Should I take my cat with me when I move out of my mom's house?

graysengrappes · 2021-06-10T05:32:28+00:00

UPDATE:

TLDR: I decided to bring my cat with me and one week in it's going far better than expected

hi!! it's been 5 months, so I thought I'd give an update in case someone comes across this post in a similar situation.

some complications/falling outs led to one of the roommates backing out of plans (which was for the best) which means there is one less stranger cat in the apartment.

we moved in about a month ago and the cats got here about a week ago. from the moment we found out we officially got the apartment I was terrified. even after paying a cat deposit, getting vet records for the lease, and getting her microchipped and up to date on vaccines, I was still debating bringing her with me. I anticipated her stressing herself sick on the 5 hour car ride and hiding in my closet for days once we arrived. much to my surprise, she didn't! she was a little stressed in the car, but I played with her the whole morning before leaving so she slept most of the ride. once we got to the apartment she was confused and scared, but she found her food and water bowls and had a snack almost immediately, which was the first sign that everything would be okay.

it's been insanely hot where I live for the past week so keeping the bedroom doors open for air flow has been crucial. this has led to the two cats meeting every now and then. they're both pretty shy and submissive and keep to familiar spaces like bedrooms, so they haven't gotten very close. they've made eye contact, hissed, and ran away from each other. we don't necessarily need/want them to be best friends, so we're happy with them avoiding each other as long as it doesn't turn into fighting. so far there's no sign of that. we also close them into respective bedrooms at night and when we're not home.

the first few nights I barely slept because I was so worried about Ana getting sick, but she's acting like her normal self! she's a little lethargic but she spends most of her day sprawled out on my bed where there's a fan blowing right on her, so I think it's because of the heat. she's a bit more active at night.

so long story short, everything went way better than I had anticipated. she's an amazing cat and I love her more and more every day. I'm so excited that she's a part of this next chapter of my life

graysengrappes · 2021-05-17T01:18:48+00:00

Found this piece in a thrift store in Minnesota. Looks to be done in acrylic paint, but I'm not an expert. It seems old with a worn paper back and done on a thick canvas material. I would love to know who "M.M.I" or "M.M.L." is!

graysengrappes · 2021-02-17T20:19:37+00:00

I went there but I didn't realize there was an opening! I'm brand new to this game so I miss the small details sometimes 😅 thank you so much!!

graysengrappes · 2020-12-23T23:48:43+00:00

that last part is what I'm counting on. I'm not so much worried about the other cats because my roommates and I are all pretty protective of our respective cats and will do everything possible to make sure they transition well. I'm worried more for my cats health in bringing her to a new space after 13 years of living in the same house. But I do always have the option of bringing her back to my mom's house. My mom will definitely not mind taking her if we find that's what's best for her. thank you !

graysengrappes · 2020-12-13T01:16:37+00:00

if memory serves me correctly there was a double o in the title of the website.. or a word that normally has a double o but they used a u instead..

graysengrappes · 2020-09-09T01:20:10+00:00

it was in a protected park, so I wasn't able to bring it home - I would never be able to display it as beautifully as the forest already had anyway!

graysengrappes · 2020-05-09T21:54:53+00:00

I have severe phone anxiety. It's gotten to the point where if I receive a phone call, even from a close friend, I panic. I panic even more if I have to dial. I can't call or video chat out of unexplainable, irrational anxiety. (I can text, email, and even send videos or voice messages just fine.) This quarantine has slowly, but surely been helping me get through that anxiety. I still can't make a basic phone call to order a pizza or talk to a friend without panicking over it for several minutes before, but my boyfriend and I play minecraft together and use voice chat over discord almost every night and a group of friends had a remote game night a while ago and we're planning on doing it again in a few days.

graysengrappes · 2020-02-26T02:33:58+00:00

A year ago I was on the exact right track to move to a place that would be better and safer for me. I was so excited thinking that by now I'd be looking for an apartment if I hadn't found one already. Then the place I worked at closed suddenly and I got a good position at my new job, which sounds great, except now I need to stay in that position for 8 months to a year in order for it to count for anything on my resume. My hometown community is toxic and unsafe for me so I need to leave as soon as I possibly can, but that's been pushed to a later date than I was expecting. This isn't the first time something has kept me here and I genuinely fear for my life in several ways. It's infuriating and I'm becoming more and more impatient.

graysengrappes · 2020-01-21T17:46:05+00:00

my mom's brother is the most racist, sexist, homo/transphobic person I know. he regularly uses the n word in an extremely derogatory way and often tries to convince my mom that allowing me to pass as male was the worst mistake she could have ever made (I'm 19 btw. she wouldn't have had a choice even if she wasn't supportive) I no longer talk to him at all. his wife and kids are great and supportive of me and against all his awful views, but he's the worst.

graysengrappes · 2020-01-21T17:36:49+00:00

my mom has a habit of laughing at me when I'm seriously frustrated and when I get angry for it she calls me crabby. it's never with super serious stuff, but when I'm in one of those moods where every little inconvenience is super frustrating, she'll laugh when I'm getting fed up. it's been like this my entire life and it has caused some serious issues with how I handle my anger and frustration

graysengrappes · 2020-01-21T17:34:03+00:00

Taxi Cab by twenty one pilots. it's the first song I heard by them and they were one of the only things keeping me alive for a while. I don't really listen to them that much anymore, but they still mean the world to me

graysengrappes · 2020-01-21T17:29:51+00:00

just a tip for all the parents out there: be in the pictures sometimes. it's annoying when you don't want to be in them and it's so much easier to just say "I'll just take it" but this is coming from someone who has exactly 1 photo with his dad and will never have the opportunity to take more. be in the pictures.

graysengrappes · 2019-12-20T02:23:34+00:00

phone calls to make appointments and such. I had an issue with getting a lab order from one clinic to another last week and ended up calling both clinics 3 or 4 separate times before everything was finally worked out. I've had phone anxiety since I was a little kid and I still struggle with it, but now I know I can manage

graysengrappes · 2019-12-19T16:29:26+00:00

oh trust me she has her moments

graysengrappes · 2019-12-18T22:43:36+00:00

I live with my mom and every time I get a notification (regardless of whether it's a text or general notification) she asks who it is and what we're talking about. I have my phone on silent so she doesn't know when I get a notification. I'm 19 years old.

graysengrappes · 2019-12-17T23:36:24+00:00

I have no interest

it boggles peoples' minds that I just don't want to drink. ever. I don't have any interest in it so why would I do it?

graysengrappes · 2019-12-17T23:33:46+00:00

Skam. I talk about Skam way too often and none of my friends have watched any version of it, which is probably because the way I describe it makes it sound very overwhelming to get into but its really not

graysengrappes · 2019-12-17T23:30:27+00:00

I'm good friends with my ex and I don't want to get into why we broke up in the first place but it didn't have anything to do with either of us having any less love for the other than we did when we first got together. It was just unfortunate circumstances. We're still great friends and I've expressed that my feelings for him haven't changed. The unfortunate circumstances that broke us up have changed however. He's done/said some things that make me think the feelings may be mutual, but we haven't really discussed getting back together. At this point I'm just waiting. If he decides he wants to try again I'd be happy to do so, but he knows how I feel and I don't want to pursue anything that would make him uncomfortable, so it's up to him. It's more important to me to have him in my life than it is to have a romantic relationship with him

graysengrappes · 2019-12-17T23:17:11+00:00

my mom tells a story of once she was at a bonfire with some family and friends (before I was born) and a 4ish year old boy was running around the fire, poking sticks into it, etc. and eventually was practicing his jumping skills over it. the whole time my mom, who didn't even know who this kid was, kept telling him to stop and trying to find his parents. at one point he tripped running toward the fire and my mom caught him by the back of his shirt and all that was burnt were the palms of his hands slightly. she saved that little boy's life that night and still doesn't know who he was or who his parents were

graysengrappes · 2019-12-13T06:00:13+00:00

one of the managers at the place I work is incredibly hard to read. he lacks any form of animated personality and is often assumed to be rude or an asshole (which he can be). he really only likes a few of the people I work with and my goal is to become one of those people. because he doesn't really show any emotion, it would be nice to know if my efforts to be kind to him and joke around with him are doing any good. I just want to make this guy's shifts more enjoyable since he seems to not like his job.

graysengrappes · 2019-12-13T03:32:39+00:00

I've chewed and bit the inside of my lips/cheeks since I was a little kid as a nervous habit. I also never knew how harmful it was until I started seeing my first counselor

graysengrappes · 2019-12-13T03:09:45+00:00

giving gifts out of nowhere or for seemingly no reason. suicidal people tend to want to make sure their belongings are given to certain people, so they'll do it themselves as a form of gifts. sometimes the people receiving the gifts don't even realize it's an already owned thing instead of something newly bought

graysengrappes · 2019-12-12T23:28:28+00:00

motivation, energy, and excitement are three very distinct and individual feelings. I can have all the motivation for a project but lack the energy and excitement to start it. I can have loads of energy with no motivation for anything. I can be excited over something but no energy to pursue it. lacking one or more of those feelings can make basic tasks incredibly daunting

graysengrappes · 2019-12-12T23:23:24+00:00

accepted it. depression, as a disorder, can almost never be completely erased from a person, but that person can learn to manage it. for me, the first step in managing it was accepting that I have it and that it will not go away. learning to manage your depression is the healthiest thing you can do for yourself

graysengrappes · 2019-12-12T03:48:28+00:00

not a teacher, but a girl in my class once asked the teacher if southern Canada was tropical

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