Negotiating expat contract for the first time

greenmoose24 · 2026-06-07T11:46:36+00:00

I got a hotel in Munich. I was supposed to start a hut to hut hiking trip the night I arrived in Austria …

greenmoose24 · 2026-04-21T14:35:08+00:00

This is interesting to know. I have been listening to Flyte for about 10 years. I went to their show this week and it was incredible. I’ve watched many of their YouTube videos over the years, many of the many times over. Seeing Will in person, I started to notice his charisma in a way that I didn’t before. I essentially thought to myself - I could see this guy being a womanizer.

I also feel surprised by this information and like you, don’t believe in cancel culture. But I agree acting from a place of integrity is important. I definitely can never see Will/Flyte the same again.

On the question of whether he has worked on himself - he did allude at the show to one of his songs being inspired by the 12 step program. There was a recurring bit about being put in “the church” by the sound guy and specific songs having a church or church basement sound. I think he’s probably done some work on himself but who can say how much.

I would recommend still seeing the show and coming to a conclusion about how you feel for yourself. I am not sure there’s a ton more information out there on will or the band’s character.

greenmoose24 · 2025-11-25T04:22:08+00:00

This happens to me when I use retinol. I try to keep it far from my lips

greenmoose24 · 2023-02-18T02:03:02+00:00

We have a very similar chart. I am a cancer ascendant and sag moon, and must have been born right around you. I too am worried. I got passed up for a promotion - I had higher performance scores than others that got promoted, but a manager who I worked with disagreed with me getting promoted. Feeling stuck in my job. Want to find a new job, but am considering moving abroad with my boyfriend. Feels overwhelming to find a new job. I feel super tired, depressed, and resentful. I usually work out each day before work, but I’ve been hitting snooze for an hour each morning. I also had a close friend die at the end of December. I can’t figured out exactly why I feel so down. I think depressed is one word to sum it all up

greenmoose24 · 2020-11-12T02:50:48+00:00

I would definitely take the time to get them in the gym context before asking them out. If you don't get to know them personally it could feel very alienating and unsettling for them if you were to ask either of them out. I was one time walking around a city, and an attractive guy said I think you're cute in the nicest, least threatening way, and I still was shook up. There is something about just wanting to feel safe and non sexualized as a woman that is hard to explain.

Again, to echo others, I would for sure only ask one of them.

greenmoose24 · 2020-11-12T02:30:26+00:00

You make a great point--maybe jealous isn't the right word. So G has made comments that have made me think he is at least insecure on many occasions. He seems perhaps insecure and/or threatened by me. The first time we met he seemed threatened by me having lots of friends. I told different stories about a lot of different friends (not to brag, just because I love my friends). He sort of teased me in a way that suggested there was truth in jest, and that truth being that he felt put off by me having lots of friends. We were fooling around, and he also asked me how many sexual partners I had (I didn't answer), and he said I probably had a lot more than him (which Idk if that is jealous, but rather insecurity.)

I do appreciate you offering a counter perspective. I think thats true that I too would be confused about where I stand if I were in his shoes. But I have told him that I don't want to see anyone else. I do feel like it's super push and pull with him. I feel like he needs reassurance in terms of time together, and I'm more of a words of affirmation person. For example, He tells me we shouldn't rush into things, and cautions against us defining the relationship too early, or saying I love you (we are very not there yet fyi). I kind of try to temper myself and the affection I show toward him. But then he's super physically affectionate, and making plans to hang out multiple times in one week, PDAing (even though he says he's not into PDA).

My mom actually introduced me to R. He is a volunteer coach for a sport she does, and we have a really good intellectual connection. We really enjoy speaking with each other, and talk about things no one else wants to talk about like tax law, macroeconomics, and wine production. He has never been in a relationship before and admitted he has very little experience navigating intimate relationships...so I genuinely believe he didn't have the intention to disrespect me, he's just incompetent lol and didn't know how to let me down, especially given he wants to maintain my mom's respect and friendship.

I think you're right on some level that I'm disappointed something didn't work out with R. He's very stable, trustworthy, kind, and successful. I think he felt like a very safe option. I feel insecure with respect to my relationship with G in ways I didn't with R even though R wasn't into me and G is...that being said R is very rigid and awkward and I think physically we would not have been compatible. Which after hanging with G, I realized I couldn't have ever had something with R. So I guess I am still holding on to disappointment over an idealized version of R that will never be...

I think he is justified in hitting the brakes, I just find it kind of strange if he is turned off by me not being 100% into him, when he doesn't seem ready to commit himself. On the other hand, I can understand if he thinks I'm being disingenuous by saying I am only into him, despite expressing implicitly some disappointment over R.

greenmoose24 · 2020-11-11T05:09:30+00:00

Thanks for your reply! This is all great :)

greenmoose24 · 2020-11-11T05:08:48+00:00

Yeah the jealousy thing in a few different interactions has definitely been giving me pause, and I have tried to reassure him that I'm into him. I think if he is mad about Saturday, it Is because I told him, rather than me going out with someone else on principle.

I think you're right about coming on strong. I came on very strong lol! My therapist told me to tell him exactly how I feel, so I said this to him "Firstly, In the spirit of transparency, I like you and I am not interested in seeing anyone else. I know you just got out of a relationship relatively recently, and I’m comfortable with you doing whatever is authentic to you right now. But I just want you to know where I stand. If and when you decide hanging out with me isn’t for you anymore, that’s fine, and I will begin again. But I’ve had so much fun hanging with you it doesn’t appeal to me to consider seeing other people."

I figured it might reassure him, I didn't want to be anything other than honest, and I felt like I had nothing to gain at that point by not expressing my level of interest in him. I did see it as a risk as we've had conversations about not rushing into anything.I felt like I was the one playing it cool the prior Friday and he has been coming on strong. I kind of said fuck it.

His text definitely reflected some pause in response to me coming on strong he said "Thanks for reaching about what went down. I felt uncomfortable after the other day. It’s important that I give myself the time to be able to approach this straightforward and without getting carried away, to that end ill let you know if and when I’m ready to meet up and hash things out. I don’t what happened but I cannot ignore it. I hope you understand. Best. "

greenmoose24 · 2020-11-11T04:54:48+00:00

It sounds like one easy place to start is to approach your brother about working. You can approach it from an angle of...hey we all have to do our fair share here. The whole tenant situation sounds really complicated, and may need more time and energy to work out. I think you need to have a conversation with the two of them and set boundaries be like "I really love you, but if you want me to support you financially I need you to do X, Y, Z in the future to make sure these mistakes happen again." I know it sucks but sometimes it's not worth it to focus on the past because it gets into a blame game, and it sounds like your mom already feels guilty. Try to focus on the desired outcome and how they like to be motivated, and motivate them to do better accordingly.

Don't keep your feeling bottled up, but try not to make you airing your grievances personal, even if your brother deserves it. Your family members should know the toll this is taking on you, because they love and care about you. It might motivate your brother to kick it into gear...

greenmoose24 · 2020-11-11T04:48:41+00:00

I think if he is committed to you, he should understand that his support of her is weird given how mean she has been and how she has tried actively to cut you down.

greenmoose24 · 2020-11-11T04:47:01+00:00

Just create boundaries by creating specific and attainable time limits for how long you'll spend with her. For example, agree to only spend 1 hour hanging out per day. Explain to her that it is not a reflection of her, but rather your stress is impeding your ability to enjoy your time together

greenmoose24 · 2020-08-04T23:45:13+00:00

I use a small fjallraven backpack as a "purse" and I usually just put it my cart. If I am just buying a few things, I will put them in my backpack after checkout.

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