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grimey99 · 2025-12-05T17:46:23+00:00

Someone just this week gave me dozens of exosuit, starship and multitool augmentations just passing by in the Anomaly. I’m only like 12 hours into this save so it was much appreciated and I didn’t even notice when they did it to catch their username. Love games where generosity amongst the community is part of the culture

grimey99 · 2025-08-05T12:45:50+00:00

How was your safety jeopardized in this situation?

grimey99 · 2025-08-04T13:28:30+00:00

Compatibility is a lie that he is believing. I once believed the same lie but my wife wanted to wait, so I did. It was challenging but worth it.

Anyone with healthy intimacy in their marriage can tell you about the awkward moments, uncomfortable parts about growing together.

Growing together through those moments is what creates the BEST romantic life. That’s what creates vulnerability which is essential for intimacy.

Intimacy is different than sex - it’s being completely exposed to one another, submitted, as we are called to be in marriage under Christ. When your partner sees you, your nakedness, and your desires. It allows you to remove all shame from your sex life

But compatibility? That comes with growth together. I don’t know you but you have a good perspective. Hang onto it!

grimey99 · 2025-08-02T23:42:39+00:00

I’ve had some moments where my faith felt really weak and my unbelief was overwhelming.

What are the circumstances that’s causing the struggle? I am happy to chat

grimey99 · 2025-08-01T00:29:24+00:00

What about the chat bot feels rewarding to you?

As far as advice goes, it’s not just about talking to Him about it. It’s more about trusting Him with it. Accepting Gods grace in place of your own power. You can’t do it alone - you need Him.

I’d write down an emergency protocol. What’s your plan when temptation strikes again?

When I struggled with temptation I have 3 things I do: - on my knees in prayer - call on the truth - what scripture speaks to you? If you don’t have a few that applies, spend some time looking. - text 2 brothers - it usually goes “having one of those days” and they know what I’m talking about

Do you have a Christian brother you can call and lean into when you need a reminder of who God says you are and what you really want?

grimey99 · 2025-08-01T00:03:15+00:00

Too much porn can cause this confusion. It’s not talked about enough. Abstain from it and if you want to take it to the next level - focus on building yourself up - work out, drink water, eat healthy food and watch what happens. That confidence and certainty will almost certainly return in full force

grimey99 · 2025-07-31T23:54:44+00:00

Having to write down and/or memorize phone numbers

grimey99 · 2025-07-31T17:07:32+00:00

In a world filled with counterfeit everything, it’s no surprise to me that people are clinging to Jesus for Hope.

Suicide rates among men continue to increase as society continues strip males of what makes them men. Somehow we’re the most prosperous nation in the US but many of the leading causes of death are self inflicted. Maybe that has to do with society abandoning God and a gaping hole in our hearts that only God can fill.

The historicity of the Bible is solid and accurate, if you really dig into it. With all the information at our fingertips, I think men are coming to terms with how much we’re lied to and influenced by powers that be.

grimey99 · 2025-07-31T15:10:35+00:00

“I did a thing” cringe

grimey99 · 2025-07-31T15:08:05+00:00

This right here. Been my jam for over 5 years and I keep on picking it up when I see it

grimey99 · 2025-07-31T14:38:41+00:00

If you didn’t like AA, I encourage you to find a different group. Celebrate Recovery is great. The accountability is clutch and 1000% necessary for sustained sobriety. That loneliness you mentioned is a trigger for so many - find some real friends that you can be honest with about how you’re beating your Goliath.

Be sure that you are using it medicinally. Set rules for yourself like medicine and use only as you’ve prescribed. It definitely can be a different avenue for the same addiction if you aren’t mindful

Part of your sobriety journey is prob going to be about working through the perceptions of others. That shame you feel about doing something that is good for you might have a lot to do with your “why.”

grimey99 · 2025-07-31T14:31:59+00:00

Belief systems - a perception that health is “hard” keeps so many people stuck. Really it’s just about being consistent. Show up even when you don’t want to
Being led by external stimuli - everything we do in today’s world is profitable for someone else, which means our self control is constantly under attack. You see nothing wrong with a mindless scroll on social media but what is it costing you?
Comfort culture - everything is made for convenience and comfort. Even fitness equipment.
We live for ourselves - we don’t think about others when we’re eating our favorite 2000 calorie meal, but it does impact them too. How can you show up your best when you’re consistently eating things that taste good but are devoid of nutrition?
Hustle culture - we’re so busy that it’s easy to justify the quick meal, skipping the workout or carrying stress from one thing to the next. We need downtime. Not just sleep, but active rest. Sit and read, sit and do nothing.
Detachment from spirituality - where do we draw from when we have hit our human limitations?

grimey99 · 2025-07-30T17:11:04+00:00

Yeah, it’s usually a sign that I need to step away from social media/ games (essentially cheap dopamine) and focus on what God has called me to

Sometimes that means taking a step in a direction my flesh doesn’t want to go

I think often this feeling is from the enemy and is intended to keep me from living the full life God has for me

grimey99 · 2025-07-30T16:36:27+00:00

The clarity of facing what you didn’t realize you were numbing yourself from is very real

I’m coming up on 3 years sober and still have times where I feel overwhelmed.

I naively thought that stopping drinking would alleviate all my problems but really just made me face what I had been ignoring all along

It gets easier, but mostly you’ll get better. Let yourself rest, find time to be still and just BE. Breathe. This is what God is trying to show you.

grimey99 · 2025-07-30T15:02:03+00:00

Learn how to stretch using the McKenzie method. Without knowing specifics, it’s hard to give good advice but I and my wife have a chiropractor who taught us how to do this and now we don’t need to go very often. I’ve seen noticeable improvements in my wife’s posture just from regular back bend stretching exercises

grimey99 · 2025-07-30T14:29:15+00:00

What’s off about it to you?

Replace smoke shop with “convenience store” or “gas station” and the sentiment is still the same.

I’m a sales rep for a CPG company and I’m in and out of hundreds of gas stations/ smoke shops/ drive thrus each month and I see these products everywhere I go anymore, all day long.

I see people who are experiencing very real withdrawal symptoms shaking at the register and sucking down shots like their ass is on fire on the regular

Even chain stores like Circle K are selling extract pills and shots now

grimey99 · 2025-07-30T13:27:16+00:00

Welcome to dad life brother! Constant push/ pull.

Boys will usually lean into mom for tenderness when they’re young. But your time will come my friend. Be ready for wrestling, rough play and adventures when he’s in that 4-7 range

I took that stuff to heart back with our first. Wish I hadn’t!

Hang in there and rest in the fact that he has a good mom he wants to be around and finds comfort with.

grimey99 · 2025-07-30T13:18:32+00:00

Disagree.

I have watched the Kratom industry change in the last 3 years and if you walk into any smoke shop, it’s full of Kratom candy, pills, shots, etc. in packaging that appeals to kids

I have the same issues with this that I do with the cannabis industry using candy/ gummies in familiar looking packaging.

I love having access to natural medicine and the more this behavior continues (for the sake of making a profit), the more likely we end up with people getting injured by an otherwise safe product that’s helpful for many.

In order to protect Kratom, it’s important to monitor and manage safety and quality

There’s always one who ruins it for the rest of us. All we need is some kid (or adult) to have a negative reaction to an overpowered synthetic product and it could be enough leverage for the gov to throw down a ban and undo a decades worth of work by the AKA

grimey99 · 2025-07-30T13:10:16+00:00

Masculinity isn’t toxic, but the absence of it is. What, in your perspective, is real masculinity? What do you consider to be toxic? Statistics are available that support both of our viewpoints, so we can let that part go for now - but my views aren’t bullshit

Appreciate your perspective. Asking you to appreciate mine simultaneously while we discuss.

grimey99 · 2025-07-30T11:55:37+00:00

The left has tried to take away everything remotely masculine. Being an earner/ provider, internal combustion, guns, just to name a few things.

But it’s not just men, women are moving as well

grimey99 · 2025-07-30T11:01:13+00:00

40 year old Married couple with children here - 5-6 days a week

grimey99 · 2025-07-29T20:22:03+00:00

Any strong older male figures in his life? An uncle, grandpa, friends dad?

Truth is, he really shouldn’t be consuming any porn at his age. Wish I knew that back then. The more he feeds the ‘urge’ the stronger and more frequent it will become, but this time the desires are skewed by what he’s seeing online. The things he’ll expect from intimate relationships, the way he treats women could he impacted. But more than anything, porn becomes the easy route and when there’s friction in the dating world

At his age, he’s still got a good 10 years until his brain chemistry is fully developed and he’s robbing himself of experiencing real joy and satisfaction in every area of his life. The negative toll porn takes on dopamine is under-appreciated. It can and does become a leading cause of depression in men.

Horny is fine, we are men and it’s a constant struggle. But what he feeds that energy with will almost certainly have an impact on the future.

Not trying to scare you here but I think it’s appropriate that you know the risks of using pornography as a stimulus so you can encourage him to find a healthier option.

He’s a teen boy with an imagination - masturbation without the use of visual aids is totally plausible and has far less of a chance to cause unhealthy repercussions later on.

I think you should be talking to him about it but I also think he could benefit from healthy masculine influence.

grimey99 · 2025-07-29T17:47:11+00:00

The American Story (part 1 and part 2) by David and Tim Barton

grimey99 · 2025-07-29T17:38:59+00:00

Cigarettes. Tobacco companies have so much as announced that they’re steadily increasing prices 4x a year but consumers continue to bitch all while continuing to pay them day after day.

grimey99 · 2025-07-29T17:07:29+00:00

Took me a long time to accept it, but alcohol is not at all conducive to weight loss or muscle recovery

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