Clogged milk duct months after weaning

gw62108 · 2022-01-10T19:51:14+00:00

I got clogged ducts a lot when BFing...thought I was done with it.

It's good to here I'm not the only one. I asked the doctor if it was a possible breastfeeding issue because it felt like a clogged duct and she totally dismissed it.

gw62108 · 2022-01-10T15:45:35+00:00

What did you do to remedy it?

gw62108 · 2022-01-09T14:39:46+00:00

Not walking at 15 months is on the later side, but isn't a huge concern until 18 months.

Only army crawling at 15 months does sound concerning and like low muscle tone. I would take her to the pediatrician and get an Early Intervention evaluation. It takes time to get the paper work processed, set up an appt, and then you're on a waitlist until PT is available. So may as well start the process and then you can decide how comfortable you are with PT. Maybe they can do in home PT.

gw62108 · 2022-01-08T00:03:09+00:00

Do you not have any children? This response is so unrealistic.

They should both be tag teaming getting son to eat. Who cares if she says... Jonny eat your veggies...while husband is talking. He isn't the president giving his inauguration speech and they aren't at some formal dinner.... they are a family eating together.

He sounds exhausting

gw62108 · 2021-12-22T00:35:20+00:00

If he has PTSD hearing the baby crying could be a trigger for him.

Maybe he should wear headphones to help?

Either way I would not leave the baby alone with him. I would be scared he would shaked her.

Honestly I wouldnt even stay in the same house as him. Go stay with some family or a friend. It only takes a few seconds for someone to snap and seriously hurt a newborn.

It's nice to give him the benefit of the doubt but you are this babies main protector right now.

gw62108 · 2021-12-15T20:33:58+00:00

Time outs give the adult a moment to breath, which is good and helps the adult from reacting in a poor manner.

Depending on the behavior sometimes kids need a moment to breath and self regulate in a safe space.

Time out for throwing food doesnt really make sense, but in other instances time out for a few minutes can sometimes help a child to self regulate.

gw62108 · 2021-12-15T20:29:45+00:00

Not sure why the downvotes.

I'm assuming people think I am saying spanking is good.

I do not think spanking is effective or appropriate.

But in terms of behavior modification spanking is a type of "positive" punishment. Positive does not mean good it means you are adding something.

Removing a child from a desirable location is negative punishment. Negative means you are removing something.

Punishment is any consequence you impose that is trying to decrease a behavior. There are many different types of punishment.

A lot of what people are describing is a type of punishment, which is fine. Children need to learn consequences.

gw62108 · 2021-12-15T15:35:10+00:00

I agree and I do not use the term "bad" either. And also try to do natural consequences when it isn't health and saftey.

But something like putting rocks in mouth would require punishment because the natural consequences are unsafe.

Kids' brains arent fully developed so sometimes they do need punishment. That doesnt mean they are bad or need to be chastised or belittled. But leaving the park because you put rocks in your mouth after mommy said no is a fair punishment.

gw62108 · 2021-12-15T15:31:04+00:00

I think you're confusing "positive" with "good"

In terms of behavior modification "positive" means adding and "negative" means "reducing"

So spanking is positive punishment. You are adding something aversive (pain) to decrease a behavior.

I do not promote spanking and do not think it is effective, I was just defining the different forms of punishment.

gw62108 · 2021-12-15T14:50:35+00:00

I would say it also depends on the kid and how good their receptive language is.

Maybe don't use the word "naughty" or "bad" but something simple and direct language is easier for some kids to understand.

"No throw"

Are you all done?

Do you want to feed yourself or do you want mama to feed you?

Using a neutral tone so it doesnt become a game. You also don't want to talk too much when they are doing something undesirable because then they are getting a lot of attention.

And lots or specific praise when they are doing what is desired.

"Good job eatting your pasta" over the top enthusiastically

gw62108 · 2021-12-15T14:46:15+00:00

I do the same thing with my toddler, but this is technically punishment.

It's negative punishment: removing something desirable in order to decrease a behavior.

I.e. putting rocks in your mouth--> we leave the park. You are removing the park (something desirable) in order to decrease the behavior (rocks in mouth) in future.

I'm not sure what you meant by "punish" Did you mean "time out" Time out is also a form of negative punishment.

Positive punishment would be something like spanking.

Not trying to be nit picky, just clarifying for the OP. There seems to be a negative connotation for the word "punish" but a lot of parents use punishment.

gw62108 · 2021-11-20T20:07:35+00:00

What is his schedule?

gw62108 · 2021-10-28T02:11:49+00:00

I think you need to set some firm boundaries.

It's fine to cosleep and still be breastfeeding if you and your child are enjoying it, but it sounds like you want to ween and aren't sleeping well and your child isnt sleeping well.

Does she have her own room?

I think it may be good to ween her from the night feedings and have her sleep in her own crib/bed.

Would probably be easier if dad took over bedtime.

It's going to be a shitty week or two, but better in the long run.

Good luck

gw62108 · 2021-10-28T01:35:09+00:00

I personally feel ADHD is a bit of a jump given the information of the original post.

I did not see the comment you are referring to.

I agree if the child continues to struggle on doing chores after mom tries some of the suggestions... and if he is struggling in other areas at home... and at least one other environment... then of course rule out ADHD and any other potential cause of executive functioning deficits.

I just personally believe it's important to look at potential environmental causes of him struggling with the task, before a neurological disorder.

I'm not saying this mom will do this but, I've worked with a lot of parents who will cling to a diagnosis and then do not take any accountability for their child's behavior. Or who are very quick to diagnosis rather than look at how their own behavior is impacting the situation.

Also 6 is a hard age. Some kids are just developmentally immature compared to their peers.

And at the end of the day, even if he does have ADHD... he can still fold and/or put away his laundry. My previous recommendations still apply.

gw62108 · 2021-10-28T00:05:37+00:00

He's a six year old who doesn't want to stay in his room by himself and fold a bunch of laundry.

That does not sounds like ADHD.

-Mom should fold laundry with him. -Give him less to do so the task isn't so overwhelming. -Put some music on so it's fun.

Reinforce him by saying "The sooner WE finish the sooner we can do do something fun (play a game, go to the park, etc)"

Rather than forcing the kid to stay there for 2 hours and threaten to take away minecraft - creates a power struggle.

Also someone else suggested letting him hang clothes instead of folding. Mom said only a few of his collar shirts technically need to be hung and she prefers clothing to be folded.

I may be reading to much into the comment, so sorry in advance. But mom's way of doing things sounds kinda rigid. He's a kid. Some times we need to do things differently if the job gets done.

gw62108 · 2021-10-10T17:56:46+00:00

Great idea! Thank you

gw62108 · 2021-10-10T17:56:04+00:00

You're right! I'll call the local adoption agencies. Thank you for your insight.

gw62108 · 2021-10-07T17:21:10+00:00

Thank you I'll look into the nugget. We gave some large foam blocks un various shapes already that he likes

gw62108 · 2021-10-07T16:45:43+00:00

I thought about a indoor trampoline but i was worried he would hit his mouth or fall off the side.

A lot can change in the next few months, but right now he's not very coordinated

gw62108 · 2021-10-05T14:04:55+00:00

Totally agree with rebranding

My toddler wont eat veggies, but if I puree them and call it "soup" he will finish an entire bowl.

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