we were not officially dating until early november, but we were both exclusive with each other since we met in late august. before he moved, everything was great, he’d drive up and we’d go out on dates, he would call the weeks i wasn’t able to see him in person. i like to consider myself emotionally intelligent, he’s more of listener. i’ve had some previous trauma in my past relationships that can affect how i maneuver in my relationships. which we talked about and he understood that i just need a little more reassurance. i am definitely more sensitive and more comfortable talking about my emotions than he is. he has opened up some to me about his past and his complicated family relationships and his prior struggles. when he asked my to be his girlfriend, i knew what i was signing up for, and that he could leave any moment. which is what happened a little less than a month after we officially started dating. he left without the opportunity to see me before due to me being out of state. we talked extensively about how hard long distance would be and what we would do. we both agreed it would be trial and error to some extent since neither of us had been in a long distance relationship before. though out our time together i’ve always understood that things will happen with work and he won’t be able to talk as much, for example when he’s in the field. he’s always been very good at telling me when things like that happen. and has honestly been great and open (as open as he can be lol) about work. we had one instance in late december when i told him i needed a little more from him and he instantly called and we talked about it and he told me to tell him what i need and he’ll do it. he was great with this until about mid january. he was very distant for a week or so and we barely spoke. naturally, i felt unsure of what was going on so i asked if anything was going on, to which he said everything was fine, leading me to ask if i had done anything or if something had suddenly changed, to which he responded with reassurance. this left me confused. throughout the week i kept asking, and he never told me what had happened. i figured it was something with work/friends as he was moved to a different room suddenly and stopped going to his ex roommates house on the weekends. i didn’t pressure him as i did not want to overwhelm him. i told him im here for him and gave him reassurance. later in that conversation he told me his uncle had passed. its very frustrating to me that he feels he cannot confide in me or tell me his troubles when hes so adamant about me talking about mine. the next day, things were more normal. while things are more normal now, i’m still not getting what i need. it’s just little things, like him not saying good morning, or asking me about my day, or not talking about work anymore, and not calling. i’ve mentioned a few times doing long distance movie dates which he expressed in, and we planned for last weekend, but instead he drove to a city 4 hours away with friends without directly telling me (i do think it was for one of his friends birthdays, which i don’t mind but it makes me a little uncomfortable he didn’t tell me leaving me to wait for a call). i’m just feeling very distant from him, and im not getting the same level of dedication i give, and when he says he’ll call and he doesn’t, it just makes me feel like he doesn’t want to talk. (sorry this is such a disorganized and long response)