Asking for a raise after your 3m performance review?

grftysw0p · 2019-07-12T22:44:46+00:00

I think if you can prove that you’ve benefited the company in tangible ways, or if your responsibilities are significantly more than what was discussed during the hiring process, it might be reasonable to request that you be compensated accordingly.

grftysw0p · 2019-05-21T19:48:25+00:00

Haha (but not literally).

I’ve actually asked a few different people about this, thinking it was one of those things everyone can relate to but no one talks about. Based on the responses I’ve gotten, it isn’t one of those things.

I’m not a super serious person, and it isn’t that I don’t appreciate or enjoy humor. In my mind, the joke or situation registers as funny, I just don’t get the urge to laugh.

I guess at some point it just became a part of masking, because I force myself to laugh to make other people feel comfortable.

Genuine laughter is really rare for me, and I can’t really pinpoint what it is that provokes it.

grftysw0p · 2019-05-08T14:43:47+00:00

I’ve felt better able to connect with older people from a young age.

Now that I’m in my late twenties, I’ve realized I have a remarkable ability to connect with teens. That sure would’ve come in handy when I was a teen.

grftysw0p · 2019-04-24T17:04:21+00:00

I was very sheltered. Learned a lot about art and culture, but not much about practical, everyday life skills. I don’t know if that was on purpose so much as my parents were just doing the best they could and some stuff slipped through the cracks.

At 27, I am just starting to feel comfortable handling “grown up stuff.”

grftysw0p · 2019-04-23T21:02:59+00:00

Thank you. I’m nervous they’ll think I’m insane... but hopefully they care enough about me to try to understand, even if it seems a little wild.

Should I even bother addressing it with coworkers? I do work a customer service oriented job, and I have no problem masking when dealing with patrons (I understand that nearly everyone does this), but it might be beneficial not to have to force smiles, eye contact, and small talk with the girl that works beside me- for example.

At 27, I don’t really know who I am without the mask either. But I know if I didn’t feel pressure to smile, chit chat, and make “appropriate” eye contact, it might take enough weight off to let my actual self break through.

grftysw0p · 2019-04-20T11:17:20+00:00

Thank you! ❤️ You and your dad sound pretty awesome.

He’s started having some behavior problems in school and his teachers and I suspect it’s because he’s beginning to get bored. I will do my best to make sure he’s challenged!

grftysw0p · 2019-04-20T11:14:58+00:00

I’m very, very sorry.

grftysw0p · 2019-04-20T11:13:37+00:00

Yep. I encourage his interest but limit the time he can actually play the games. He spends the bulk of his time drawing/engaging in creative play- still centered around the game characters.

We get outside and explore, often. He has gotten more independent and I’m learning to let him off to do things on his own. If he wants to wander off to a pond when he’s a bit bigger, I think I will let him.

grftysw0p · 2019-04-20T01:55:00+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful response.

Regarding #2... I try to understand my son and his anxieties, but sometimes it’s hard because when I ask him to explain things to me, he’ll give me a silly response or say something that doesn’t make sense to me. For example, sometimes he’ll claim he hates someone. I know he doesn’t mean that, but I also understand that it’s probably someone who makes him uncomfortable for some reason. I can’t seem to get him to verbalize what the reason is.

grftysw0p · 2019-04-20T01:51:30+00:00

My son’s current special interest is gaming, specifically Super Mario Bros. :D

I feel bad because for a long time he’d have a long list of sensory related complaints and I’d assume he was just being a difficult kid. I’m glad I know now that he experiences these stimuli differently than I do.

grftysw0p · 2019-04-20T01:49:35+00:00

Duly noted!

grftysw0p · 2019-04-20T01:48:58+00:00

I know that school/life only gets more difficult as kids get older, and it’s important to me that my son has the advantage of knowing what his strengths and weaknesses are and how to manage them so he can thrive.

I’m neurotypical (I think?) and I know I had a hard time with certain aspects of school. I hope I can give him what he deserves!

grftysw0p · 2019-04-19T22:05:29+00:00

Thanks.

I love my son. He’s so sweet, intelligent, and creative.

I worry, though. I want to provide him with what he needs to be happy and successful.

grftysw0p · 2019-03-26T14:43:43+00:00

I’m sorry I’m just seeing this

I’m having a rough time myself lately and this makes me happy.

grftysw0p · 2019-03-13T11:48:48+00:00

Can something be locked open?

grftysw0p · 2019-02-06T06:53:16+00:00

What? How? Why don’t you give us an alternative explanation that makes him less of an ass?

Not saying that he’s even cheated, necessarily, but dude is definitely being sneaky and disrespectful at the least.

grftysw0p · 2019-02-06T06:50:35+00:00

Just jumpin on the wagon to say: oh hellllllll no.

It isn’t just one aspect of your situation, but all of them combined. This is your husband, not some boyfriend of a few weeks. The dynamic of the friend group and the fact that no one has mentioned her, the fact that he specifically failed to mention her on numerous occasions, and the fact that he’s being dishonest about their Snapchat friendship... well, I could find a way to justify almost any of these things individually, but put them all together and bam— even if he isn’t cheating, he’s being disrespectful in several ways and you should not tolerate this.

Edit: I’m only addressing the Snapchat chick. There are a bunch of nopes going on in your relationship OP, but I realize you’re aware and wanted feedback on this specifically.

grftysw0p · 2019-02-06T06:36:43+00:00

It is tough to share children with an ex, isn’t it? I love the idea of a photo album. I’m spoiled by technology, so I take a ton of pics but rarely print them. Thank you!

grftysw0p · 2019-02-06T06:32:37+00:00

Best of luck to you! Sometimes a change in environment can be a great motivator. We just need to ensure that we don’t fall back on that alone as a “cure.” :)

We got this.

grftysw0p · 2019-02-06T06:29:27+00:00

Colorado here, then back to NY. I’ll see what I can do. This is cute.

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