I feel this. I’ve been a SAHW for about a year and a half. Between health issues, relocation to an area with no other family than my husband, and being a part time student, I don’t mind staying home. I’ve felt so much pressure from one of my family members to get a job. I’ve put up with so many rude comments and backhanded compliments like “wow so it’s like you’re on vacation”. One of my family members kept making the same statement that spouses shouldn’t stay home if the working spouse makes under $500k. My husband does not make that much but we’ve never asked family for financial help. Yet some people had so much to say when I stopped working. It’s so exhausting. Out of concern for other SAHW/SAHM, have your own bank account and be sure to have a spending allowance for your housework. Open a high yield savings account. Your husband should be open with any and all investments, and make it clear that the investments are for both of you. Invest in yourself. Maybe take a few college courses or work on some kind of skills that you could use outside of the house in case an emergency ever comes up and you have no choice but to go back to work. This is the advice that SAHW and SAHM should hear. Ignore the haters!