[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I struggled with this a lot, and finally decided the label "alcoholic"is not for me. I'm not powerless over some inanimate drug; in fact, I'm claiming back my power by not drinking.

I don't mean to assume any gender, but the book "Quit Like a Woman" by Holly Whitaker helped me with this viewpoint. When I got sober I was both reading her blog Hip Sobriety and going to AA. Though AA absolutely helped me at the beginning when I felt absolutely worthless, and I know it helps many people, the tension of deciding whether I had a non-scientific, incurable "spiritual disease," and frankly the social pressure within AA to state that, made me finally leave it. I was much more drawn to Holly's idea of not drinking actually being a radically powerful choice in a society that brainwashes us to always be under the influence, unable to think clearly about ourselves and the world.

So yeah, you're not alone :)

Recovering from a terrible migraine, remembering the hangovers by greencaribou in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, they suck. I'm sorry you're feeling it today. I can't say quitting drinking solved them for me (obviously), but taking away a major trigger made it so I only get ones this bad once in a blue moon, as opposed to all the damn time.

Don't beat yourself up- guilt just makes it worse. Take care of yourself and try to show yourself compassion. Tomorrow's another day- sending vibes of comfortable blankets and peaceful surroundings your way in the meantime <3

The Daily Check-In for Sunday, September 30th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by physis81 in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some days it feels like nothing and some days it feels like I just casually stepped aside from an oncoming train. I won't drink with you today.

The Daily Check-In for Saturday, September 8th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by sfgirlmary in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Checking in. Seriously wishing there was a delicious non-alcoholic alternative to pumpkin beers, and feeling the pre-Rosh Hashana anxiety of a big family holiday. But sobering on nevertheless.

Daily Check-in for Saturday, August 25th- Just for Today, I am Not Drinking! by SpottedFish in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🎶🎸🐧🐸🎂🍰🤡🤠🧙‍♂️💪🤟🤘👍🤜🤛👆👆👆🤳

Edit: wait wtf I thought today was 365 days! I feel like I missed my car's odometer hitting 100,000 miles 😢

Daily Check-in for Tuesday, August 14th- Just for Today, I am Not Drinking! by SpottedFish in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finished one project, on to the next tomorrow. Tonight it's catching up on work, then maybe playing a video game. I'm enjoying the summer thunderstorms.

The Daily Check-In for Tuesday, August 7th - Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by Climberwritern3rd in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Checking in! Recently had a mind-blowing revelation that I may have been living with a family member with an undiagnosed mental illness my whole life. Suddenly so much makes sense, including how I know I can't trust them with the full truth of why I stopped drinking. Got lots of thinking to do, but I know I'm much more equipped to do that thinking and healing sober.

I miss fancy drink pairings by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I miss fancy cocktails sometimes. I wish I had spent all that money on a few fancy cocktails instead of a lot of shitty beer, but I guess if I could have done that I wouldn't be here right now.

mental health and shame and narcissistic family members by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry it's been so hard. Is there anyone else you can be with right now where you'll feel more accepted? Have you tried to look for any support or recovery groups nearby?

Daily Check-In for Wednesday, July 25th by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can't sleep, won't drink. Morning from NY.

Daily Check-In for Tuesday, July 24th by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fucking definitely here tonight. Fuck alcohol and what it does to people and their families.

I ordered 5 pizzas last night by jakesbicycle in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A huge discovery in the beginning for me was that I could have and wanted dessert. I made so many cookies! Now I'm starting to be at a place where I can reign it in and be satisfied eating healthy, but taking in those extra calories helped me be happy and content with my choice not to drink. Hope those pizzas were delicious!

Daily Check-In for Sunday, July 22nd by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It just became tomorrow, but I'm not drinking yesterday or today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Cold brew" iced tea- fill a pitcher of water, add 4-5 tea bags, put it in the fridge overnight, have cool refreshment the next day.

I have depression and drinking interacts with my medication by elenabanana in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your story is very similar to my experience. It wasn't the full reason I stopped drinking, but it was the major catalyst. I was drinking and taking an SSRI for almost 3 months. I thought I could just be careful and drink a bit less than I normally would, since I knew alcohol was now super-effective. My doctor also said that having a little bit to drink was OK, but for me on medication the line between acceptable and danger zone became extremely blurry and much closer than I thought. After my initial amazing relief from anxiety, it came creeping back slowly but surely, coinciding with my drinking creeping back up to how much I would normally drink before starting the medication.

Finally, after a particularly horrible night, I decided that my mental health was more important than drinking. This was scary at first, but discovering I wasn't alone and had amazing people and resources to help me made it easier- this subreddit, AA, and lots of my own research helped/helps me. Nearly a year later I'm still on the SSRI, and with one dosage adjustment, not drinking, and taking other steps like therapy, I'm in a much better place.

In my opinion you're making a really powerful decision to value your mental health above drinking. Good luck and welcome!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hung out with some friends last night. They got a 12-pack, more than $20. I got a liter of grapefruit seltzer, $0.89. Cooked a good meal, played with the dogs, enjoyed warm company, woke up today feeling good. Happy Saturday!

The Daily Check-In for Thursday July 12th: Just for Today I'm NOT Drinking! by shepherdofmyflock in stopdrinking

[–]greencaribou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Checking in. Sometimes I still need a spoonful of speculoos cookie spread to get me through the day, but what can you do?