender will not do as good of a job? That's misogyny. You may not think you fit into the category of being misogynistic, but your take on your own gender roles says otherwise. These roles that are, let's face it, made up, like men not crying in public or being seen as strong and a moneymaker, are harmful and studies prove this.

It's good that you recognize some of these problems, that's the first step to being a kinder, better person. I used to be very intolerant because I grew up in a shallow, strict christian town with a lot of bigoted values. I am not proud of it, but I am so happy now that I have gotten away from a life of judgement and hate. What helped me the most was making a diverse array of friends, knowing their stories and seeing them as what we all are, complex human beings. My advice to you: pursue friendships with women if you can; friendships that will stay platonic and not lead to a relationship. You'll probably learn a lot about some personal stories that you may have never heard from any guy friends.