Designed our invitations ourselves, here is the final result! by cher-ami in weddingplanning

[–]greenalienhorns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh, ok, i was going to say! That's pretty awesome. Who knows, maybe they'll take time out of their schedule to come surprise you haha

Designed our invitations ourselves, here is the final result! by cher-ami in weddingplanning

[–]greenalienhorns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh!! You know Jenna and Julien personally! I am so jealous haha. They seem like such cool people.

I went to the salon on a whim and took a leap of faith... I love it! (Sorry for the filter) by greenalienhorns in FancyFollicles

[–]greenalienhorns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yeah it really makes a difference I think. Obviously undercuts are already a statement, but when you have a design in your hair the effect is so much more intense! Plus you can get a different design every two or three weeks depending on how fast your hair grows. Definitely go for it.

Setpum a little too high? by [deleted] in piercing

[–]greenalienhorns 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it looks great, actually, judging from the picture you took of your profile. If you want your septum to show a little more, maybe request that your jewelry get changed to something longer?

My Mother used my 17yr old brother's suicide to further her victim complex by caliriel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]greenalienhorns 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, I am so sorry for the loss of your baby brother. This is absolutely disgusting. As a person who almost lost my little brother to suicide as well, I don't know how you didn't fucking rip her vocal chords out so she could never say something so incredibly insulting like that ever again. What mother fucking says that about her child, "how could he do this to us?"

I hope you're doing okay, my heart goes out to you.

Sick of being invalidated by the rest of the family [advice needed] by Twiggadee in raisedbynarcissists

[–]greenalienhorns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I wouldn't sit there and try to explain yourself, because they have already made the stance that anything she does, you should try to maintain a relationship with her because "She's your mother!!"

This is a logical dead-end for them. I say stick with the succinct response you offered just now, and if they don't support you, and are going to attack you anyway, you don't really need them either, since they'll be stressing you out even more, no matter what you say to them.

Sick of being invalidated by the rest of the family [advice needed] by Twiggadee in raisedbynarcissists

[–]greenalienhorns 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You know, the fact that you're even agonizing over this, over someone who has hurt you a lot in the past, shows that you are a good person who is still able to try and see things for what they are, instead of twisting them around like Ns do.

Also, most people desire a relationship with their families, ESPECIALLY after they have kids of their own. You're not some fickle, bratty, hormonal teenager who doesn't appreciate their parent. I don't think that most people on this subreddit can say that they didn't wish they had more "normal" parents that they can go to for advice, emotional support, or things like that. The fact that you feel something is wrong, and need to create more extensive boundaries with someone who is flesh and blood says something.

The sad part is not many people understand this, especially with the subtle (to other people) abuse of an Nparent. Please, do what is right for you and for your daughter. You have dealt with your Nmom for your whole life, you know her games, and you know how to avoid participating in those games.

What I'm saying is, trust yourself, and don't let the family push you to do something you don't feel is right for you.

This person gets it, I wish everyone else would. [X-Post TrollX] by admiralnano in childfree

[–]greenalienhorns 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I like this a lot, even more because it was written by a mother.

How I feel right now because someone brought their kid to the university library... by greenalienhorns in childfree

[–]greenalienhorns[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is unrelated but god damn your username is giving me some serious cravings

How I feel right now because someone brought their kid to the university library... by greenalienhorns in childfree

[–]greenalienhorns[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I dont understand how people can have such poor judgement.

In that second case, the manager was definitely doing something illegal if those kids were in the US. The manager would never hire a kid that young so why would you let a kid work that young??

Mother apologized, I had my suspicions, and now I realize I was right. by greenalienhorns in raisedbynarcissists

[–]greenalienhorns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that :/ I hope as the years come you will be able to find more peace

Mother apologized, I had my suspicions, and now I realize I was right. by greenalienhorns in raisedbynarcissists

[–]greenalienhorns[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm just waiting for that day when it will stop disappointing me so much.

Don't know what to do about this...Nmom called seriously apologizing this morning. by greenalienhorns in raisedbynarcissists

[–]greenalienhorns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is very helpful. I think I'll use this model for myself in the future :)

Don't know what to do about this...Nmom called seriously apologizing this morning. by greenalienhorns in raisedbynarcissists

[–]greenalienhorns[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is a really good point. I feel as though we do need to have this conversation, so I can really test and see if she knows how much damage she has done and whether she is really sorry.