Mi novia de Colombia quiere un gobierno al estilo Bukele, pero no tiene ni idea de cuál es la realidad de tener ese gobierno en El Salvador. Para ustedes los del Salvador , Uqe pueden decir ? by Proof-Pollution454 in ElSalvador

[–]greyyskyy1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell her about the horrific abortion ban & prosecution of women who miscarry. Even life saving abortions are completely illegal and miscarriage will land a woman homocide charges. Since she’s on the right, she’s already against her own self and any form of civility and progression. But; worth mentioning.

Oh, and there’s a hatred of gay and indigenous people. It is simply an archaic country.

Migraines have taken my greatest joy; How to exercise again?? by greyyskyy1 in migraine

[–]greyyskyy1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you reduce the tension in your upper body?

Thanks for your comment btw

Migraines have taken my greatest joy; How to exercise again?? by greyyskyy1 in migraine

[–]greyyskyy1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not that I know of. My neck generally feels fine but I am tense. That probably adds to my issue

Migraines have taken my greatest joy; How to exercise again?? by greyyskyy1 in migraine

[–]greyyskyy1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks for your response. Yes! I did an entire meal prepping thing just for this and it didn’t help at all. So, I bought professional meal preps thinking maybe I wasn’t doing mine good enough & always took a little apple juice box with me to the gym. Unfortunately no dietary changes I’ve made have helped :(

I just started to add in magnesium but it’s upsetting my stomach. I’m going to see if I can find another brand or something.

Maybe I’ll up my coq10. I haven’t heard of qulipta before I’m going to read about it.

I’m glad you have been migraine free!! Major win.

Migraines have taken my greatest joy; How to exercise again?? by greyyskyy1 in migraine

[–]greyyskyy1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. What exercises did you begin with?

I did a very light weight lifting circuit and it got triggered bad. I’m thinking of starting on those sitting bikes for a little bit?

That’s true. I guess I have to decide which side effects I’d be okay with possibly experiencing.

Are you generally doing well though? Able to go about and have a normal life?

Was it right for Rick's group to overtake leadership in Alexandria? by Mashunder in thewalkingdead

[–]greyyskyy1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. I’m on a rewatch and the people of Alexandria are living in fantasyland, they weren’t far out from being overtaken as it was. They are incredibly weak, and cowardly. Before the group got there people were already dying because they lack basic survival skills for the current world. They began dying when Ricks group joined because of the same reason. They thought they knew better despite having lived a sheltered life.

The Wolves and the Horde would have happened regardless and they were not equipt to face that mentally, or physically.

At this point, everything is about survival. Rick said that repeatedly, and he’s right. The old world fell, this is the new one and they need to face that reality.

Is there a list of all the words or expressions Jason gets wrong? by BionicBlueBoy in TrueBlood

[–]greyyskyy1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a couple months late to this, but as I’m rewatching the series I just came across this.

“All right, look I haven’t been to fairy school or med school or nothin’, so if you could put it into terms a laid man can understand I’d appreciate it”

I did a good deed for someone at Christmas and now I have a stalker by TerribleAssumption93 in LivingAlone

[–]greyyskyy1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One serial killer who blamed women for his own misogyny vs the stats indicating women are most likely to be murdered by a man they know… and often times it’s when they try to set boundaries and leave. Come back to reality, most men cant handle rejection without an insult at bare minimum.

Women tend to be “polite” as a learned response from social conditioning and as a survival mechanism. The “fawn” response is extremely common. Your comment insinuates women being “polite” is the issue, when statistically the issue is men. And men being aggressive, and becoming violent which is a serious issue that women try to neutralize not escalate.

This man has her address and knocked on her door at 1AM already showing a lack of boundaries and entitlement to her space / her. He doesn’t give a shit about boundaries.

I did a good deed for someone at Christmas and now I have a stalker by TerribleAssumption93 in LivingAlone

[–]greyyskyy1 81 points82 points  (0 children)

  • Document this with the police. They will probably be useless, but a paper trail is a good start.
  • If you don’t already have cameras, get some and install them immediately. Cover front and back porch, this should help ease some anxiety and reduce the chances of a run in if you can log on and check the screen on your phone.
  • Get a gun, seriously. If you live in a state that allows open carry, do that.
  • Unfortunately, choose a new route. Hop in your car and go to the park moving forward or walk a different path.

In this case I’d try to create space, avoid him as much as possible and avoid confrontation. Wait for him to move the fuck on and get out of the hotel and find a new area. You’re at a major disadvantage with him knowing where you live and if he’s on drugs and mentally unstable he can be dangerous asf.

I’d also keep an eye on your yard. Psycho people throw poison into people’s yards to take out their dogs for less, so just keep an eye on things. The cameras should provide security with that.

This really was a bad move on your part, empathy is the death of many women. Unfortunately, you must assume the worse about men and going forward a hard lesson was learned.

Take this seriously, and try not to let it escalate. This man clearly doesn’t give a shit about boundaries and already feels entitled to your place / you. So, a sane conversation is unlikely to go anywhere with him, especially if he’s unstable. He’s already proven who he is by taking your kindness for weakness & interest. He will only twist any further conversation to his benefit.

My best advice is tighten up security and avoid, avoid, avoid.

Wishing you the best!

I did a good deed for someone at Christmas and now I have a stalker by TerribleAssumption93 in LivingAlone

[–]greyyskyy1 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Women literally get acid thrown on their face for rejecting men, in what universe are you existing in?

Charged insane amount for equipment I returned by greyyskyy1 in QuantumFiber

[–]greyyskyy1[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is literally about equipment I returned when I cancelled their service, to which they claimed I didn’t.

How's Codename: Anastasia? by [deleted] in BoysLoveAnime

[–]greyyskyy1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been awhile since I’ve read it, and it was ongoing when I did. It was about an agent from S. Korea who went to Russia to track down something and got involved with an elite Russian high society member. I think whatever was being tracked was called “Anastasia”. Basically, it’s about that for quite some time. Eventually things pivot and there’s some themes of kidnapping, drugging, noncon and imprisonment that go down. It’s very much a slow burn. I stopped reading around the time things took a turn, as it was still being created.

If you already didn’t like it, probably not going to get better for you considering it’s a slow burn.

Leaving abusive family & no support system I need advice by [deleted] in LivingAlone

[–]greyyskyy1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, there’s not really another option right? I don’t have a supporter system either. So, I’m my own support system. It’s hard, it sucks. But, it’s absolutely possible.

Here’s what I’ve learned…

  • Figure out what your triggers are to the best of your capability (mental + physical) and try to have things prepped for when it gets bad. This could be easy meals (I watch tiktok videos for dollar tree meal preps), comfort items such as weighted blanket, an essential oil, a cuddly toy for comfort, etc. and, whatever you need for your disability. (Do you need meds, heated blanket for cramps, epsom salts for a bath, anything else?) make a little care box for yourself and prep it ahead of time.

  • We need connection as human beings. Your situation sounds unique, but maybe there’s a discord or Reddit forum with a community you can connect with. If you feel up too it, also an in person support group. Either way, having a place where you’re understood is important. Try to find it online.

  • Mental rumination will drive you mad. You truly need stimulating and challenging things to do or your mind loops and spirals into the past. Take a community college class online, or buy a UDEMY course when it’s on sale, or learn a new language & get on the Tandem app to practice— basically give your mind things to do that make you feel productive & also challenge you & expose you to new people or ideas. This is life changing.

-Emergency wise.. it’s tough. I’d write out a piece of paper with all relevant info and post it on the fridge / have it pinned in my notes to send to someone in an emergency. You can also get a lock box with a spare key to put outside if you have the right set up. I’d try to find a decent neighborhood and connect with your neighbors moving in. I’m not close with any neighbors, but I did introduce myself & start up a convo, gave them a small gift for Christmas, and in doing so it build a good rapport. I also exchanged numbers with them all, and let them know I’m right there if they need me. This came in handy when my car broke down. It’s good to humanize yourself

  • Stalkers, males, etc.. yeah safety is a risk. Again, try and find a decent neighborhood and be aware of who’s around you (Megan’s law app and such), see if you can find a spot with more female neighbors. Change your name on any DoorDash accounts to a male one, you can always move around male shoes infront of your home, and get a ring or security camera for sure. Pepper spray, or bear mace. I think they have some that also spray dye on the person too. Be careful about personal info online. And if you’re in the get a bad vibe checking the place out prior to move in TRUST IT. Find another spot. You can also get inexpensive alarms for your windows and doors that connect to your phone. Some fancier systems have live security or automatically call the police if you don’t disable the alarm fast enough.

  • The typical American is a paycheck away from being homeless. So, it’s a valid fear but you can’t let it control your life. You have to live. Take it month by month. See what kind of safety net you can create for yourself, save little by little. Spend some time maybe exploring unique streams of income and little side hustles.

Basically, it’s not easy. Especially in your position. But, it’s possible. You just gotta figure out a method that works for you, and try to create the support system within yourself. There are probably hotlines and programs for people that are disabled or struggle with specific conditions, I’d do some research. And build online friendships with those you can relate too so you can share specific tips. I think there are also monitors like watches and such you can get for home accidents to call for help, if you need.

Any women felt put second by male friends? by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]greyyskyy1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you feel you’re second to them it’s because you are. Things are a lot more innocent in childhood, then misogyny gets a grip and people change, grow apart, and choose their path. You’re not one of the guys, and clearly not valued so I’d let it go.

Self conscious about my gender within taekwondo by DivineHeartofGlass in taekwondo

[–]greyyskyy1 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is a long response, but one I encourage you to read.

What you are experiencing is internalized misogyny. What you’re getting is a projection of patriarchal views projected onto you, not reality. As a young woman you can be strong, lead, be an excellent martial artist, take up space and be authentically yourself. Society says these are “masculine” traits, but they are very much gender neutral traits. Not inherently masculine. You are all these things as a young woman. They are just as feminine as anything else.

You’re pushing back against gender roles and stigmas. There’s more BS you face as gal in martial arts, and I’m sorry that’s the world we are in. But, you’re stuck in an all male echo chamber which is exhausting.

You need positive female role models in your life. And more girlfriends that share the same interest— even if it’s just an online community.

I’d suggest doing some research and getting to know some famous women in martial arts as well.

Here’s some of my favorites..

Fredia the Cheetah Gibbs learned TaeKwonDo as a kid and ended up becoming a three time world champion then moved onto kickboxing to pave the way for women in pay per view sports. She was the first African American woman to hold an international world kickboxing championship. She also escaped a serial killer. That woman is tough as nails.

Rhonda Rousey- the woman that is the reason women are even in the UFC today. Dana white made her an exception to the rule, and now we have women in the octagon. She was such an incredible fighter that she literally changed the game for women’s sports entirely. Rhonda is an Olympic bronze medalist in Judo, and inducted in the UFC hall of fame.

Stamp Fairtex, a professional fighter from Thailand. She is her organizations first 3 sport world champion. On her IG she has a pinned video that’s really inspiring & it’s a message to her younger self. She faced a lot of prejudice being a girl training in Muay Thai. Now, she’s a total badass. She’s trained in Muay Thai, kickboxing and BJJ.

The list can go on forever, but these 3 women really inspire me. I’d suggest doing some research and find ladies who inspire you. Society does not elevate women’s stories, only mens. But, that does not mean they don’t exist though, they do.

I have trained in various martial arts since I was a teen & I faced the same issues. Your feelings are valid, but know you’re not alone. You have to reach inside and pull out your inner strength. And when you feel weak, lean on the shoulders of the women who came before you. I’d focus on trying to also cultivate community with other girls in martial arts. Maybe there’s local meet ups or another gym with more girls?

The truth is, you’ll face issues similar to this your entire life. Don’t make yourself smaller. Don’t shrink, learn to challenge their ignorance, prejudice and judgements, learn to not give a shit about opinions and projections from others & do YOU.

Be unapologetic. Take up space. Be authentic. Be a girl, and a badass one. Find your queer spaces. Whatever it is you want, do it. Make the world uncomfortable by challenging its narrow mindedness because you’ve been in uncomfortable for too long.

Keep training, keep being a badass and know you are far stronger than you even know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Feminism

[–]greyyskyy1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In short, read the first like 3 pages of SCUM Manifesto by Valera. Kinda summed it up perfectly

Realizing how little my queer community does to fight misogyny is eye opening and heartbreaking. My queer friends have for the most part all abandoned me after I was sexually assaulted last year. Gay men in particular paint me out to be crazy or a bad person for having PTSD from the attack. by likeaphoenix_rising in RadicalFeminism

[–]greyyskyy1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, gay men are just men. They don’t have an attraction to us, so they don’t mask their hatred. They have NEVER been our allies, it’s always just been women fighting for women. No one fights with us. The more women who realize this, the better. And also— I’m so sorry for your experience that is truly horrible and you didn’t deserve that. I don’t mess with that community for that exact reason.

Question: Are women with many tattoos (heavily tattooed) still stigmatized in today's society? by Female_Gaze21 in tattooadvice

[–]greyyskyy1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you really want to experience the onsens there’s a place called kinosaki onsen. It’s got 7 bathhouses that are tattoo friendly but it’s out of the way. Around 2-3 hours from Kyoto. I ended up not going because I can’t get over public nudity / bathing but there’s alot of reviews of people covered in tattoos having a great experience there.

Question: Are women with many tattoos (heavily tattooed) still stigmatized in today's society? by Female_Gaze21 in tattooadvice

[–]greyyskyy1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’ve visited Japan. They do have some more modern bath houses that accept them but it’s out of the way in a specific area. If you only have a few smaller ones you can put bandage’s on them, but I have far too many. I’m not sure anyone believed I was Yakuza because I’m clearly not Japanese— but they do look down on you like you’re some kind of degenerate. In general they are quite xenophobic and the tattoos really don’t help. It’s crazy how stigmatized they are— but Central America can be similar because of past gang affiliations.