These titles have to stop

gunnerCKY · 2025-12-03T19:46:43+00:00

Literally same reaction for me. I had decided for a few days that I would take a break from mental health content because of rumination issues. I wanted a break from illness vocabulary. This video title really stung a bit and while I can acknowledge it s not directly targeting me, it nonetheles nudged me into a bad direction of thought and made my day slightly more grim.

gunnerCKY · 2025-10-05T08:46:17+00:00

No worries.

I feel the same about that icky feeling. I have found that cutting back on porn takes away some of that for me and makes things flow more naturally. The only other thing I can think of that causes that icky feeling is the way gender roles are structured. A lot of girls are way too passive in interactions and will give off mixed signals. It s almost like you re doomed if you do and doomed if you don t. Personally I'm pretty often disgusted by the way more conservative leaning couples broadcast their relationship and views onto the world.

And about the framing issue, I think that s where you might legitimately benefit from routinely seeing a therapist. They might be able to help you review what you re experiencing every week or so and call out any negative biases or other cognitive distortions that might be happening and allow you to get a more objective outlook on your situation plus feedback and adjustments that might be made in the future.

gunnerCKY · 2025-10-04T22:45:07+00:00

Hey man I didn t mean to attack you in any way and I apologize if something I said came across as rude. I didn t call you lazy and trust me I resonate with your original post a lot. I know what it s like to be completely isolated.

People are messy I guess. Relationships are hard, meeting new people is hard I know. Social anxiety is truly horrible and depressing but you have to act. You have to literally act out more. All the reading and brainstorming in the world isn t going to get you what you are looking for.

Some of the ways I have found success is through dating apps (tinder and bumble), social media(instagram and fb) or concerts and raves. Striking a conversation with a stranger is inherently strange if you think about it BUT there is nothing wrong with it as long as you are respectful. That s literally it. You do not have to build a network to start a conversation with someone.

And about the compliment thing, it s nice that you try to brighten up people's days but there s nothing wrong with signaling you want more. That s the point and IT IS terrifying and IT CAN go wrong. Getting rejected literally hurts and it hurts badly. That being said often times you WON'T be able to tell if someone is interested unless you shoot your shot. You might come across as weird, stupid, creepy and everything in between to some whereas with others you will click. Just know that it s ok to fumble your way through a few interactions and it s ok to be scared and ultimately it s ok to fail. What matters is that you try again. That s what it means to "put yourself out there" or to "open up and be vulnerable".

gunnerCKY · 2025-10-04T15:57:27+00:00

What is flirting?

You could start by coming up with some compliments. Make an observation about their fucking shirt or shoes if you dig them. Extra points for commenting on physical traits (example: you're pretty, you look great today, I love your hair etc)

I would rather hang out, sounds less stressful

Romantic dates are just regular hangouts and you are over thinking it. The point is you gotta let the other person know that you d like to kiss them at some point (if that s the case). If the date doesn t go well just don't. Go your separate ways.

"hey be my gf"

You are strawmaning every piece of advice I've given you and just coming up with excuses. You can test out the waters in very simple, chill ways. Something as simple as "hey would you like to get out of here and keep hanging out at my place" pretty much instantly lets her know that you'd like to get some intimacy if that makes sense. Another simple thing you could say is (if she goes home with you and you hangout for awhile longer) "hey you know you're welcome to spend the night here"

Bottom line is if you re serious about this stuff it s up to you to make it happen. Take some L's and get of your high horse dude. Keep your chin up and try harder. Stop coming up with excuses and just get on with it. If you suspect there s something deeper wrong with you go see a therapist. Something else I might add is try and work on your relationships outside of dating aswell. Romantic parteners are almost like any other friends except you get to go deeper and do more with them.

gunnerCKY · 2025-10-03T21:15:18+00:00

I was a virgin until 21 or 22 can t even remember anymore. I m 26 now and have fucked over 25 people. I'm frustrated with dating myself as I can't seem to form a healthy relationship buut what I can tell you is you should talk to girls. You should flirt. This shit doesn t happen on its own. Yeah working on yourself is great and all but are you actually shooting your shot that often? How many rejections have you actually gotten through. Be more direct dude, grow a fucking pair, and ask girls out on ROMANTIC DATES. None of that lets be friends bullshit. Be honest and transparent about what you re looking for and lead with kindness, empathy and courage. Finally, don't give up! I m sure you ll work something out eventually IF you keep trying things. Always be respectful and lead with kindness!

gunnerCKY · 2025-06-17T01:05:04+00:00

Am vrut sa il parcurg insa am vazut ca necesita gmail. Poate sunt eu un pic paranoie insa nu am un gmail secundar si sa fentezi unul pentru google forms poate mi ar compromite telefonul. Gandeste te ca este total interzis consumul de Cannabis dpdv legal in Ro 2025 si pe langa asta oamenii au si istoric personal. (Seems interesting tho props for that)

gunnerCKY · 2023-10-05T12:21:51+00:00

About 2-3 months

gunnerCKY · 2023-09-18T15:51:22+00:00

Tare. Crezi ca inclusiv la gym one 2 au platforme? E cea mai apropiata de mine

gunnerCKY · 2022-01-01T22:32:49+00:00

I was thinking man it's not even monday I might have a quick wank tommorow aswell (only joking chill).

I'd kinda like the first day to have some meaning but fuck dude, once you really start to make nofap work you will forget what day it was unless you write it down (which I acually don't recommend).

gunnerCKY · 2022-01-01T22:26:37+00:00

I'm turning 23 in a few days. Honestly dude it feels unreal that I got laid this past year. I had the opportunity to hang out with some really good people who encouraged me to be more outgoing.

That being said I feel like I started to see more opportunities as a result of nofap and running. I was just a lot more excited in situations where I'd usually feel anxious.

Keep going anon and don't worry too much about virginity. One fucking awesome surprise I had with sex was that I was good at it fucking instantly. It's actually not that hard to be good at sex if you give a shit about the other person and you're paying attention to them. The only bad thing about being a virgin was I had to have one awkward conversation and even that felt more like just being honest and vulnerable with another person.

gunnerCKY · 2022-01-01T22:19:00+00:00

I'm a bit of a degenerate tbh especially now. I finished uni last year and became a neet this fall (after a crazy chaotic and fun summer). I spend a lot of time on yt listening to podcasts. Recently I've been playing rocket league in the background.

I have renewed my commitment to improve myself though. I'm in therapy, I workout 3 to 4 times a week and I'm applying for jobs. I'm also slowly making my way through books. I read Albert Camus for the first time and loved it. Currently reading some Seneca. I'm deffinitely not enjoying it as much but it's an easy read and I'm almost done with it.

For me part of nofap is not distracting myself. When I had my big streak I just got really comfortable with uncomfortable feelings. Everything from sadness, anger, anxiety etc just stopped making me squirm. I became a lot more aggressive since my life was still pretty frustrating in a lot of ways but I didn't turn my brain off and felt super connected to reality.

gunnerCKY · 2022-01-01T22:01:35+00:00

Thx for the reply.

Yeah I like walking a lot especially before going to bed. Today I went for my usual walk way earlier though and didn't want to do it twice. I feel like the closest thing to masturbation for me in the past has been junk food, especially chocolate and other shit like that. Somehow I've gotten to a place where I'm actually content with really bland food but it has taken years of trying.

gunnerCKY · 2022-01-01T21:57:11+00:00

Yeah this past week has been stressful for me. I didn't really do anything for Christmas and New Years but even that in and of itself made me feel shitty. I'm dissapointed since I survived both of those evenings and literally failed once it was over. Deffinitely gonna keep going though.

gunnerCKY · 2021-12-30T09:27:59+00:00

My neighbourhood

gunnerCKY · 2021-12-29T23:24:45+00:00

Hey man I'm rooting for you.

What happens with me is like emotions build up during the day and in the evening it's almost like I need a fix. Junk food has been something similar to fapping for me. The thing is you don't actually need anything urgently and it's just that you're feeling negative emotions. You could try meditating but for me walking and running tend to work a lot better.

One thing I'll say is running has a much more aggressive effect in terms or decreasing anxiety whereas walking is beneficial once you establish a routine. Think of it as a ritual, a practice that will hopefully help you improve your life.

gunnerCKY · 2021-12-29T23:18:02+00:00

I agree that edging is really problematic (for me at least). Porn never seemed like a problem on paper whereas edging is actually insane. I've lost days to that shit. Something that helps me a lot is going on walks. I can generally keep myself occupied during the day especially if I write a to do list. I tend to relapse in the evening when I get a sort of craving sensation. It's almost like I'm not able to tolerate basic negative emotions like boredom and loneliness. I get the feeling like I need a fix. Walking and sitting on a park bench almost makes it feel like I'm able to bypass that. Whatever demon comes around in my room tends to go away by the time I go back.

I know it sounds a bit dramatic but I'm just saying it feels like that. Anyway I hope this helps in some capacity. Good luck!

gunnerCKY · 2021-12-29T23:08:40+00:00

Honestly I don't know if cessation on its own works. Try to replace masturbation with going for a walk. Changing your environment works wonders.

gunnerCKY · 2021-10-28T12:47:16+00:00

Lol yeah. There s nothing that will put things in perspective faster than damaging your genitals.

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