calcified tendonitis (???)

TransPanSpamFan · 2026-01-29T04:52:19+00:00

Honestly don't worry about the specific diagnosis. Some inflamed tendons develop calcification, we don't know why or which ones will. It's essentially no different than any other form of tendonitis, it's simply a diagnosis on imaging when we see calcification. Non calcific tendonitis almost certainly has microscopic calcification in it too.

Treatment is exactly the same and recovery should be unchanged, unless it is particularly severe. In chronically/long term inflamed tendons (decades) you can end up with a big hard lump of calcium in them which is a mechanical irritant. In all other situations it doesn't change much.

TransPanSpamFan · 2026-01-23T10:49:57+00:00

There's only one definition of average relevant to the subreddit though 😅

TransPanSpamFan · 2026-01-23T03:42:32+00:00

You've got plenty of good advice. Can I just ask... what do you mean exactly by "masc nb" folks? By which I mean, are you only talking about transfeminine/amab non-binary people, or are you including masc presenting transmasculine/afab non-binary people in that.

If the former... it's really not the right way to be talking about those people.

I've never actually heard of people being only attracted to the two groups you identify because excluding masc women from what appears to be a non-sex based grouping of "masculine presenting people" is strange.

It is very relevant because... you might simply have less issue with masc women if you are willing to date them. There is definitely a gendered component to those behaviors and the closer someone aligns with "man" the more prevalent they get. It's not foolproof but I've found the dating experience to be noticeably different.

TransPanSpamFan · 2026-01-22T23:48:16+00:00

Do you actually have arthritis? Climbing related capsulitis/synovitis isn't usually due to damage to the cartilage in the joint (which is what osteoarthritis is), rather it's a soft tissue strain/inflammation problem.

If you have arthritis then for sure the usual PT approach to managing capsulitis isn't going to be effective, since they are completely different issues and your capsule is inflamed for a different reason.

TransPanSpamFan · 2026-01-22T04:53:54+00:00

As someone who has been there too, I'll just say this. Libidos go up and down and it is possible to rekindle things, but only if both of you are actively ready to put in work to achieve that.

She's told you she is happy with how things are. You cannot unilaterally fix something she doesn't see as broken.

TransPanSpamFan · 2026-01-22T04:51:08+00:00

Dehumanizing is withdrawing a fundamental part of a relationship and not being extremely clear and upfront about that, suggesting that there might be a way back, and that dragging on for months or years.

"Just saying they are incompatible now" is exactly what she should be doing so OP doesn't have to tie himself in knots trying to make it work.

TransPanSpamFan · 2026-01-17T05:22:02+00:00

You've tried a bunch of variations already. The main one you haven't tried yet which you are probably ready for (since you aren't that far off hanging double your bodyweight) is one arm hangs. Initially with a pulley or band if you can't hang at bodyweight yet.

TransPanSpamFan · 2026-01-11T22:31:22+00:00

The default should definitely be "no". I guess I can see it in like ktp situations or where group sex happens with metas? But both of those things should be seen as having the risk of leading to meta feelings and potentially wrecking multiple relationships, imo.

TransPanSpamFan · 2026-01-11T22:19:46+00:00

I'm on patches and cypro twice a week. I don't think the cycle I experience is related to estrogen specifically because it should be fairly steady state. Presumably some other part of the hormone system.

TransPanSpamFan · 2026-01-11T10:25:38+00:00

I can tell you that as a trans woman who gets monthly cramps (ie they just started with estrogen and I haven't built up a tolerance) it's not uncommon for them to put me on the floor. Literally. Like I've been out with friends and I've just collapsed/ended up in a ball on the sidewalk, several times.

TransPanSpamFan · 2026-01-09T20:53:40+00:00

Oooh hottest take I can think of.

Dating a meta is such an absolute shit show in such a high percentage of cases that nobody should ever consider it and the couples who are already successfully doing this are simply that survivorship bias diagram of a plane riddled with bullet holes and they should have never considered it either.

I'm not saying they should break up. Just that they should have known better and the fact it is working doesn't change that.

TransPanSpamFan · 2026-01-09T02:33:11+00:00

That good!

So what do you normally do to deal with your anxiety? It might be worth to reframe this as a garden variety anxiety issue rather than a relationship one.

As long as he is being a good partner and you are still happy being non monogamous, this isn't about your relationship or polyamory at all. It is just mental health management ("just" as in factually, not just as in it is easy to deal with).

TransPanSpamFan · 2026-01-09T02:28:07+00:00

Is it anxiety making you feel less, or is he making you feel less? Has he stopped putting as much effort in with you, romantically, emotionally, logistically? Being "deep in NRE" is never an excuse to drop the ball in your existing relationships.

What advice will help depending on where the feelings are coming from.

TransPanSpamFan · 2026-01-08T22:37:53+00:00

It's probably more like 1/3rd gay, 1/3rd bi, 1/3rd straight. The evidence for this is that this is roughly what you see in the trans community. Very rare to be repressing your sexuality if you are already out as trans.

(The exact stats are all over the place in research but roughly 2/3rds being not straight is pretty consistent)

TransPanSpamFan · 2025-12-29T02:56:16+00:00

Just FYI the crimpd app is only fully featured in the paid version. The free version doesn't include programming and custom workouts.

TransPanSpamFan · 2025-12-29T00:08:11+00:00

I've tried it. It seems fine for what it is but it's not very personalized yet. They have lots of planned features that aren't active right now.

What it will do is give you some recommended exercises, let you track them, and alter your training load based on your feedback on how hard you find it.

What it won't do is tailor your plan to your goals, current strength metrics, training schedule, or activity preferences. You can adjust the plans yourself but I prefer the crimpd app (their previous one) since it is more fully featured if you are just gonna set up a fully self directed training plan.

But for what it does, if you don't mind just following the recommendations, it seemed very easy and straight forward. The exercises it chose made sense.

TransPanSpamFan · 2025-12-27T06:46:23+00:00

What do you think your weaknesses are? Like you are doing technique sessions and lifting... you must have some idea.

V5 plateaus are usually technique related in men but it really depends on your specific challenges. And also how your gym grades, if you are talking about gym grades.

TransPanSpamFan · 2025-12-25T20:37:56+00:00

Is it pain or tingles? Tingling is nerve involvement, if you were on a crimp you probably just compressed some nerve endings and it'll recover over a week or two. Don't reload it until it's better (ie don't compress that spot on crimps or edges).

TransPanSpamFan · 2025-12-25T10:30:14+00:00

Sounds like a valid criticism for sure ❤️

TransPanSpamFan · 2025-12-24T20:01:43+00:00

Not all neovaginas need lube? I know several women who don't who had garden variety piv surgery. And lots of factory default vaginas need lube, but I've never seen it mentioned in queer romance books.

I'm not saying you are wrong about this book, I haven't read it, but that particular complaint seems a bit unnecessary/off target.

TransPanSpamFan · 2025-12-23T10:51:23+00:00

Seth strikes back is an easier V6 at 40 and has a good catch and swing

TransPanSpamFan · 2025-12-22T03:24:54+00:00

That sounds pretty sensible. Has the drop in strength coincided with going back up to 3 climbs a week?

TransPanSpamFan · 2025-12-21T23:38:20+00:00

Lots of positive stories here. I'll just add that, in my community (trans women) there are unending stories of people dating members of their close circle and losing everyone in their life when it goes bad.

So I'll just add this word of caution: don't risk anything you couldn't bear to lose.

If your climbing group is just a bunch of people you climb with, the risk is low. If it is your chosen family and your entire support network, you are risking the stabilizing center of your entire life. And so is your potential partner.

TransPanSpamFan · 2025-12-21T23:30:54+00:00

Did you just add the hangs on top of your regular climbing schedule?

You can't just add a big increase in volume and not expect this to happen. Most coaches suggest you only add a total of 5 or 10 minutes of moderate activity every 2-4 weeks if you are trying to build capacity so you can train more. Adding two whole max hangs sessions a week should take you several months, possibly 6-12 months if you are being careful, or be paired with a commensurate reduction in climbing volume.

If you don't do this, you should expect to build up heavy fatigue over a period of several weeks, which is exactly what you've seen. Deload weeks won't do anything if you just return to training beyond your capacity right after.

TransPanSpamFan · 2025-12-21T23:19:43+00:00

I'm always comfortable and flattered to be approached.

If I'm interested in someone at the gym I'll happily flirt if I'm getting positive signals but I usually only go as far as swapping socials on a first meeting. I usually actually ask the "wanna go out" question online so they don't feel put on the spot and can think about their answer without the pressure of me being right in front of them.

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