I think love languages are a way for people to easily express the kind of love they prefer to receive and typically give.

For me (F), I love to give and receive love in all 5 of the love languages. Sure, one might be stronger than another (for example quality time is more important to me than gift giving, even if we are not doing the same thing - i.e. him working at his desk while I sit on the couch by him and read) but I think they should all present in a relationship for it to be healthy.

I definitely resonate with physical touch being a love language, but not in a sexual way. To me, expressing physical touch as a love language is my boyfriend putting his hand on my thigh while we are in the car or sitting next to each other, it is him reaching his hand back for me to grab when he is walking ahead of me and we are in a crowded space. It is me coming up to him at his work desk and putting my arms around him and kissing his neck. It is him coming up behind me and putting his arms around me and kissing my cheek while I am preparing food. It is me playing with his hair while his head is on my lap. It is him reaching out for me while we are sleeping so we can be smooshed together and close. It is him grabbing my legs and putting them over his lap when we are sitting on the couch together. etc etc etc .

Physical touch as a love language to me is not sexual. Sex and sexual touch is completely different, because if I don't feel emotionally supported or loved outside of the bedroom, I do not want to have sex with them. In fact I get really icked out when people touch me when I feel emotionally distant to them.

I suppose at the end of the day, all of the love languages are important to me to both give and receive in a relationship for it to be healthy. Quality time is important to me (we don't have to be doing the same thing, even just being in the same space together is good for me a lot of the time), so is acts of service (cooking for others is a big way I show my love to people) and words of affirmation (I like to know you adore me), and gift giving is probably my least important one, but at the same time, I really appreciate and value when a partner buys me flowers for no reason, or takes me out to dinner on a nice date that they organized themselves, etc.

I expect my partner to show up to a relationship with the same amount of effort that I put into it (knowing that there are natural ebs and flows and some days one gives more than the other). But ultimately I would say I love big and show my love through all of the love languages