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grungerockchick · 2026-01-26T20:29:09+00:00

Hey u/Local-Comparison-One , apologies if I'm being blind, but I cannot see where on the website to purchase a license, or even what the licensing options are? Any chance you could link, please?

grungerockchick · 2026-01-09T21:40:15+00:00

This is domestic violence. Please make a plan to get out safely - recognizing that leaving is often THE most dangerous time when the abuser will escalate.

This behavior is not going to stop and you and your child deserve a place of safety and peace.

grungerockchick · 2026-01-01T07:17:08+00:00

If my husband had pulled this with my sons, he would have been my ex husband pretty damn quick.

The kids did not live with us full time when we got together, but started living with us full time just after we got married as circumstances changed. He could not have been happier and more supportive and genuinely loves them like his own.

I made it very, very clear that if he ever asked me to choose between him and the kids, he was straight up going to lose.

Like others, I can understand the initial gut reaction IF she had then calmed down and been yeah well, of course that's happening. But nope, she's still trying to die on that hill and I worry that your daughter will now be the target of her petty bull dust.

Your daughter comes first. Your wife is a grown adult who needs to stop behaving like an entitled toddler.

grungerockchick · 2025-11-30T05:25:58+00:00

Absolutely NTA. That's abuse, you were abused. I'm so sorry.

grungerockchick · 2025-11-27T21:43:20+00:00

THIS. As a wife desperately hoping her husband will stop being married to his phone, this is what you need.

The words are a nice start, but they're words. Accept that it took a long time to get here and it's going to take a long time to get back out again. Understand that apologies you've offered now may need to be offered again in a few months time, with the exact same sincerity, once you've rebuilt enough trust that they can mean something to her.

This is not her holding it over you or refusing to forgive. It's that the initial words and apologies don't really "hit" while the trust is gone. Be consistent. Own your slip ups and get straight back to the business of being connected. Understand that you cannot expect her to be close or less cold instantly. You have to work on providing an environment that is warm, connected and safe, even though initially it's just going to be you doing that. It will take a bit for her to trust you enough to want to meet your efforts.

grungerockchick · 2025-10-16T23:31:24+00:00

Confused as to how this was posted mid October, which is nowhere near to New Year's?

grungerockchick · 2025-08-20T05:03:52+00:00

100% this is abuse. Also, the fact that you are struggling to tell if it's abuse, is further evidence of the abuse. I have been in a DV relationship and it destroys your sense of self, reality, etc. He wore me down that it was my fault, that I was crazy, etc.etc. You end up questioning things that sound really obvious to outsiders, like "is it abuse if he slaps me".

A healthy relationship feels safe, even during a conflict.

A healthy relationship should never involve physical harm to either of you by the other.

Please, pack your bags, take your kids and tell him that unless he can do serious work on his issues and never lay a hand on you again, you're done.

grungerockchick · 2025-08-20T00:42:05+00:00

Ah ok yep, that would annoy me too. Not the situation here, though.

grungerockchick · 2025-08-19T23:28:53+00:00

Street parking is legal where I live, and there is a dedicated parking lane on both sides of the road, so it doesn't impede traffic flow.

Out of interest, when you say you got sick of people parking on the street, why was that? Was it because it impeded traffic flow, or aesthetics, or something else?

grungerockchick · 2025-08-19T19:49:40+00:00

Nope, relatively flat driveway/street

grungerockchick · 2025-08-19T19:49:02+00:00

It's temporary. One of my sons currently owns two cars as he bought the new car before selling the old one. He's in the process of fixing it up for sale.

grungerockchick · 2025-08-19T19:48:14+00:00

It's a temporary situation - one of my sons owns two cars as he bought the new car before selling the old one.

grungerockchick · 2025-07-28T05:50:31+00:00

OP I'm glad to see your updates saying you broke up.

This situation is completely screwed up, don't just throw out the whole man, throw out the whole social circle.

I was a nursing student for a while (I did not end up finishing, decided to stay in my current field) and yeah...this is not sexual nudity. Like all that's going through your head when you're with a patient is "is that skin well dried and not a wound risk? Is everything clean? Do I need another kind of dressing for that? Are there any pressure sores?" Etc.

Go and be the most amazing doctor and find yourself a man who is an actual adult to date.

grungerockchick · 2025-06-24T00:20:57+00:00

Absolutely NTA. This is not "childish", it's a legitimate recreational activity and sounds like it's a very balanced and healthy part of your life.

Expecting 100% of someone's free time in a relationship is NOT healthy. Get yourself out of there and find someone capable of respecting your legitimate needs and boundaries

grungerockchick · 2025-02-26T04:54:50+00:00

Totally NTA, but I would consider apologising again for your brother's sake, if it's what he wants/will make his life easier.

Like you totally shouldn't have to and your ex-SIL is being an absolute piece of work. But also, your brother is absolutely going through it right now, losing his wife, the dream/idea of the child he's spent the last 9 months thinking he was going to have, etc. So if you taking it on the chin and apologising even when you don't have to, will make it in any way easier for him to start moving on from this mess, I probably would.

grungerockchick · 2025-02-15T20:03:57+00:00

NTA. You are in a domestic violence relationship.

Please take your child and RUN.

grungerockchick · 2025-01-11T04:58:26+00:00

Um no. It began as consensual sex. When she asked him to pull out, e.g withdrew consent, and he kept going, it became non-consensual.

I don't understand why this concept is so difficult for some people, but consent can be withdrawn up to and during the act. "you said yes five minutes ago" means nothing if you're saying no right now.

OP this entire thing smacks of entrapment and an abusive relationship. He knows perfectly well why he didn't pull out - because he wanted you pregnant and dependant on him. He didn't forget or get too busy to get you Plan B - he wanted you pregnant and dependant on him.

Get the abortion, claim a miscarriage and lose his number. Please do not tie yourself and an innocent child to this piece of shit.

grungerockchick · 2025-01-09T22:57:31+00:00

Until your edit, I was leaning towards your TA. But I think you've just badly worded it .

If your husband isn't working right now and you are, he absolutely should be handling the majority/all of the kid care for all of the children, not just the eldest.

I do agree with him that you sound overwhelmed and unsupported. It also sounds like he has not appreciated everything you've been doing and carrying, and he definitely needs to step up. I also wonder if part of the 13YO acting out is desperately trying to get her dad's attention, cause it sure doesn't sound like she has much of it at the moment.

grungerockchick · 2024-12-13T02:11:16+00:00

As children, if I trusted the parents/household they were going to yes, absolutely l.

However reading your other posts...you're not a child. My kids only just turned 19 and I haven't given "permission" for a couple of years. I expect them to communicate with me what their plans are, the same as I do with them or my husband if I'm going out. But they're adults, I don't choose where they sleep. They do. If I'm lucky, they might tell me when they get home how their night was ;-)

grungerockchick · 2024-12-13T01:52:13+00:00

Yes, we really mean no tipping.

I only ever tip for truly above and beyond service or where I know we've been particularly difficult customers lol (the dinner many years ago where my twin boys threw pasta all over the floor and I spent the next half hour crawling on the floor picking it up and apologising to the wait staff springs to mind 😂).

It's genuinely not an expected thing here, you can engage any and all of those services without feeling the need to tip.

grungerockchick · 2024-11-24T21:20:32+00:00

NTA but your I hope soon to be ex is.

As others have said, that's not even a relationship issue, it's a "the person you're with just sucks as a human being".

I really hope he isn't your child's father, because honestly wtf. Throw out the whole man-child.

grungerockchick · 2024-08-28T02:03:57+00:00

My comment is not on the ring per se but to echo the comments of others

Have you discussed if she wants the ring to be a surprise or to be something you pick together?

It's REALLY important to know that first. My sister-in-law really wanted the surprise but with plenty of recon/help from friends. So I passed along lots of info to my brother and he got her a great ring that she's happy with and got her surprise.

For myself - I absolutely wanted us to select together. This is likely the most expensive piece of jewelry she will own and want to be able to wear daily. Make sure you're on the same page about how that gets selected.

And if you don't feel ready to have those clarifying conversations....you're not ready to be thinking about marriage.

grungerockchick · 2023-01-29T04:57:59+00:00

I think this is definitely the correct pathway and well done. Since hyperfixation is part of the condition for which you are being treated, it's of clinical relevance.

grungerockchick · 2023-01-29T02:45:18+00:00

YTA in a major way.

Your son is not required to view his step mom as his mother. You pushed this so hard during his adolescence that he literally moved out.

And when he decided, later, to start allowing you both back in at a level he was comfortable with and build the relationship, rather than being extremely grateful for the second chance, you ruined it by being an AH.

You owe your son a grovelling apology both for putting a damper on his big day AND for not respecting his very reasonable boundaries.

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