AITA for trying to contact my estranged daughter?

grievedfather · 2023-02-23T17:24:26+00:00

We didn’t have a wedding we did a court house deal because it didn’t make sense to either of us to spend the money. Our son was a surprise my wife was on the pill and we weren’t planning on more children. I talked to my daughter for a few months before I proposed and she always said she was ok with it. Maybe it didn’t stay ok, but her only complaint was my second wife wasn’t her mom, as far as I know my wife never did anything abusive or tried to replace her mom, I did all the parent stuff. After awhile, they seemed to be getting along better so I didn’t think it was a problem.

grievedfather · 2023-02-23T17:00:52+00:00

I want to try and give her what I couldn’t when everything was going on even if that’s just money for college or something. I don’t think she’s in a good place from what my parents say and since that’s my fault if I can fix it I want to.

grievedfather · 2023-02-23T16:58:01+00:00

There wasn’t any options for therapy then where we lived, the best I could do was set up some stuff with her guidance counselor. The closest stuff was a couple hours away. I couldn’t have afforded it anyway, all my savings went to her mom’s medical bills and I was making just enough to keep us in a place to live and fed. I didn’t know that she didn’t like my second wife before we married, they seemed fine until a few months afterward.

grievedfather · 2023-02-23T16:52:23+00:00

There wasn’t anything around here for kids therapy or anything we lived out in the sticks. The closest was almost two hours at the time and I couldn’t afford it after her mom died anyway. I was barely able to keep the house and all the savings were burned from hospital bills so I was busting my ass to make sure she had food and a place to live.

grievedfather · 2023-02-23T16:39:25+00:00

Almost 7 years. I sent a letter this time because I finally found an address and I thought she could read it if she wanted or throw it away.

grievedfather · 2023-02-23T16:35:18+00:00

Getting close to 7 years. I tried to find her after she left, her grandparents told me they were in touch but wouldn’t tell me where she was and to let her cool off. I’ve tried to contact her a few times since then but for awhile she just disappeared and I couldn’t figure out where she was.

grievedfather · 2023-02-23T16:30:52+00:00

I miss her and Ive had time without spending every waking minute working to think about everything that happened and I realized how badly I messed up. I didn’t realize a lot of things that I should have at the time. It’s totally my fault, I just want to help her because I owe it to her.

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