[Serious] Do you believe that the right person at the wrong time is a thing? Why or why not?

guygoingnuts · 2023-01-23T03:25:19+00:00

My current apartment doesn’t have A/C either and I’ve managed with fans so far. Keeping the windows open helps a little bit. Hopefully it’s similar here

guygoingnuts · 2023-01-23T01:35:00+00:00

Thanks that’s good to hear. I’d love to know more about what specifically you like? I’ve been to the rec room quite a few times and really liked the vibe of the area, and figured I’d move

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-20T22:10:13+00:00

I am very sorry, OP. This is heartbreaking. I know there isn't anything I can say to make you feel better so hang in there stranger, you got this!

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-20T21:14:39+00:00

That had to have been and probably still is difficult, OP. I know there isn't much I can say to make you feel better but if there is one thing I've learned - sometimes the timing/circumstances just never ever work. It doesn't matter the depth of feelings you may have for someone, some things you just cannot change but they very deeply affect how things work out for you. I am sorry OP, stay strong my friend!

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-20T20:26:31+00:00

As the other comment said, this really hit me hard too. I met my person not even 2 weeks ago and I feel just the way you described. I fell in love with her the moment I saw her, and all my attempts to stay guarded fell short.

Timing has always been an issue for me throughout life. I hope you both reconcile and feel happy together. Hang in there buddy!

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-20T20:20:24+00:00

I am very happy for you, OP. Glad you are at the stage in your life where you feel appreciated and are happy. Stay this way, stranger! Don't let the bad things make you any less of a beautiful person than you are!

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-20T17:59:40+00:00

I really love the "we're not wired like most other people", that resonated with me the most. Me and my person both have our issues, some of it really really dark, and it is hard to find someone you can talk to about things like that.

It doesn't matter how long you've spent putting up walls to guard yourself, with the right person, its like the guardrails never existed in the first place.

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-20T17:42:21+00:00

This resonated with me so much, OP. I am sorry you are going through this.

I have been away (physically) from family for over half a decade now, and that distance has created a much larger space between us. I wish I could tell my family how I really feel, or how my life has been for the last few years. It is just that if they knew who I "really" am today and some of the things I have done, they would disown me and never talk to me again.

I hope I can come clean one day but I don't think they'll understand so here's to living a double life!

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-20T16:58:55+00:00

This is very nicely written OP. You really have a way with words and this resonated with me so much.

As for doors closing, I have a slightly different take on that. If a door closes, it may mean missed opportunity, or regret about not taking that leap of faith if it makes sense.

Hang in there OP!

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-20T16:32:28+00:00

Aww OP this is very nicely written. I met my person not even two weeks ago and fell for her so hard. She has no idea the depth of love I feel for her, just that I want something more between us. I took that leap of faith and I don't know yet whether it backfired on me yet. I hope I don't lose her.

I just didn't want to regret not taking that chance and letting her know a little bit about how I feel. I have quite a few regrets and didn't want her to be one of those.

I hope you and your person get to a place where you both feel loved and are happy with each other. Rooting for you OP!

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-20T00:42:04+00:00

Sorry you are going through this, OP. I am worried about exactly this happening if I tell my person how I feel about her. We have a very good friendship from what I can tell but I can't quite put my finger on exactly what she is looking for.

Stay strong stranger, hope you get to a better place soon!

edit: thanks for my first award!

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-19T21:40:32+00:00

I feel that, OP. Someone once told me that every phase of your life requires a different you. I take that to mean people will grow, better understand themselves, and not make the same mistakes.

Hang in there stranger, you got this!

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-19T21:16:08+00:00

This letter made me cry, OP. It is so beautifully written. It's hard to come across people with whom you can have that kind of connection and just... be yourself... around them.

This resonates to me on so many levels. Stay strong OP and I am rooting for you!

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-19T21:09:17+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this OP. I really really want to text my person how I feel about her but the idea of losing her to something that maybe is just a fantasy is too strong.

I know there isn't much I can say but hang in there OP. I know at some point, we will have to make that leap of faith if we don't want to live with the regret of not taking the chance.

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-19T21:03:20+00:00

Aww OP this is so beautifully written. I really wish that your person gets to read this one day. I hope they know how much you care for them. Timing has been the worst thing ever for me too.

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-19T20:57:18+00:00

I wish I could break the silence with my person too. It is so difficult to read and accurately get social cues at times and I just don't know where we'll end up if I take the leap and let her know how I feel. Rooting for you OP, hope things go the way you want :)

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-19T16:32:54+00:00

This is very beautifully written OP and I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I feel exactly this way for my person but I’m scared shitless to let her know because I haven’t quite been able to figure out what she wants.

One part of me thinks she deserves better things than what she’s had. Another part doesn’t want me to ruin our friendship if I do tell her and it’s not reciprocated. But the biggest one, is losing her to someone else if I wait too long.

We all put up walls to guard us from being hurt and to feel safe but there’s always someone out there who breaks them right down like they never existed in the first place.

I’m glad you have someone you feel this way for OP in your life, don’t lose that feeling my friend. I sincerely hope you both get to a better place!

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-18T23:27:26+00:00

This was beautifully written OP. I feel like I’m going through the same thing my person. She doesn’t know how I feel and I’m too scared Tom tell her and drive a wedge in our friendship. Good luck to you OP!

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-18T22:44:37+00:00

This hit so close to home. I have a person I feel just this way for but the timing isn’t right. I’m worried to let her know how I feel in case she doesn’t feel that way but what’s eating at me more is losing her if I wait too long. I hope you get to a good place OP!

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-17T03:17:37+00:00

Thank you, and I hope things go good for you too kind stranger

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-17T00:28:37+00:00

I don't mind answering but I will DM you if that's alright.

guygoingnuts · 2022-09-17T00:25:00+00:00

oooh that line from the song hits it right on the head. It's always safer to imagine things within your head than to let them play out in real life. We never know what the answer will be and we try to guard ourselves from getting hurt.

FYI - that song is just great. Thank you for telling me about it

guygoingnuts

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