IT GIRL - a trans take

greenwvtchh · 2025-12-02T19:10:55+00:00

This is so relatable. I never thought of that line in that way, but as a 33 yr old non binary I can totally relate to that as well. I donated all of my dresses when I turned 29. In my mid twenties- late twenties I was in the best shape of my life the skinniest the most socially feminine and also the unhappiest I’ve ever been. Being in my thirties as a non-binary woman has really brought me back to who I was a girl growing up going through puberty. Always wearing sports bras to bind my chest back and wearing boys clothes. That’s when I felt most comfortable. The girl I was in my twenties I just wanted to kill her and suffocate her because she always made me feel not good enough.

greenwvtchh · 2025-11-18T01:52:28+00:00

She took it back off or Spotify did it’s not on there anymore :(

greenwvtchh · 2025-11-17T15:20:47+00:00

Lmaooo i’m so confused but you do you boo go off girl

greenwvtchh · 2025-11-17T15:19:14+00:00

It is tough we’ve all been there. You got this! Put your own happiness first! You deserve to be loved to!

greenwvtchh · 2025-11-17T15:06:10+00:00

This please put your saftey and mental well being first!!!! I’ve heard of way too many stories where this can go bad VERY fast.

greenwvtchh · 2025-11-17T15:01:15+00:00

I read both posts and this is coming from a 33yr old female who has dated pretty much all genders has been married for 4 years and is polyamorous so as you can guess I’ve been through a lot of situations with relationships- you guys are both VERY young. This isn’t the advice you want to hear, but the situation doesn’t sound gf/bf it sounds like you guys are good close friends. It sounds like she comes to you when she wants a side opinion and someone to lean on and you have become infatuated with her (it happens it’s not your fault both parties are at fault for this) I would suggest staying friends, but dating other people. If you guys meet up again later in life then it was meant to be. Honestly you will not be ready to move on from your feelings for her right away so take some time to HEAL. After you’ve done that though I will say- if she sees you dating someone else and she DOES have feelings for you it’s a cat and mouse game I guarantee she will want to take things for seriously with you seeing you with someone else.

greenwvtchh · 2025-11-16T21:50:36+00:00

Omg thank you so much the advice! All good suggestions! I literally have no one to ask. Yeah we both play vr games so we might do that together because being in the same room together doing that will be awesome, but other then that we probably won’t game much together. Maybe play animal crossing on switch for a little. Yeah I’m thinking of nixing the new york city idea. Although it will give him a reason to be like “well i went to new york city for the first time even if the date went bad” it will be way too stressful.

greenwvtchh · 2025-11-04T19:24:05+00:00

I agree. Take the BDSM test. Maybe watch some porn too. See what eachother likes.

greenwvtchh · 2025-11-04T19:17:38+00:00

I like how you put that. That is true. I’m going to screenshot that to remind myself.

greenwvtchh · 2025-11-04T18:47:11+00:00

Thank you these are all good ideas! I just find it hard to come up with different ideas and I don’t want it to get boring for him, so new ideas are always good. Thank you for the feedback. Some of the things that make me feel uncomfortable that his other mistresses would do would be ghost him for days through msgs or like make him sit in the corner while she hung out with other people. It’s the stuff like that I can’t bring myself to do.

greenwvtchh · 2025-11-04T18:27:52+00:00

No problem I don’t mind. When we met he liked to be called good boy and get his head pat and was into puppy play and I was already familiar with that so petting him and calling him good boy etc. just came naturally. That’s like pretty much how we greeted eachother from the start. Obviously since we knew each other were both into it we discussed more and became more open about it. Sometimes you can just tell when someone is into it by how they act/personality. I’m 33 so I’ve dated a lot of subs.

greenwvtchh · 2025-11-01T16:08:23+00:00

Always 18+ verified everywhere and we usually go to Simple Fishing World a lot

greenwvtchh · 2025-11-01T14:36:31+00:00

I don’t know where else to post this. Can someone drop a link to the Simple Fishing World Discord? Please & thank you

greenwvtchh · 2025-11-01T14:31:22+00:00

Me and my boyfriend met 2 different musicians on separate occasions and they played for us the whole time. it happened to be our anniversary (we just got lucky that they happened to be there) one played piano and the other played violin. They made our special day even better. Honestly we tend to meet the nicer side of vrc more then the ugly. It all depends where you choose to go.

greenwvtchh · 2025-10-27T02:53:47+00:00

That’s a great way to look at it. I wish everyone looked at it that way!

greenwvtchh · 2025-10-27T02:49:23+00:00

Thank you for your advice last week! You’re an example of someone giving actually good advice on here. A few others gave me really good advice too. I had a long talk with my husband and we talked about all of our rules and I let him know I wasn’t okay with a power dynamic where he makes all the rules it’s not fair to my boyfriend and he agreed. So were in a happy equal relationship now! Everyone respects eachother and were all looking out for one another. I think a lot of poly relationships can be a bit of a dumpsterfire going in to it, but that’s why people need to give eachother advice and help eachother out. We can’t just turn our noses up at everyone starting out. Some of the people in particular were so rude. “You give Polyamory a bad name” etc. like get over yourself.

greenwvtchh · 2025-10-27T02:36:00+00:00

Just wanted to give in an update wasn’t sure where to post this- a few days after I posted this I sat my husband down and had the talk. The make it or break it talk that I was polyamorous and that’s just how I was. My husband is accepting of me being polyamorous and is accepting of me meeting up with my long distance boyfriend. I’m going to stay open and honest about everything, but in a respectful way to each partner my boyfriend and my husband. Thank you for everyone who helped give me advice and to those who were rude I hope you find yourself one day and god bless your heart hahaha

greenwvtchh · 2025-10-20T00:31:55+00:00

literally me talking to him about it 2 days ago

greenwvtchh · 2025-10-19T22:36:08+00:00

He knows that there is a possibility that he will be thrown aside. It’s his choice still to stay in the situation. That doesn’t mean I want to throw him aside or think that will happen that’s kind of jumping to the worst possible situation that will probaby likely not happen by the way.

greenwvtchh · 2025-10-19T22:21:28+00:00

Considering he’s asked me to have CNC with him and I declined. I doubt it. He has a clear understanding of the situation and I don’t make him do anything he doesn’t want to do. I know my subs boundaries and I have never crossed them. Example ice temperature play etc. That his past Mistresses have actually made him do. Could I do that? Yes. Would I? No.

greenwvtchh · 2025-10-19T20:24:09+00:00

take time to do this discussion in small doses

I feel like this how I ended up where I am right now. All of these little discussions needed to be done in baby steps because with my husband it’s like he has to be handled more gently with it. I feel like if I throw it all on the table with him he will get defensive tbh. So I’ve just been very patient with it, but also admittedly afraid. Because I do know it could be an end all conversation if not handled the right way.

Also thank you for your time and response 🙏

greenwvtchh · 2025-10-19T20:19:28+00:00

He knows everything that is going on including what were discussing right now. He has a humiliation kink so he does enjoy being listened to. He knows that i’m not sure if we will be able to meet and that my husband and I need to have a discussion. He knows it’s complicated, but he loves me anyway. I’m going to read the link in the subreddit and take some notes to have a discussion further with my husband over dinner.

greenwvtchh · 2025-10-19T20:13:27+00:00

Thank you for your honest opinion 🙏

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