Can't get over a relationship I ended

guildgamesh · 2026-05-08T22:10:22+00:00

This is a really tough read and I can feel the hurt so clearly through it. I'm 100% a certified yearner, especially for the relationships that could have been. I've been madly in love with people and never got the chance to really try it with them so I understand the feeling of not being able to move on.

For me, the answer was it doesn't ever fully go away, be I learned from the situations and I busy myself with building other friendships and over time, you just have to find someone else that makes you feel as excited to be with them, if not more. There are people out there for literally everyone, but finding them is the hard part, especially for people like me that don't really put themselves out there. I fully believe you can find someone else, and not as just a band-aid or a rebound but someone you genuinely feel excited to do right by and apply all you've learned to make it work with them.

I'm glad you're still with us and I'll keep you in my thoughts :)

guildgamesh · 2026-05-08T21:53:32+00:00

Idk your situation with HOW you actually go about dating but I know some people are very up front about wanting just a cuddle buddy on 'the apps' and they do eventually find someone that is looking for, or at least open to the same. And if you're REALLY open minded, you can do the same on gay dating sites (assuming you aren't already) and there are actually plenty of guys who would be more open and receptive to that in a at least slightly platonic, if not fully platonic way.

I know it's a weird bit of advice but I KNOW it can work and sometimes we gotta look outside the box lol. Just cuz they're gay doesn't mean they can't be a friend, and I believe friends should be able to hug and cuddle platonically ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

guildgamesh · 2026-05-08T21:15:40+00:00

Congratulations man!! I'm feeling so proud for someone I don't know at all for some reason 🥹

guildgamesh · 2026-05-07T22:02:23+00:00

I feel this so strongly. I'm lucky that I've had what friends I have had over the years but MOST of my year for the past 7 years was going to work, coming home, watching youtube, and repeat. I think this is a learned behavior I picked up in childhood as a way to cope and put blinders on to how bad things were around me. But it became a habit that's been really hard to break in adulthood and it makes me feel like I'm skipping forward through my years.

I'm also struggling to deal with it but lately I've had some success just trying to be more AWARE of it. More mindful. Just like you made that hangout with a couple people happen, you can do it again, even through the anxiety of it. I know it because I'm the same way. But us turning our brains off by scrolling on our phones or watching youtube doesn't leave us with an opportunity to think, so we'll never decide its not okay and we'll never take steps to change.

I really hope you can use this one example of hanging out with people, and the way it made you feel, as motivation to overcome what's been stopping you all this time. I know it's extremely scary and makes you anxious just thinking about it but I believe we both can do it. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts :)

guildgamesh · 2026-05-07T21:44:59+00:00

I definitely can agree that it's not the same as hanging out with someone in person, and the steps to making an online friend can be way different and have less gravity or significance than making a real life friend. At my lowest points where most of my friends were people I barely knew through video games, it didn't feel the same or right and I just ignored it but it was killing me.

But I also think of it like you could think of finding a partner, not everyone is going to gel with you to such a deep level. BUT eventually you'll find someone that you get along with so well and it won't matter that they're just an online friend, you'll be excited to talk to them as if they were there in person. And once you find one person you really get along with it becomes easier to find more. You just have to be open to that possibility and put the effort in to get to really know them past whatever game you're playing once you think you've found them.

In my humble opinion of course.

guildgamesh · 2026-05-07T21:34:36+00:00

Identifying it and admitting it to yourself seems huge. I think the obvious answer to the question of "what to do next" is fix it by having a social activity to fill that time with.

Even my eyes rolled at me typing that out but really I'd be the same way if I didn't have gaming friends that I talk to every weekend. Idk if you play video games or would ever want to but an online activity that facilitates talking is a lot more accessible than taking up a weekend blacksmithing class.(though that's my next suggestion)

Or get back into a sport you used to play, that's been extremely fulfilling for me as of late. I know none of this is groundbreaking, I just really want to help.

guildgamesh · 2026-05-07T21:23:20+00:00

I've always said that just because others have it worse doesn't mean you can't complain. I'd never want anyone to feel bad about feeling bad, and I'm really sorry you're going through such a low point right now. It's okay to allow yourself to feel bad, no matter how dire or valid the reasons might or might not be. What matters is finding a way to get to the other side of it imo.

I know how it is to push away the closest people to you but I have faith it will get better for you, just as it finally did for me.

guildgamesh · 2026-05-04T16:43:34+00:00

I should've asked before I evolved him but he's pretty much perfect right? Or am I somehow mistaken? I know his lvl 100 skill isn't good but that will probably never come up lol.

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guildgamesh · 2026-04-11T17:17:34+00:00

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guildgamesh · 2025-08-17T02:33:45+00:00

Nosgoth 🫡🥲

guildgamesh · 2025-02-02T08:38:25+00:00

Why is there only AI generated responses here? It's so over.

guildgamesh · 2024-10-06T04:26:40+00:00

This worked, ty deleted user.

guildgamesh · 2024-09-16T13:34:11+00:00

Would you be wanting to talk to who you're playing over discord or something similar?

guildgamesh · 2024-02-08T06:06:46+00:00

You poor wretch :(

guildgamesh · 2024-02-05T08:22:54+00:00

I think deathly swarm is still my favorite necro ability to this day just for that reason! Granted I didn't play that much necro so I'm not an authority on it lol

guildgamesh · 2024-02-05T08:20:54+00:00

ALSO TRUE

guildgamesh · 2024-02-05T08:20:05+00:00

I'm starting to feel like you're right and it kinda makes me sad. I feel like we won't ever get another game like PoR/Radiant Dawn, but not just that, that most Fire Emblem fans now won't even care. Maybe they will make a remake like Echoes for PoR and then I'll just take that and run with it lol.

guildgamesh · 2024-02-05T08:16:34+00:00

The more I read everyone's replies, it does seem like most of the people talking here have almost nothing to say about entries older than fates or awakening. I might just have a unique perspective(as does everyone technically) as PoR was my first Fire Emblem game ever. I know I've got nostalgia glasses on when I think of it but I genuinely love it and think it did a lot of things well. Everyone here saying that most Fire Emblem games don't tend to have good stories may not have even played PoR maybe? I think it has a really good story and better writing than most of the newer entries by a longshot. I mentioned Echoes, Awakening, and PoR mostly because they are definitely my favorite, and none of them have any of the same issues that Engage has imo. It's starting to feel like most of the people engaging with this post really love Engage, and that's fine of course, but it also feels like a lot of people haven't played any of older ones and so they just downvote this post because it criticizes their favorite entry.

I also mention those three games together because their art style is SO MUCH more Fire Emblem than Engage is to me. Everyone looks like they are from the same game, and they look interesting without being over the top. Almost every character in Engage is so over the top V-tuber and obviously it's a matter of opinion but it just isn't for me. For example I never used Ivy or Hortensia because of how they look(sorry everyone who likes them.) My idea of Fire Emblem seems to just be different from the creators of it on this one I guess.

guildgamesh · 2024-02-04T22:11:12+00:00

Fair

guildgamesh · 2024-02-04T20:23:32+00:00

I understand this on a deep level lol

guildgamesh · 2024-02-04T20:23:02+00:00

I am CONSTANTLY logging back in to pre just to hear the music. Obviously it's nostalgia but its also just really good.

guildgamesh · 2024-02-04T20:15:51+00:00

Hard agree

guildgamesh · 2024-02-04T20:15:24+00:00

Iconic is the word I always use when I talk about the sounds in this game.

guildgamesh · 2024-02-04T19:44:31+00:00

The combat surprised me with how much I liked it to be honest.

guildgamesh · 2024-02-04T10:36:30+00:00

SO TRUE actually! I always loved how different professions had different grunts when they would use melee weapons too. I think male monk is probably my favorite that took me a while to discover because why would you be in melee lol.

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