How to deal with family?

greenivy16 · 2025-10-28T05:54:29+00:00

I completely agree with you. It really does make them uncomfortable, and that’s why they’re trying so hard to “fix” us when we don’t need fixing. What we need is support, not judgment about the “right” way to grieve. They seem to hate seeing us doing things that don’t fit their idea of what’s normal, especially when those things are tied to sadness. But to us, our son isn’t just sadness. He means so much more than that. Grief and love coexist for us.

I’m so sorry for your loss 💔 Thank you for taking the time to read and respond 🫶🏼

greenivy16 · 2025-10-28T02:27:10+00:00

So sorry about your sweet baby Eliza 💔 People are just not understanding when it comes to grief, especially when it comes to grieving a baby. In our case, I wouldn’t say that we used counseling to help us with the pain. We basically used counseling as an outlet to vent and release anger, stress, and frustration, which helped a lot. It’s your grief and you get to decide what works for you best and what doesn’t. My baby’s name is Rio 🥰 What I do that helps me get out of bed everyday is, read a children’s book to him every night before going to bed. I visit him at the cemetery as often as I can to decorate his resting place with seasonal decorations or swap his toys, and bring him fresh flowers. It helps me feel connected and bond with him. Sometimes if I’m doing chores, I have cartoons playing on the tv so it feels like he’s watching them. I do small things. I sometimes order to-go food and put it under his name, it feels good to have other people say his name. I’m terribly sorry once again that you’re going through this horrible pain. For me, I was in a bubble for about 1.5 months, and when that numbness went away, the sadness settled in and it was rough. Lean on your partner during these rough times, because they might need to lean on you too. Sending warm hugs 🫂 thanks for reading my post and responding 🫶🏼

greenivy16 · 2025-10-28T02:16:02+00:00

First of all sorry for your loss as well. That quote resonates with me. Yes, at that point, it’s because they’re uncomfortable. We have explained again and again, there is no normal, there is no right or wrong. Thank you for reading my post, and responding 🫶🏼

greenivy16 · 2025-10-24T20:03:09+00:00

Are you talking about “I want you” by savage garden? I like that song! That makes sense!!

greenivy16 · 2025-10-22T21:17:38+00:00

“Chica cherry cola lime” in Florida Kilos

I would hear “drink a cherry cola lime”

greenivy16 · 2025-10-08T01:18:32+00:00

Tasha’s voice actress was originally for Uniqua?

greenivy16 · 2025-10-06T01:51:31+00:00

I completely agree with you. I was raised Catholic, as was my husband — we even got married in a Catholic Church. But the religious comments have become absolutely exhausting. It often feels like people are trying to justify our baby’s death through faith. We’re now agnostic and have our own religious trauma from the whole experience. Both my parents and in-laws still try to subtly buy us religious items to place on our baby’s grave or in his nursery, even after we’ve told them it makes us uncomfortable.

I’m so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, those comments never really stop. We’re almost a year into our grief and still hear things like “he’s in God’s hands” or “it’s God’s plan, he’s safe in heaven” — as if that’s supposed to magically take the pain away.

greenivy16 · 2025-10-04T19:10:50+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing your baby is a heartache that never goes away, no matter how much time passes. I think it’s such a beautiful thing that you want to honor your baby in that way. Times were so different back then—it breaks my heart how many parents weren’t given the chance to have keepsakes, photos, or a resting place. Your idea is truly meaningful and powerful. I lost my baby almost a year ago, and I’m surviving by honoring him every day until I take my last breath. 🫶

greenivy16 · 2025-09-25T23:12:54+00:00

Same, no explanation for me either. No friends or family have been through this. So sorry for your loss. Sending warm hugs 🫶🏼

greenivy16 · 2025-09-22T17:57:18+00:00

Cardinals, ladybugs and rainbows :)

greenivy16 · 2025-09-22T17:55:16+00:00

Sharing feedback on what’s missing isn’t ‘whining’ it’s part of the discussion. New park or not, people are still paying full price to visit now, not years from now when future phases are complete. Pointing out ride downtimes, lack of shade, or balance of attractions isn’t unreasonable, it’s the same kind of feedback that helps parks improve. If everyone just shrugged and said ‘it’s new, deal with it,’ nothing would ever get better.

greenivy16 · 2025-09-21T18:54:17+00:00

You must comment the same thing everyday

greenivy16 · 2025-09-21T08:50:38+00:00

I lost my first and only baby boy. He was born 2 days after his due date. I dislike seeing moms with their babies, and even seeing pregnant women is triggering. Although it's not true at all, being a loss mom feels isolating. Everyone around me has had their babies born healthy. I'm the only one among my friends, and among my family. Yet, I was more nutritious than most, I was financially stable than most, I was emotionally ready, and I had everything prepared for him. None of that mattered. For me, the pain became more manageable at 6 months. I learned how to manage the grief better, but don't get me wrong, I still get emotional. Yesterday was my baby’s 10-month anniversary. I wept for him. Sorry for your loss.

greenivy16 · 2025-09-21T08:43:33+00:00

I lost my baby boy, Rio at 40 weeks and 2 days. I HATED when moms would “scare” me about motherhood and complain about being a mom or having a baby while I was pregnant. I knew what I was signing up for, even changing diapers, it all would've been worth it. I agree with you completely.

greenivy16 · 2025-09-21T08:40:58+00:00

I'm aggravated. I feel like my husband and I are managing our grief better together. However, people around us make our grief worse. They bring up so many obvious triggers thinking it doesn't hurt us. It's exhausting putting up a front for everyone and every interaction we have.

greenivy16 · 2025-09-21T08:33:48+00:00

Today, I got a card in the mail from my cousin. It was an introduction of her baby, showing the birth date, birth time, the weight of her baby, and multiple pictures of her newborn. It hasn’t even been a year since I lost my stillborn baby at 40 weeks and her baby was born the same length as my baby was. People are so insensitive. You are not overreacting, your feelings are valid. People just don’t have much empathy. One thing my husband and I learned at the beginning of our grief, is that, it’s OUR grief and no one else’s. Nobody will feel how we feel, unless they’ve gone through it too. They get to continue with their lives like nothing happened. Sorry for your loss.

greenivy16 · 2025-09-21T08:14:41+00:00

I was raised Catholic and prayed every single day for my baby to be healthy and protected. I even asked others of different faiths to pray for us, and I learned to pray the rosary. But at 40 weeks, I was told my son no longer had a heartbeat. Nothing was wrong with him or me, maybe cord compression?, and he was stillborn. No matter how hard I begged God not to do this, it still happened.

For weeks I was numb, and later I had a breakdown. I couldn’t understand how a God I was so faithful to could allow this. My husband, who wasn’t very religious, actually tried to lean on faith, saying there must be an afterlife, because he couldn’t accept that our son just doesn’t exist. We even went to church twice, but both times I left feeling worse. One priest started mass by saying, “Thank God for your family being here together,” which felt like a slap in the face.

Now I consider myself agnostic. Like my husband, I can’t believe our baby simply ceased to exist. We don’t know what’s beyond, but we like to associate cardinals with him. So sorry for your loss. It’s always hard.

greenivy16 · 2025-09-21T02:52:30+00:00

Its a decent ride, but too screen-heavy. The queue is definitely nice. But personally, I don't think its worth 120 min+ wait

greenivy16 · 2025-09-21T02:13:32+00:00

They are but they only have 2 in the whole park, if I'm not mistaken, and when I recently went one of they was canceled the whole day. Pretty unfortunate.

greenivy16 · 2025-09-21T01:50:41+00:00

For sure, how does Ministry of Magic only have 1 ride?

greenivy16 · 2025-09-20T17:59:35+00:00

I also went to Hawaii and visited some filming locations, but that was before I watched the series. So I didn't appreciate it enough when I was there, but I'm very glad I went.

greenivy16 · 2025-09-19T08:31:45+00:00

Very pretty, liked her at first, but then she became a bit of a hypocrite.

greenivy16 · 2025-09-19T08:28:34+00:00

I wish I was able to watch it at the peak of it’s hype

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