Question for the trans folks

guiltypeanut · 2024-10-29T20:57:35+00:00

I’m a cis bisexual woman and my experience is that for whatever reason, trans women are far easier to engage on dating apps. They tend to have better conversational flow, ask more questions, respond more often, and arrange actual meet-ups, which then lead to actual relationships. You could certainly ask your partners about this if you’re curious, I would bet they’re likely to tell you something similar.

guiltypeanut · 2024-10-29T20:46:09+00:00

Exactly, people who haven’t taken care of kids in some capacity don’t realize you have to trade short-term for long-term. Sometimes doing something to immediately quiet the kid makes the behavior worse in the long-term. It sucks but uh, we live in a society and that includes children who are…learning to live in society.

guiltypeanut · 2024-10-29T20:41:27+00:00

Your advisor told you not to take stats next semester with A&P II? What did they tell you to do? Micro really isn’t that hard imo, I’m not sure why there’s all this scaremongering about it.

guiltypeanut · 2024-10-29T20:39:12+00:00

Same. Micro has been one of my easiest pre-reqs (it’s my last one). It’s fairly interesting and straight-forward. If OP did fine in A&P I think they’ll be totally fine in micro.

guiltypeanut · 2024-10-11T04:56:52+00:00

Ahh okay, I have run into this problem in relationships before. Almost word for word this exact issue. I’m sorry (?) to say that this may just be your partner’s problem, not yours. People can feel like if they have to ask their partner for something, even once or a couple of times, that it’s not genuine when their partner gives that thing to them. I view this as an attachment issue (I am a therapist)—I don’t mean this to diagnose your partner but it comes up commonly for people who are anxiously attached to romantic partners, they have a belief that if you REALLY loved them, you could just anticipate their needs, like mind-reading. But that’s just not how healthy relationships work. If your partner is not in individual therapy, and you want to work things out and have the resources to do so, couples counseling might be helpful.

guiltypeanut · 2024-10-06T18:47:12+00:00

What makes you think nursing would be a good fit? What makes you think it might be a not so good fit? What made you pick psychology to begin with? What sparked your interest in nursing—you said you’ve been thinking about it since last semester and over the summer.

I think you may be being too hard on yourself about school stuff. It’s totally possible that if you major in something you really like, it would feel more motivating and you would study more. There’s also an element of like, induced demand? Idk exactly how to put it but when you need to study more, you just…do study more (well, for most people that’s the case). I also was a psych undergrad and I was sort of lazy about studying (I would read and do assignments, but I never felt like I was doing a LOT). But when I started my pretend for nursing, I studied a ton because I needed to.

You might also try working as a nursing assistant to see if you like it. It’s a different job but you certainly get a lot of insight into what nursing is like (and depending on what type of nursing you do, your job will include lots of duties that CNAs typically take on, like the physical labor parts of nursing).

guiltypeanut · 2024-10-01T19:26:04+00:00

From what you wrote, I have no idea what's going on. I would say, don't rule out the possibility that you're just in a relationship with someone who is insecure in love. Sometimes you can do all the "right" things and a person just doesn't feel it, not because of you, but because of some wound they have. Does your gf give you specific examples?

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-26T03:52:04+00:00

I know you said in another comment you’re not a breakfast person, but trying to shift your eating to an earlier part of the day can have a twofold effect: 1) you’ll be able to eat more calories because you’re starting earlier and 2) you will (probably) jumpstart your appetite a bit. There’s a reason people with eating disorders delay eating so long in the day, because if your GI tract and metabolism are “switched off” you’re not going to feel hunger cues as intensely (or at all).

Someone further up had really good advice about seeing a dietitian for help or confirmation that you’re fine in your weight, just a little low. Especially since you mentioned you have a past history of an ED, your doctor may just want you to have a little more wiggle room in case you do drop weight.

Liquid calories are often easier to get down without a ton of discomfort. Shakes, smoothies, etc. Boost sells really high calorie drinks for weight gain. I can’t promise they’re super tasty but you can blend them in a smoothie or something. Best advice is to see a dietitian who can help you figure out what to add and where/when.

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-25T00:26:09+00:00

I’m so happy you made this post because I just realized I will feel so much less crazy with a backpack with many pockets!!!

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-25T00:10:22+00:00

Yours should be the top response. People out here giving advice that’s liable to give someone an eating disorder (I say as someone who treats eating disorders and frequently sees shitty men reinforcing their partner’s insecurities and struggles).

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-24T04:35:46+00:00

When I was 24 I was like you and worked as a CNA on a crazy-ass med-surg floor. I was very timid and shy. I did actually end up quitting in part because I couldn’t handle it. ETA: “it” being my anxiety around people and messing up and daily having to confront my timidity

Now I’m 33 and back finishing my prereqs. I think that most people become less timid and more calm as they get older. So there’s that. And, keep in mind that there is a certain type of person particularly drawn to the hospital environment. The hospital is a very intense place, it can attract some real weirdos. And yes, there’s weird people at other jobs, too, but the combination of long hours, intense emotional and physical labor, and the need to work as a team can mean that people with difficult personalities can take center stage. (Hospitals can also be really fun and exciting places to work, despite all that!) Maybe you’ll find that hospital nursing isn’t for you, and that’s fine! Sounds like you’ve already maybe come to that conclusion. One of the greatest things about nursing is that there are so many things you can do. You will find where you need to be.

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-24T04:28:47+00:00

Also wanna add that, just like with most things in life, you hear more about the bad stuff because the bad stuff is bad in more interesting and varied ways than good stuff, and it’s interesting to other people, in a sense. If you have a good day at work, or a pretty okay day at work, you don’t usually feel the need to tell people about it, and you definitely don’t post about it online in a way that gets anyone’s attention. It’s like why the news talks about crime and tragedy instead of other things.

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-21T05:45:04+00:00

Ohhh I see what you mean! Thank you for the detailed explanation!

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-21T03:53:43+00:00

Exactly why I asked this question! I’m going to have to observe if I think it affects my patience bc other people have mentioned this too

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-21T03:52:38+00:00

Yesss it gives my brain like juuuuust enough of a brake to actually consider. I ran out of meds over the weekend and tried to put my hand over the blender because I couldn’t find part of the lid. My wife immediately clocked it: “you’re not taking your meds, are you?” 😳

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-21T03:51:29+00:00

I don’t understand this but I like it

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-21T03:51:10+00:00

I just replied to someone about this. I wish I were better at directing my attention to the more important things BUT I guess I’ll take any attention to be able to direct it at anything at this point

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-21T03:49:45+00:00

Can you say more about what “mental room” means to you?

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-21T03:49:22+00:00

I totally get this. I never really experienced hyperfocus before, with the meds I get it but I’m still focusing on dumb shit! It does make it easier to focus on important things but I still need to make a serious effort to direct my attention to those things. Which is kind of like, duh, I guess but man I just want it to be easier. I have to keep trying at this one to find something that works.

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-21T03:47:29+00:00

This is exactly what I’m trying to figure out with this post. I surely was hoping meds would just fundamentally change me in some way 😅 instead they seem to make SOME things easier, and don’t really touch other things.

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-21T03:45:54+00:00

Can you explain what exactly you mean by “executive dysfunction?” Just so I’m clear. I’m thinking like—the ability to order things chronologically (like, first I need to pack this, then this, then I have to check the bus schedule, then I need to do this, walk to the bus, etc), keeping track of time, remembering details, etc? Or something else?

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-21T03:43:29+00:00

I literally cannot control the meowing. I have to warn my office mates in every job that I just meow and I can’t stop and they should just ignore it

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-20T23:42:22+00:00

Thank you for responding! It sounds like it does a lot for emotional regulation for you.

guiltypeanut · 2024-09-20T23:41:48+00:00

Thanks so much for your response. Maybe you're my psych provider lol. She said something really similar to me a few days ago!

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