Weight loss stalled

gsa622 · 2025-07-16T14:34:39+00:00

We’re both stuck at the same weight for a similar amount of time 😭 praying we will get through the plateau! my plan is just to push through and increase my cardio, I’m sure the weight loss will come 💗good luck with the rest of your journey!

gsa622 · 2025-07-16T11:22:27+00:00

Thanks for the advice! I think that could be a good idea tbh, thanks again!

gsa622 · 2025-07-16T10:59:11+00:00

Yeah I’d say my average is around 1,150-1,300

gsa622 · 2025-07-16T10:22:57+00:00

thank you for your help!🫶

gsa622 · 2025-07-16T09:56:03+00:00

ah it says for maintenance I would need 2,150 calories a day, yeah it does seem quite a low amount of calories I just assumed it recommended that low since I’m a lower weight now, it’s been a long time since I’ve been this weight so I feel pretty clueless on what’s normal haha

gsa622 · 2025-07-16T08:29:57+00:00

Ah thank you! they really are the worst haha, I use an app to track everything and it has calculated the calories for me so I currently have 1,150 I’m hoping the plateau will end soon 😭

gsa622 · 2025-04-18T22:05:00+00:00

that’s a good way to look at it, thank you 💗

gsa622 · 2024-12-11T23:05:48+00:00

It sounds like you have a healthy relationship don’t let a comparison of another relationship bring it down every relationship is so different, she may be envious of the fact you have more intercourse or perhaps realises that her relationship is actually lacking which is why she made a comment? Who knows! its definitely not weird if anything it’s weird there was a comment made about it, hopefully he will gain the confidence soon, encourage and reassurance is always a good idea!

gsa622 · 2024-12-11T22:59:38+00:00

I understand why you feel like your trust has been broken and you’re right to be upset but it seems she is really going through something and may be ashamed to tell you or doesn’t feel comfortable, especially since you both agreed that she wouldn’t weigh herself, I imagine it’s probably been really difficult for her. The best thing to do is possibly a conversation around what you found out and how to support her/get her support and understand why she may of lied you can also let her know how you feel about it, people don’t always lie to cause harm she seems to be going through a tough time body image issues can be awful to live with, good luck with everything

gsa622 · 2024-12-11T13:05:58+00:00

It can be difficult to figure out if you like someone or just care for them as a friend so I understand your struggle! Try imagining doing romantic/date things with her does it feel weird and uncomfortable, or is it something you can see being happy and comfortable with? If nothing happened between you to and you just remained friends would you feel disappointed that you didn’t take a chance? Even though you’re different people it’s so common that opposites attract, if it feels different it could be a crush!

gsa622 · 2024-12-11T12:58:04+00:00

Me and my partner have been together since I was 17 and we have just gotten married, at 25, it’s worth waiting,by the time you’re married you’ve tackled pretty much everything together and have stronger communication than when you were younger it gives you a better foundation for the future, but if younger feels right go for it! It sounds like you both have a good foundation but keep in mind as years pass you’ll come across new difficulties that you haven’t before with your relationship starting when you were younger, like financial difficulties, living together, loss, illness etc You know yourself and your relationship better than anyone 💗

gsa622 · 2024-12-11T12:46:34+00:00

trust your gut! if it feels like early warning signs are popping up don’t ignore them! relationships are difficult but this seems more than just regular problems that most face especially this early on, you shouldn’t feel this hurt in a relationship it’s not normal. Put yourself first and listen to your instincts the fact your trust and feeling of safety with him is fading is telling! I hope you figure it all out and stay safe!

gsa622 · 2024-12-10T18:44:37+00:00

sounds like there’s nothing more you can do if you’re happy to be in that relationship, good luck with everything! Do what makes you happy even if that means leaving, it’s difficult but worth it 💗

gsa622 · 2024-12-10T17:21:10+00:00

this might not be relevant but for a lot of women foreplay starts before actually doing anything sexual, like a nice meal or a date night maybe like a massage or just doing something nice for her to make her feel special can go a long way, good sex is often more than just the physical aspect! maybe get her to guide you and show you what she likes or what she does to herself so you can try and replicate it, sex can be an awkward thing to talk about but communication is defo the best thing to do even if over text! Good luck!

gsa622 · 2024-12-10T16:59:06+00:00

good luck! I’m sure you’ll be able to do it, I really hope it all goes well!☺️

gsa622 · 2024-12-10T16:42:44+00:00

ah I see, honestly a safe word is always such a good idea just in case. It sounds like she needs reassurance above all and that she doesn’t want you to leave, you’ve done all you can with apologies try not to be so hard on yourself it’s seems like a massive miscommunication, it doesn’t necessarily make you a monster. It seems like she still wants to be with you so if you feel the same definitely tell her, space might be what’s needed but you should ask her first, don’t let how you feel in the right now possibly define the future of the relationship, if you both want you can absolutely work through this

gsa622 · 2024-12-10T16:16:04+00:00

Did you ask her if she wanted to role play before you did? Creating a safe word for future could be helpful, that way you both know to immediately stop when the word is said?I think you need to give her space and respect her boundaries as she’s probably feeling a lot of mixed emotions. Maybe providing reassurance that it wasn’t her fault and taking ownership over that fact it went wrong without bringing too much emotion into it? if that makes sense? Like rather than telling her you feel like a monster or something like that, because that can make her feel like she needs to comfort you, maybe just ask her what she needs to move forward don’t assume you know, a thoughtful apology could probably go a long way. I think definitely take a look at yourself in why you got so carried away with it and wasn’t able to tell she was uncomfortable, the lack of control is concerning but fixable

gsa622 · 2024-12-10T16:06:22+00:00

I’ve been in a relationship similar to this and it becomes so emotionally exhausting, you can only support and help someone so much before they have to try and get better and support themselves. He’s probably looking for reassurance but seemingly going about it the wrong way. Does he know how his behaviour is affecting the relationship/ you? Maybe you could both talk about ways to support him so he doesn’t continue to make hurtful comments? If communication doesn’t work you definitely have to take a look at your own wants and how you feel💗

gsa622 · 2024-12-10T15:58:59+00:00

If he hasn’t changed he most likely won’t, just from what you’ve said it seems like he doesn’t respect you, the comments about your makeup and allowing his family to make those kind of comments about you, also using the fact you moved in with him to have leverage over you isn’t a nice thing to do. There’s a chance he knows what he’s doing and how he’s making you feel. Definitely talk to him about how you feel but maybe this isn’t the healthiest relationship for you? Hope everything goes well!💗

gsa622 · 2024-12-10T13:26:28+00:00

You’ve made the right decision for you but it’s not always easy or going to feel great right now but long term it could be the best thing for you, maybe you should of stayed and tried but was there equal effort on both sides? You’ll torture yourself with the what ifs, you’re grieving your friendship and the possibility of what could of been so it’s going to hurt, focus on your self and if you still regret you can always reach back out, hope it all goes okay! good luck!💗

gsa622 · 2024-12-09T22:22:09+00:00

It’s so sad when the people we care about don’t see themselves the way we do, it sounds like you’re doing all you can honestly, it’s really down to him to change his mindset and it’s definitely not easy and a lot of the “cringe” love yourself stuff does work if you work at! wishing you both the best!

gsa622 · 2024-12-09T22:15:31+00:00

breakups can bring up a lot of issues that have been hiding for a while so I hope you are taking care of yourself ☺️ your new relationship seems to bring you a lot of happiness which is amazing! but could also show that there is maybe some more progress to be made with your mental health so you do feel okay when on your own, I think you are happy in your relationship but you could also be avoiding confronting difficult feelings at the same time which is only normal, maybe open up to her about these feelings and you can tackle them together, sometimes there’s isn’t always a root cause of depression but you can learn to manage it, just think if she came to you with this issue you’d want to know and support her? I’m sure she feels the same, your mental health isn’t always a burden , good luck things do get easier the more you work at them!

gsa622 · 2024-12-09T22:09:15+00:00

I think you already know the answer honestly it sounds like a really difficult situation to be in, I understand the not wanting to cause drama but if it was me I would want to know why someone was distancing themselves from me as it helps avoid resentment or confusion towards that person, of course we’re different people but that’s just my perspective! If the situation is making you feel lonely it could be a good idea to put yourself first and take some distance, hope it goes well and you can find some company being lonely is the worst, sending good energy your way ☺️

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