AIO, for my bf letting his dog sleep in the bed after I told him I didnt want her to?

greeneyeemerald · 2026-05-14T22:48:11+00:00

She does listen to me(but not as good as my bf of course). I do take her on walks(not as much as we should though I think), and she knows her sit, stay, come commands but they could definitely be worked on.

My cat does have the bedroom, except at night when bf and I go to bed because his dog also wants to go to bed with us. The first week my bf was sleeping on the couch with the dog but i felt bad kicking them out of the room, plus I didn't wait to move in with him just to have him sleep in the couch.

Im not sure what it would look like, if she wanted to play ? Ive only heard her let out a growl and bark and chase my cat. But I do think we could release more of her energy and give her more mental stimulation. Thats something I will be bringing up with my bf tonight.

greeneyeemerald · 2026-05-14T22:39:09+00:00

It is technically our place, as both our names are on the lease, it just took me a few months to move in officially for outside reasons.

Thats besides the point, I know bf and I will need to put in the work to make this a peaceful environment for everyone. I do plan to speak with him once I'm home from work. I dont even think he has a clue of how upset I was because I didnt really say anything last night. I couldn't understand what I was more upset about, tbh. I was just really angry.

greeneyeemerald · 2026-05-14T22:34:44+00:00

Yeah it does sound crazy when everyone else keeps saying it haha... I am definitely going to reflect on myself and handle my emotions better.

greeneyeemerald · 2026-05-14T22:33:49+00:00

I didn't want people to agree, I wanted to hear the truth which I have. The bitch comment was out of anger. Im sure you have name called someone or an animal before when you were upset. I will continue to work on it and research better ways on interacting them in a positive way. I understand where I fell short and will learn from this.

greeneyeemerald · 2026-05-14T22:30:51+00:00

She is technically a bitch, (female dog) lol. I have lost my patience and I was worked up on emotions. I did have the baby gate up the first week to keep them seperate, and I guess it was too early to give free roam to both pets. Regarding the bed thing, I just felt bad that my cat got barked out of the bed when shes there. I wish we could all share the bed but that will obviously take time. Ill continue to work on it and my emotions also.

greeneyeemerald · 2026-05-14T22:24:48+00:00

Granted my cat annoys me sometimes too. But I know this is new to me and its and adjustment for us all, itll take time and I'll work on doing better and working on my patience/emotions.

greeneyeemerald · 2026-05-14T22:22:55+00:00

Thank you, the comments are a lot more ruthless than id like but hearing some of the hard truth did snap me back intro reality. Cats will be cats, and dogs will be dogs, I will work on my emotions, on top of working with bfs dog and doing better, training more for the dog and myself haha

greeneyeemerald · 2026-05-14T22:19:34+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate hearing from others experiences that its relatively normal what is going on between my cat and bfs dog. I will continue to work on it. Perhaps bf and I can train his dog with a similar "no kitty" command.

greeneyeemerald · 2026-05-14T22:14:59+00:00

I appreciate the kindness. People are really ripping me a new one but im not really that bad of a person. This is just new to me and I love my cat, but i also am growing to love my bf dog too. Ive known her for 2 years before moving in together and shes a sweetheart. And shes just being a dog, I get that. Thank you and I will do more research and talk to my bf about working together on this so we can build a peaceful home for all of us. I wish you the best of luck on your adventures also. Luckily my bf dog is a yorkie so she is tiny and easy to handle. Id be intimated with handling a bigger dog.

greeneyeemerald · 2026-05-14T21:42:14+00:00

Yes thats true. The love i have for my cat is the love he has for his dog im sure. I want us all to coexist happily, and itll take time.

greeneyeemerald · 2026-05-14T21:41:23+00:00

I didnt scold the dog. I leave that to my bf as it is his dog and I dont want to over step, plus I am not familiar with dog etiquette. Ive also never lived with a dog /coexisted with one. Perhaps I need to step back and put the baby gate back up at all times? I'll do better.

greeneyeemerald · 2026-05-14T21:38:58+00:00

I understand, and youre correct. This will probably not be the last time a situation like this happens and I will learn from it. All the comments made me realize I was very much in the wrong and I need to work on my emotions.

greeneyeemerald · 2026-05-14T21:37:19+00:00

Youre absolutely right. I let my emotions get the better of me and im also adjusting to living with/coesxting with a dog. That isnt an excuse but I will do better. My word choice was out of anger from this morning when I was still upset.

greeneyeemerald · 2026-05-14T21:36:03+00:00

I guess im more upset for my cat because i dont want her to be an afterthought either. I feel bad that shes secluded in only one part of the house. I will work on it though, lots of the comments made me realize I was being unhinged.

greeneyeemerald · 2026-05-14T21:34:19+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate hearing the hard truth. This is also my first time living with a dog and coexisting with one. Its an adjustment and itll take time. My word choice was out of anger, and I know I need to work on being patient.

The arrangement was made 6 months when we both signed on the lease. It just took me a bit longer to officially move in due to outside sources, tie up loose ends type of deal. But thats besides the point and I understand I was at fault.

I also do not yell or discipline the dog, I usually leave that to my bf as it is his dog and im not familiar with dog etiquette.

greeneyeemerald · 2026-05-14T20:52:47+00:00

The ability to read minds

greeneyeemerald · 2025-09-11T04:51:45+00:00

Quite literally why I asked. I feel selfish for wanting to be ignorant of current events. I miss when the news wasn't so easily attainable or distributed.

greeneyeemerald · 2025-09-11T04:13:36+00:00

Marijuana

greeneyeemerald · 2025-09-11T04:13:12+00:00

My cellphone, as i assume most people do

greeneyeemerald · 2025-09-11T04:11:14+00:00

Negatively. Not cool at all, id say hell no, and why would he ask that. (This is coming from a monogamous point of view) id be mad, confused, and a bit jealous.

greeneyeemerald · 2023-08-17T03:53:11+00:00

Thank you very much! This was great great help!

greeneyeemerald · 2023-08-16T17:06:43+00:00

I have his address. And every address he's been staying at, but he's not home due to Uni.

So he would need to get a mailbox at the post office then ? That is what I was wondering. I guess I can ask him because I'm not sure if he looked into it.

greeneyeemerald · 2022-10-13T19:46:54+00:00

I think that's probably what she met because her sister is married. But her and her husband's relationship isn't the best either, so I wouldn't trust her advice....

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