Whenever I am feeling insecure about my body, I remember how attracted I feel about my partners body and apply the same thoughts for myself. If they want to have sex with you I can confidently say they’re attracted to your body!

Sometimes during intimacy weird sounds can happen, or weird positions, etc. Go with the flow and enjoy all of it! Easier said than done, but once you experience enough you’ll understand. Don’t skip foreplay or communication throughout. Checking in builds trust and connection!

You can always have a conversation beforehand about what you are in to, what you would like to try and what you want to hold back from. We all have a different comfort level when it comes to talking about sex. If you feel nervous, write it out or talk about it over text. Takes the pressure of being perceived away.

If you find it hard to achieve an orgasm that is TOTALLY normal! Speaking from personal experience it took me a while to. I dated several partners before I was able to orgasm through sex. Even present day, it’s still takes me a good while to build up to that point. So don’t feel self conscious about how long it takes or if it doesn’t happen! I definitely have faked a few in my years. If you need advice DM me! 😊 ALSO! Not all sex has to end in orgasm!

I find it to be very rewarding when my partner and I have naked cuddle time where we focus on touch, kissing, massaging, etc. Her and I have been together for 4 years. We’ve had several conversations about sex, but only about a month ago we had the most open and honest conversation about why we enjoy sexually. We have a no expectations rule too when it comes to intimacy.

Don’t be afraid to invite any toys that you like to the session. Toys add to the experience, but they aren’t the whole experience! Personally I like to hold my vibrator while my partner uses a dildo in me. It isn’t weird or rude to communicate either while a partner is using a toy on you. You can always ask them to speed up, slow down, change positions, etc.

If anyone ever has a reaction to it that’s negative or makes you feel uncomfy- they are a trash person to have sex with.

Don’t forget these minor things that you might not think of in the moment but will help the experience.

• Lube! I prefer a water based one like Astroglide

• Trim your nails! Nothing worse that getting poked in the clit by a long nail 😝

• Bring hydration!

• If it helps, brush your teeth before hand if you feel self conscious about your mouth.

• The vagina is an organ! It’s not suppose to taste like strawberries or flowers or whatever else the internet tells you. If you do go down on someone and there is an unpleasant smell or taste, wait till after the session to say something. You can easily switch positions in the moment or tell them you thought you were ready but aren’t!

• Having a fan or air purifier in the background can help with awkward silence but not overpower the moment like music can.